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  1. This post has been flagged with warnings, as follows: Other
  2. i have no idea if i’m bisexual or lesbian. i was very comfortable with my bi label until i started questioning…. do i actually like men? if u asked me even a year ago i would give you a definite yes. now- idk. cause like women. they’re just so- wow. and beautiful and amazing. and men are gross. but not all men- there are a couple exceptions. but those exceptions are basically just guys with the manners and cleanliness and personality of a somewhat nice girl yk. and if we start talking about physical appearance/ attraction there’s probably one man i like for every 100 women. they’re just so soft and gorgeous and perfect. also if i look up “hot women” i will find 90% of the women that come up really attractive but if i do the same with “hot men” it’s all just pictures of guys with rock hard abs which i find really unappealing and unattractive personally. don’t even get me started on dicks. they’re disgusting. every time see or think of one i physically revolt. just ew. the thing is, i’ve never been in a relationship with either gender. hell- i haven’t even romantically kissed anyone smh. so how will i know for sure? another thing: yk in nicks bisexual awakening scene from heartstopper? when he was watching pirates of the carribean? so when i watched that i didn’t think will turner or jack sparrow were attractive. sorry- yes they’re objectively attractive but what i mean is that i wasn’t attracted to them. elizabeth swan on the other hand…. perfection. practically drooling over her every time she was on screen. also i can count the amount of male celeb crushes i have on my fingers but the list of female ones is wayyy too long for that. something i forgot to mention is i did a bunch of “am i bi or lesbian” quizzes and most of them said lesbian so yeah. i’m pretty sure i’m 95% lesbian with some rooms for perfect guys. BUT also i sometimes feel like i’m making it up. cause i don’t think i’d mind being in a relationship with a boy, i mean some are nice. so am i just bi and looking for attention? but then again i’m not looking for attention cause i’m not actually telling anyone. either way i’m alone so i might as well broaden my dating pool by a bit lol?
  3. I am in a slight anxiety induced fear coma thing right now because I haven't been able to figure out my sexuality. I have a boyfriend who I have no clue how he'd react but I feel like i need to learn this about myself. I have a general aspect of what it may be but I haven't been able to pin it down no matter how hard I think on it. And I am not going to be unfaithful to my bf and try things out with new people because the guilt would eat me alive.
  4. This post has been flagged with warnings, as follows: Sex
  5. I'm really confused and don't know if I actually like girls and feel attracted to them or if I just think they're pretty or jealous. Do you have any tips or suggestions on how to know the difference? I have a boyfriend do I can't really experiment..
  6. Laura23

    I’m curious

    I know that I’m a Demi sexual lesbian but sometimes there are these moments where my brain just sees a random guy and is just like "I mean he’s cute, are you attracted to him?" And my brain just fires off into overthinking thinking things. It’s gotten to the point where I’m just confused a lot and start questioning all over again, Any thoughts?
  7. When I first started questioning my sexuality, I was 13, and felt very alone. I was too scared to tell anyone, not necessarily because I would face homophobia, but more because I was so worried that it was just a phase. I worried that I was only questioning because I had lots of gay friends, I was worried that I didn't have enough "evidence" to qualify for any label other than straight, and I was worried that people wouldn't believe me, and would think I was just attention seeking. And for a long time, I thought this was just me.That was until I found the Ditch the Label forum. After reading some of the chat forums and seeing how similar my thoughts were to others in similar situations, I realised that my crisis wasn't unusual, but rather something that a lot of young people go through. What I've learnt is that you don't need hard evidence to be a valid part of the LGBTQ+ community. You don't need to prove your feelings or attraction to anyone. On my way to accepting myself, I had to realise that both possible outcomes were okay; it would be okay if it WAS just a phase, and I turned out straight, and it would also be 100% okay if it wasn't a phase, and I really was bisexual. I eventually came to the realisation that I am bisexual (I realised that straight girls probably don't lie awake at night thinking about kissing other girls lol). Something that made me doubt my sexuality for such a long time was the fact that I couldn't really remember ever having been attracted to girls when I was younger. In a lot of stories I've heard of people realising their same sex attraction, people look back and realise that a friend that they were really close to as a kid...they maybe liked more than just a friend. But I didn't have any of that. This bothered me a lot until I realised that bisexuality can be as simple as realising your potential to be in a relationship with multiple genders. For me, I grew up in a very catholic family/school and didn't even know what the word lesbian was until I moved up to secondary school. I didn't know of any same sex relationships in my widespread family or in the media, I was not exposed to any representation at all. The option of being with a girl wasn't even open to me; I was taught that girls could only have platonic relationships with each other. So, moving to an all girls secondary school, and having lots of gay friends opened this option up to me, and I realised that I had the potential inside of me to be with any gender. I didn't have a moment when I was suddenly attracted to women, I just realised that I knew I had that potential (which stressed me out so much because I thought it didn't count).Everyone's experience is different and sexuality is FLUID. Maybe, like me, for you it was something that came when you were older. Maybe you can look back in your childhood and see examples of when you were attracted to the same gender that you didn't realise at a time. Both are valid! And you don't need to label your sexuality either, if you don't want to. That's okay too! It's all okay. You are valid :) <3
  8. Ellie S

