prolific05 Posted October 31, 2019 Share Posted October 31, 2019 Idk why do people want to block me after I met them in my classes at my community college. Ive been nice to them for two semesters. Every time I take a college break, they ignore me and block me every where on Social media. I didnt do anything wrong to them. its so annoying and irritating Why do people do stuff like that?. I don't think I would rather meet any new friends at my community college anymore because I can't deal with these students and I can't stand the way they treat me there. If My dad would've took me to see a Social Counselor, then non of this wouldn't happen. I can't wait to pass my two classes in Summer 2020 and take classes online in FA 2020 and Spring 2021 to get away from them and transfer to NCSU in fall 2021. Do people do that to you when you meet them in college? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remi Posted November 1, 2019 Share Posted November 1, 2019 Hello @prolific05 Sorry to hear you are having some difficulties making new friends. Maybe a fresh start will be good for you. Try not to think that just because you haven't had the most positive experience here that you will be unable to build strong relationships in the future. Take this as a learning curve and look at what went wrong and what could work better next time. Make sure you are respecting other people's boundaries and that they respect yours. Could you contact student services where you are now and ask to speak to someone? Remi MultiQuote Quote This Digital Mentor Account is no longer active. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prolific05 Posted November 2, 2019 Author Share Posted November 2, 2019 Yeah I can talk to a counselor at my college because Idk what to do with these students anymore MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remi Posted November 4, 2019 Share Posted November 4, 2019 Have you made an appointment to speak to your counsellor? Let us know how iti goes. We can't control other people, the only thing we are able to control is ourselves. Remi MultiQuote Quote This Digital Mentor Account is no longer active. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prolific05 Posted November 6, 2019 Author Share Posted November 6, 2019 (edited) I haven't done it yet. Idk why ppl do that. They should responding to my messages when I'm on college break, not just sit there and just read my message and not reply. It's so annoying. If I see Ashley and Kirsten at the Animezement next year, they better be nice to me when they see me. Because I didn't do nothing wrong to them Edited November 6, 2019 by prolific05 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remi Posted November 6, 2019 Share Posted November 6, 2019 Hey @prolific05 Remember to let them come to you, if they want to chat they will. How well ddo you know them, would you call them friends? Remi MultiQuote Quote This Digital Mentor Account is no longer active. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prolific05 Posted November 6, 2019 Author Share Posted November 6, 2019 I met them in Spring 2018 so I never hung out with them. I just talk to them on Social media MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prolific05 Posted November 6, 2019 Author Share Posted November 6, 2019 I met them in Spring 2018 so I never hung out with them. I just talk to them on Social media I think 2017 or 2018 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remi Posted November 11, 2019 Share Posted November 11, 2019 Okay, well maybe they don't know you well enough yet to reply on social media. You could try and focus on the frienships you already have with people at your college. What about people on your course? Remi MultiQuote Quote This Digital Mentor Account is no longer active. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prolific05 Posted November 11, 2019 Author Share Posted November 11, 2019 I met Paige in math class in Spring 2019 and she ignored me and blocked me last Month MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prolific05 Posted November 12, 2019 Author Share Posted November 12, 2019 (edited) I met Paige in math class in Spring 2019 and she ignored me and blocked me last Month We talked in Math class and she never replied on Facebook. I tried to be nice to her to get to respond so I tried calling through messenger and then she blocked me last Month Edited November 12, 2019 by prolific05 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remi Posted November 12, 2019 Share Posted November 12, 2019 Hello @prolific05 I know this is hard to hear, but they probably feel a bit overwhelmed by you contacting them on social media if you don't know them very well. If they have blocked you that is a sign that they don't want any more communication at this time and we have to respect their boundaries and not contact them until they reach out to you. I understand this can be difficult but it is the best thing for all of you. Remi MultiQuote Quote This Digital Mentor Account is no longer active. