mars the candy bar Posted June 8, 2021 Share Posted June 8, 2021 So, just for some short backstory... I've been Pansexual for 2-3 years now. My whole family is VERY homophobic, and i just don't know how to come out. If anyone has advice, then please tell me. Thanks MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2069-hi-i-need-some-help/ Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 9, 2021 Share Posted June 9, 2021 Hey @Bee_Is_Yes Welcome to our community. I'm one of the digital mentors here and I give advice to those who reach out to us. Thank you for sharing your backstory with us. I'm sorry to hear that your whole family is very homophobic - how are you feeling about this? Before I give you advice, can I check, do you feel ready to come out? It's totally fine to wait if you don't - there really is no rush. Also, could coming out put you in danger, like getting kicked out or being abused? If so, then it's best to wait until you can move out or at least make sure you have somewhere else to stay if things become too challenging. What do you think? Let me know and then I can give you more advice. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2069-hi-i-need-some-help/#findComment-9270 Share on other sites More sharing options...
ljack280307 Posted June 11, 2021 Share Posted June 11, 2021 Hi so Im bi and the other week I told my mum and this is the third time I told her the old times she said it was just a phase. My family is also very homophobic and I find it best to bring it up for example maybe bring up a celebrity that is Pan or something just to see there reaction. If there not very happy then you don't have to come out straight away! There is no rush. If you want more help, we are here for you 1 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2069-hi-i-need-some-help/#findComment-9327 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 11, 2021 Share Posted June 11, 2021 7 hours ago, ljack280307 said: Hi so Im bi and the other week I told my mum and this is the third time I told her the old times she said it was just a phase. My family is also very homophobic and I find it best to bring it up for example maybe bring up a celebrity that is Pan or something just to see there reaction. If there not very happy then you don't have to come out straight away! There is no rush. If you want more help, we are here for you Hey @ljack280307 Thanks for offering your help to @Bee_Is_Yes - that's kind of you. It's great that you told your mum, especially with your family being very homophobic. Did she react any differently when you told her for the third time? It's pretty common for parents to react by saying that it's just a phase. Over time, by sticking to your word and showing that you're serious, the parents tend to come around to the news. So, i'm curious to know if she maybe sees it differently now it's the third time you've told her. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2069-hi-i-need-some-help/#findComment-9347 Share on other sites More sharing options...
mars the candy bar Posted June 12, 2021 Author Share Posted June 12, 2021 @ljack280307 That sounds like a great idea, and I'll try that soon. Thank you! 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2069-hi-i-need-some-help/#findComment-9382 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 12, 2021 Share Posted June 12, 2021 Let us know how it goes. We are always here to support you if you need it. 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2069-hi-i-need-some-help/#findComment-9398 Share on other sites More sharing options...
MoonieOwl Posted June 22, 2021 Share Posted June 22, 2021 On 6/11/2021 at 2:38 AM, ljack280307 said: Hi so Im bi and the other week I told my mum and this is the third time I told her the old times she said it was just a phase. My family is also very homophobic and I find it best to bring it up for example maybe bring up a celebrity that is Pan or something just to see there reaction. If there not very happy then you don't have to come out straight away! There is no rush. If you want more help, we are here for you Great advice! I am also bi and havent told anyone but I dont think I'll need to use that technique as everyone I know are most likely supportive and one of then is also bi! Oh also @Bee_Is_Yeswhen your ready to say If you are not comfortable saying it out loud than you could write it down and then go out and when you come back the peeps you told should have processed it and the topic might be easier! Thats what I will most likely do soon so when I do if you still havent come out I will report how it went! 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2069-hi-i-need-some-help/#findComment-9786 Share on other sites More sharing options...
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