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    My name is Ellie. I am 13 years old, a scorpio, use she/her/hers pronouns, and I love to read. I started college this past year, and my friends that I had before don't treat me the same as they used to, and they make me feel bad for getting excited about school or vacations. I am a part of the LGBTQIA+ community, but I don't know which labels best define me, and I don't know if I am bi, omni, or lesbian, and all I know is that I like girls. I am in love with my best friend, who is two years older than me, and is pan. I am very active in my church youth group, and that's where I know most of my friends from. I get really bad social anxiety, and I overthink everything.
  9. Hi, I (19F) have recently started questioning my sexuality and it's been really confusing. I've always liked boys but lately, I've been open to other genders aside from men. I'm having a really hard time embracing who I am because I don't live in the most accepting home. A part of me has been suppressing these feelings for years because I don't any of my relationships around me to change. On a slightly lighter note, I just finished my first year of university, I used to be a dancer, I live in Canada, and I want to be a doctor someday!
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  11. In the past I have questioned my sexuality, and came to the conclusion that I was just straight and just overthinking. Recently, I think I have developed a crush on one of my best friends, who is the same sex as me. One of my other friends, and the only one I have told about it, said I could be Asexual, or Demiromantic, as I have never had a crush before. I have taken lots of quizzes on it, and they have all said things like 30% Demi, 50% Demi, Aegoromantic, and Cupioromantic. No results came out as straight, but the tests aren’t always right so that makes me super confused. The person I think I have a crush on is Bi, but has a big crush on a boy. It makes me feel quite sad when she talks about him, and that just adds to the confusion. I really think the feelings are genuine, but I’m still unsure as to whether my brain is just making it up. Sorry if it’s really confusing to read- it’s the only way I could think of putting the feelings into words. Any advice would be appreciated ㋛
  12. I've always thought I was your typical straight guy, all my friends were straight and I went to a very heteronormative all boys' high school for a while, so we basically talked about girls a lot of the time. I used to look at other guys and imagine scenarios hanging out with them, or thinking they were attractive. I thought this was normal for ages but my friends gave me weird looks and disagreed when I finally decided to bring it up. As I got a little older, I started crushing on one of my guy friends and even had a dream about kissing him, which scared the shit out of me. I'd always assumed I was 100% straight - I've always had crushes on girls and my only ever relationship had been with a girl. I thought it was just a weird psychological kind of thing and ended up isolating myself from him. I tried to pretend us falling out of contact was a natural thing, but I don't think it was. I lost all my friends, and I convinced myself I was in the wrong. It was impossible to be social, I couldn’t be around them - around him - without my head swimming. I didn’t know what was wrong with me and I was scared. I moved to a co-ed school for my last year of high school, where the LGBTQ+ community was way more accepted. I found it really hard to make friends with the typical 'straight nerds' I'd been hanging out with all my life prior to that point, and ended up falling into a group of artsy students who were all part of the LGBTQ+ community. I didn't think I'd be able to hang out with them, as I didn't have much in common with any of them. The opposite happened. I ended up being 'adopted' into the group as their 'pet straight dude' and it was a really honest and rewarding relationship with all of them. They were very different than I was used to, but eventually that became a good thing, and I regret I only had a year to be… more honest with myself around them? I never asked them about my sporadic attraction to guys because at the time, I was still 100% convinced that was just a confusion and that I was very much straight. Recently I moved away from home in New Zealand to the UK: most of my parents’ family is over here, and I’m planning to go to university here in September. I recently found out that Netflix were releasing a show called Heartstopper that a lot of my friends back home in New Zealand were posting about on Instagram and recommending. I watched it the night it came out and it kind of… unlocked something? I’ve always been a sucker for romance, but this was different. Watching the first ‘kiss scene’ I was like ‘oh shit, I am a lot gayer than I thought I was’ and I don’t know how to feel about it. I haven’t had a relationship since the one time I dated a girl in Year 9 - nearly five years ago. Is this just a side-effect of not having a proper relationship? Am I just projecting this thing for guys onto myself out of loneliness? I still like girls, I think. I haven’t had an actual crush in two years, but I’m still attracted to girls physically. I’ve not told this to anyone I know. I don’t know where this has come from or where I stand. I don’t even know what this feeling is called! I don’t think I’m gay, but I am honestly not sure anymore. Just… throwing this anonymously onto the Internet in the hope somebody will read it, or maybe even help me understand what is happening to me. Also, Heartstopper is a fantastic show. I absolutely recommend it. Thanks in advance, Jeb
  13. I have only dated and been sexually involved with men my whole life. I have always found women attractive, but I don’t think sexually attractive. I have kissed women a few times and it was nice. I’m having trouble determining how I feel, which I know a complete stranger can’t do for me. I’m physically attracted to both men and women, but only sexually attracted to men.. I know this is normal in most cases, but just would like some in-site! Thank you :) my name is Hannah btw (she, her)
  14. Hi! My name is Jess and I'm from the UK. My pronouns are either she/her or she/them (I'm not sure yettt). I love nature and animals, I like to crochet, I love music (indie and rock) and I practice electric guitar and bass in a beginner band. I don't have any pets currently but I'd love to have some :). I'm here because I'm confused (hence the username haha) about my sexuality and a little bit about my pronouns and I think it would be nice to talk to people about it and any shared interests! Thank you :)
  15. Ever since I met my current friend group in September they have dropped hints that they thought I was bisexual, or queer in general. I always vehemently denied their assertions and it frankly made me angry that they felt they knew me better than I know myself. Then, on Saturday night I got drunk with this friend group and I started flirting with girls at a club which was unusual for me. Normally I would be more interested in flirting with guys but I had just gotten out of a situationship with a guy and I really didn't want to talk to any more men. It felt right to flirt with girls, mind you I was drunk, but at the same time I was embarrassed that I wanted to do it at all. The other thing is that since arriving at university I haven't enjoyed any sexual experiences I've had with men. I thought it was normal to dislike things like kissing until I opened up to my friends and they told me they like kissing even with boys they don't find to be extremely attractive. That definitely got me thinking about my sexuality and whether its more complicated than I initially anticipated. I'm not really sure where to go from here. I definitely want to take a break from talking to men but I also don't know how to figure everything else out. My friends are super supportive but I'm just not there yet, I still feel so overwhelmed.
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