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I'm a lesbian, however I can definitely not tell my parents. I am having a tough time not telling them. Based on my interaction with a psychologist it feels like a bad idea talking to anyone. I live in a third world country and being a homosexual is not as accepted. I could use some advice on how to deal with all of this.

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Hey @Kay_shiv

Welcome to our community. I'm one of the digital mentors here and I give advice and support to those who reach out to us 🙂

I'm grateful that you have come to us for advice, and opening up will help you out a lot. It's interesting that your interaction with a psychologist has made you feel like it's a bad idea talking to anyone. Can you tell me a little bit more about this, please? 

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Hey,

Thank you for telling me that; I'm surprised to hear that your therapist has said that to you. Therapists are supposed to keep their personal beliefs regarding same sex relationships to themselves, as saying such things can have a negative impact on the emotional health of their clients. Have you thought about telling someone about this, maybe at the centre they work at? Also, how are you feeling about everything else, like your sexuality, at the moment? 

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Hey,

Yeah, I totally get why you would feel that way. When we are going through a hard time, it's easy to compare our lives to those of others and wish to be more like them so things are easier. Can I ask, what do you think you could do to try and make your life less complicated? 

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Hey @Kay_shiv

Ah, okay. For some people, coming out can put them in danger. For example, if you live in a country where it's illegal to be LGBTQ+, coming out could mean that you end up in jail. Also, it could be that there's a risk of being abused or kicked out for coming out, so in those kinds of situations, it's best to wait until you can move out and make sure you're safe before telling people. What do you think? Can I ask, when you say it's not a good idea to tell them, what do you think might happen?

 

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While talking about a completely unrelated topic, my father said "I don't belive in psychologists. people just don't in god or they are too weak to control their minds." So I feel like he will either kick me out of the house, or get me married to a random guy I never met( if I feel like that would happen I would voluntarily leave), or just think I'm crazy. I am not crazy and not much of an optimist either. 

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Hey @Kay_shiv

Yeah, I completely get why you feel sad, angry, and scared. Even if it does upset him when you first tell him, do you think he will be able to become more accepting over time? Parents have such a strong attachment to their children, and the love they have for them is very powerful in helping them to become more accepting and open-minded about something that they might not like. What do you reckon?

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