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Hihi I am sorry if I hadn't posted in while school juct came back in session last week and I have been swamped... I also told me two girl friends that I was bi and they were fine with it they actually celebrated! (I was overthinking coming out) I have been wanting to tell my one guy friend (who I really trust) but i feel like it will be akward I wanted to know if anyone had any advice on how to come out to a guy. I still haven't told my family that I'm bi so that's next on the list (after I tell my guy friend) Thanks!! @sflowergirl

Hiiiiii. Im 22 years old and a gay man :). I’ve been struggling for awhile to come out to my parents. Im not exactly sure why because they’re accepting, liberal, and have said I can love whoever I want. I’ve been out to all my friends for years and I came out to my sister two years ago and planned to tell my parents but I just sorta stalled on that. I want to tell them asap but every time I open my mouth to tell them it’s like nothing comes out. Maybe because I’m making a big deal out of it but if anyone has advice on how I could casually bring it up that would be soooo helpful. I try to remind myself that the sooner I do it the sooner it’ll be over and the sooner we’ll live more normal lives but I just can’t get myself to say the words. Please lmk if anyone had any advice!! Thanks :)

I'm a christian for most of my adult life. But i just can't reconcile my sexuality and my faith. I just knew and accepted to myself I'm a bi just this year. I feel like I have to abandon my church life so I can live life with the woman I love. I'm not yet out and I still don't know how to do it by now. I'm already working, earning decent income but I'm really afraid what would my mom tell me if I come out. I don't know what to do.

Hi! So im BI. I've known since January and a few of my close friends know. I really want my parents to know but I am way to scared to tell them, I don't know how, or when, and I am panicking. I don't want things to change or how they see me to change. I'm not even sure if they know what lgbt+ is or how they feel about it. I don't think that they know that I know what it is. Any advice?

I’ve been thinking about my sexuality and have come to the conclusion that even if I don’t know my sexuality yet, I’m not 100% straight. Even so, I feel that I would like to tell my parents. I think they would be fine with it, but I have no idea how I would tell them. Does anyone have any advice or tips? Any would be appreciated ^^

I've known that I'm bi for a few months now, got the flag colors as butterflies cut out and put in my phone case, and am obvi an ally. My parents keep saying stuff like, "when you get married..." and they assume it'd be with a guy but I see myself with girls too. Plus, I don't even think I wanna get married. But then again, even though I know my mom should ve cool with it, her and my dad still make homophobic comments sometimes. They're rather nice to me and I don't wanna screw up what I've got. For the last few months I've been dropping little hints and they haven't seemed to care and I feel like even if they knew and supported it wouldn't be much different. So if it would be pretty much the same, why step out the comfort zone for the little freedom I get? It's not like I'd get relationship freedom bc of covid and I don't even go to in person school. In fact it may just make things awkward. But like I hear so many people so relieved from it I don't wanna be missing out on a better life. Advice on why or why not please? Thanks.

Hello everyone, I am new to this community and I joined mainly to hopefully find some people who struggle with similar things as me. You see, at the age of 13 I came out as Gay to my family. Thankfully I was blessed with an accepting family. After about 5 months I then said I was straight. It didn't end there though. because last year I said I was bisexual. Now just 2 weeks ago at the age of 23 I have definitely decided I am Gay. It is still hard for me to be aware of my feelings though, due to my Autism diagnosis and not being able to recognize what different feelings mean. Do any of you guys struggle with similar conflicts? I know I like girls I just have a hard time figuring out if I am in fact Gay. I hope I explained everything okay, I also have learning disabilities too that I can't explain things very well. If anything doesn't make sense please don't hesitate to let me know. :) -Kamy

I want to come out to my family because I am a proud bisexual, but they are really homophobic, and I don't know how they'd react. Should I come out? And if so, then how? Helpp

Hello y'all, I'm Chris and I'm 14. I'm Bi and I have a boyfriend but lately I've been wondering about my sexuality. I think I might be gay or pan but also trans, genderfluid or non-binary. I might also be polyamorous. Everything is so messed up in my head and I really don't know what to do so I'd love if someone helped or gave me some tips. Cheerz to all ya queerz, Chris

My name is Jason. I'm a 17yo trans man, still in school. I present male online and around my friends (who I am out to), obviously dressing like a typical guy on a daily basis. I'd say I probably pass for the most part as long as you don't look at my face, but that's kind of besides the point. I'm neither out to my school nor to my parents, and I wanted to fix that. The thing with my parents is that they're kind of transphobic. I can't really say how transphobic, but they've definitely made comments like "This person is a man—but that's what they want you to think" or "These boys' parents force them to be women" etc. Not to mention they're extremely enbyphobic (though that doesn't exactly concern me personally as I am a binary man—it's still wrong, obviously). Despite all this, I really really want to come out to them and I know how I want to do it (giving them a gender reveal card that says "It's a boy!" before I leave on a school trip, though I'd have to make sure they realize I'm referring to myself so they don't think I'm pregnant or something???), I'm just extremely nervous and I'm not quite sure what exactly I'd want to tell them. I don't even know if it's a good idea, but I'm willing to try. The worst they could do is simply disregard it and reprimand me about it, but I know I probably wouldn't get grounded or anything like that. I really want to start medically transitioning—at the very least get more masculine clothing than the extremely limited amount I have at the moment. For school, I just genuinely have no clue how I'd do that. My entire class isn't exactly garbage, but I wouldn't say they're all that supportive of the LGBT community. They're the "I don't really care if you're straight or gay" kind, I feel. I don't really know how the teachers would be with this cause the vast majority of them don't show their own opinions or beliefs (as that isn't allowed for teachers to do where I live). My friend suggested I e-mail our class's main teacher, but I really don't know what I'd write and what I'd want to do after coming out to literally just one teacher. I don't think she really realizes how mortifying the idea of coming out is to me though (she's ace and her own coming out went really smoothly). I'm looking for advice, maybe tips and experiences from people who have already come out as non-cis to their parents/school, and just ideas of what to say to either when I do actually come out.

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Hi, I have been questioning my sexuality and somehow I think I am bi. I told one of my closest friends about and I thought she loved me just the way I am. Boy was I wrong. She started to discuss on how I should date guys more and forget that l like girls. I felt really offended. She's saying I want to protect you from the ugly world. Yes I know this reality is messed up, but you should love me just the way I am. What should I do about her? Again my ex boyfriend says he wants to know if I am straight or lesbian. I don't know how to come out to him. I don't want to look like I want attention from him. I just want him to know who I really am. What should I do? I am already installing a mental breakdown into my brain. Please help me...