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Sometimes i feel like i am so selfish in the things i do and the things i talk about, i want to stop thinking of myself first

I know it is sometimes healthy to think of yourself first, but i think it makes me a bad friend??

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Hey there,

I think it can be really tricky to find the balance between looking after yourself and also doing things for others, and I guess it's different for everyone depending on their life situations. I find it interesting that you think it is making you a bad friend, and I'm wondering, can you tell me a little bit more about that? 

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