Ambi Posted June 2, 2022 Share Posted June 2, 2022 I have come to the realization that I'm bisexual (yay!) but I have also realized that I suck at dating. I think I give off a really independent "undateable" vibe and I'm trying to do the opposite of that. Especially now that I know I am interested in girls as well, I don't know where to start. How do I know someone's into me? What if I start hitting on a straight girl? How to I make myself seem more...available to others? Someone with experience please help. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/4410-how-to-date/ Share on other sites More sharing options...
-Leila- Posted June 2, 2022 Share Posted June 2, 2022 6 hours ago, Ambi said: I have come to the realization that I'm bisexual (yay!) but I have also realized that I suck at dating. I think I give off a really independent "undateable" vibe and I'm trying to do the opposite of that. Especially now that I know I am interested in girls as well, I don't know where to start. How do I know someone's into me? What if I start hitting on a straight girl? How to I make myself seem more...available to others? Someone with experience please help. Hey there, I'm so pleased for you, that's a huge step!! Well done you! Firstly thank you for taking your time to tell us what you are feeling inside that's a huge step! Not knowing how to date someone is perfectly normal, when I first dated someone I was rubbish lol . Being interested in girls is normal, as well as wanting to like boys too! If someone is into you, they might show a bit of flirting towards you, their actions might differ from what they normally are around people, they might want to get to know you more or want to take you out more often! If you start hitting on a girl who is into guys, then that's normal! As, you are experiencing what it's like! Just by being you is a good way to show others that you are available, if that makes sense? Obviously if you start to like someone you can tell them you're single etc, Hugs! Xo MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/4410-how-to-date/#findComment-31642 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditch the Label Staff Blondie Posted June 2, 2022 Ditch the Label Staff Share Posted June 2, 2022 6 hours ago, Ambi said: I have come to the realization that I'm bisexual (yay!) but I have also realized that I suck at dating. I think I give off a really independent "undateable" vibe and I'm trying to do the opposite of that. Especially now that I know I am interested in girls as well, I don't know where to start. How do I know someone's into me? What if I start hitting on a straight girl? How to I make myself seem more...available to others? Someone with experience please help. Hey there! I think that a good way to remove any potential negative vibes is to firstly, know your worth and be confident in that - be really aware of what your values are in a relationship. Also, do the things that you really enjoy so you’re in environments that you thrive in. You’re going to be your truest self there, chill and happy and people will see that! MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/4410-how-to-date/#findComment-31643 Share on other sites More sharing options...
vega Posted June 3, 2022 Share Posted June 3, 2022 on topic of this, dose anyone know how to let people know that you are ready to date, lesbian, and can't let your family know? Or do I just have to live with it if it gets out? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/4410-how-to-date/#findComment-31911 Share on other sites More sharing options...
-Leila- Posted June 3, 2022 Share Posted June 3, 2022 9 minutes ago, vega said: on topic of this, dose anyone know how to let people know that you are ready to date, lesbian, and can't let your family know? Or do I just have to live with it if it gets out? Do you mean you are scared to let your family know? Sorry if I'm confusing.. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/4410-how-to-date/#findComment-31912 Share on other sites More sharing options...
vega Posted June 3, 2022 Share Posted June 3, 2022 yes, very scared. I know my mom will support me but I'm not sure about my dad and my grandpa would chase me away with a pitchfork and torch MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/4410-how-to-date/#findComment-31958 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditch the Label Staff Blondie Posted June 3, 2022 Ditch the Label Staff Share Posted June 3, 2022 42 minutes ago, vega said: yes, very scared. I know my mom will support me but I'm not sure about my dad and my grandpa would chase me away with a pitchfork and torch I know it's not ideal but if it's going to cause major issues at home (like being thrown out) then we always suggest that people to wait until they are independent. If you feel your mom would be a support, maybe you could have a private chat with her and she might be able to give you some insight on how your dad might react. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/4410-how-to-date/#findComment-31966 Share on other sites More sharing options...
vega Posted June 3, 2022 Share Posted June 3, 2022 thanks, I'm hoping to wait a little to let them know though. I have good support with my friends but I don't want anyone to know yet other then them. So should I just not date 'till I'm older? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/4410-how-to-date/#findComment-31967 Share on other sites More sharing options...
-Leila- Posted June 3, 2022 Share Posted June 3, 2022 11 minutes ago, vega said: thanks, I'm hoping to wait a little to let them know though. I have good support with my friends but I don't want anyone to know yet other then them. So should I just not date 'till I'm older? It's up to you lovely, we're here for you but do what you think is best! Hugs! MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/4410-how-to-date/#findComment-31971 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditch the Label Staff Blondie Posted June 3, 2022 Ditch the Label Staff Share Posted June 3, 2022 13 minutes ago, vega said: thanks, I'm hoping to wait a little to let them know though. I have good support with my friends but I don't want anyone to know yet other then them. So should I just not date 'till I'm older? Would it be difficult to date without telling anyone / or anyone finding out? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/4410-how-to-date/#findComment-31972 Share on other sites More sharing options...
vega Posted June 9, 2022 Share Posted June 9, 2022 yes, i think MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/4410-how-to-date/#findComment-32726 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditch the Label Staff Blondie Posted June 10, 2022 Ditch the Label Staff Share Posted June 10, 2022 9 hours ago, vega said: yes, i think That does sound like it would be difficult and potentially stressful. We're here for you and you can be your true self here. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/4410-how-to-date/#findComment-32751 Share on other sites More sharing options...
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