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Friend sends me INVITATION to a party - and I’m not invited!


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A close friend began acting distant, if not resentful, towards me, a few months ago. An insult, eye rolls, the silent treatment ensued, and I kept my distance for a few weeks for things to mellow.  Just as we begin to act somewhat normal again—texting, joking—she asks for my help: she needs an invitation embedded into an email (aka, composing an email, and dragging the image into the body). The invitation was for a party I AM NOT invited to, that she is hosting! She profusely thanked me for my help (though I’m sure anyone else with basic computer skills could have assisted with the task, like her husband!), and didn’t say another word. 
It’s too psychopathic for me to understand intentionally hurting someone—especially a FRIEND—so maliciously.

I did not give her any reaction, because I believe she was provoking, but she does know I’m mad as hell based on my ignoring her (unlike me) & body language a few days later. She cowered away. 

Is a “friend” like her even deserving of my piece of mind? Or a discussion? It feels so toxic!

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That's sooo weird, it doesn't make any sense why she would deliberately leave a friend out yet feel comfortable enough to ask you for help!!!

she doesn't sound like a good friend at all!!! i would say talk to her about it first, but then if she continues to be rude then spend your time with epeople who are more deserving of it!!

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Hey @justdoit

Welcome to our community. My name is Monsoon and I'm one of the digital mentors here. It's pretty hard to know why your friend would show you the invite and then not invite you herself. I'm wondering, why do you think she did that? Could it be that she just assumed you were coming anyway? 

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Just now, Monsoon said:

Hey @justdoit

Welcome to our community. My name is Monsoon and I'm one of the digital mentors here. It's pretty hard to know why your friend would show you the invite and then not invite you herself. I'm wondering, why do you think she did that? Could it be that she just assumed you were coming anyway? 

do you work at monsoon? and are you a bot

Keep smiling beautiful 

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21 hours ago, justdoit said:

I believe she was trying to punish me, for not being as close with her the past few months.

Hey there,

That would be a shame if it is true. I guess that at certain points, we drift away a little from our friends, and it's perfectly normal for that to happen, and not something to be punished. How are you feeling about it today? Do you think it might ge helpful to speak with her about how you feel? 

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