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prolific05 Posted November 12, 2019 Author Share Posted November 12, 2019 (edited) I got a rude message from B on kakaotalk I met at church and she told me not to contact her, her family and friends ever again, the next time I see her, I'm gonna knock her out. She better talking to me when she sees me. I don't care if she's mad. That's why I her friends at uncsa on instagram to see how's she doing. D***! She never answered my calls and never responded to my messages since 2015. I can do what ever I want. I don't care if it makes people uncomfortable or makes them mad. It has nothing to do with us talking to each other Edited November 12, 2019 by prolific05 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remi Posted November 12, 2019 Share Posted November 12, 2019 Hello @prolific05 I'm okay today thanks, how are you? I can hear that you are a bit annoyed right now? We both know that physical violence is never the answer. What is it that you want to say to her? If you haven't spoken for quite a few years then what do you want to say? If talking to other people makes them feel uncomfortable is it worth taking a step back and asking why it is making them feel like this and how we could approach things better in the future so we don't make them feel this way. What kind of messages are you sending? Maybe we could look at them togehter and then we could see where the communication is breaking down and try and tweak your sentences to make people feel more comfortable? How do you feel about that? Remi MultiQuote Quote This Digital Mentor Account is no longer active. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prolific05 Posted November 12, 2019 Author Share Posted November 12, 2019 Hello @prolific05 I'm okay today thanks, how are you? I can hear that you are a bit annoyed right now? We both know that physical violence is never the answer. What is it that you want to say to her? If you haven't spoken for quite a few years then what do you want to say? If talking to other people makes them feel uncomfortable is it worth taking a step back and asking why it is making them feel like this and how we could approach things better in the future so we don't make them feel this way. What kind of messages are you sending? Maybe we could look at them togehter and then we could see where the communication is breaking down and try and tweak your sentences to make people feel more comfortable? How do you feel about that? Remi Yeah that would be Kool I'll get it the messages MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prolific05 Posted November 12, 2019 Author Share Posted November 12, 2019 Do u have an email I can't send it through my phone MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remi Posted November 12, 2019 Share Posted November 12, 2019 Hey, I can't receive visitor messages right now. You can attach screenshots with the paperclip icon in the top right hand corner. Remi MultiQuote Quote This Digital Mentor Account is no longer active. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prolific05 Posted November 12, 2019 Author Share Posted November 12, 2019 [ATTACH=JSON]{"data-align":"none","data-size":"medium","data-tempid":"temp_78_1573572469803_112"}[/ATTACH]​ MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remi Posted November 12, 2019 Share Posted November 12, 2019 Sorry, that hasn't come through, why don't you try copy and pasting the words instead? MultiQuote Quote This Digital Mentor Account is no longer active. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prolific05 Posted November 12, 2019 Author Share Posted November 12, 2019 ok MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prolific05 Posted November 12, 2019 Author Share Posted November 12, 2019 (edited) i can't do it through a computer either. I just asked her when is her and siblings bdays, asked her about her cousins that live in South Korea. Asked her if her parents able to pick me up She didn't like talking on fb messenger and onliy prefer talking on the phone. She hasn't responded to me since May 2017. I tried calling her and texting her and she never replied. i sent her a text and said "I feel like I'm ignored. I noticed that we haven't talked in a while. I was hoping we could catch up because I've missed talking with you. Are you free anytime soon?" and she still didnt respond. I didnt cuss at her, or called her names or didnt say anything to offend her. one of her friends told me that she has a history of mentally ill. every time she gets repulsive, she gets sick easily. She hasn't updated her social media since June 2019 and now shes taking a break from college this semester. She can't just ditch social media and not say anything. Thats why I was worried about her and she didnt have to get all mad over it. I didn't want to blow up on her, and fuss her out because i know she wouldn't talk to me so I still say nice things to her. I deleted that rude message from her and sent her a kind and wrote " Hi, B, how are you doing today? This is the first time you texted after a long time. that's very nice of you" Edited November 12, 2019 by prolific05 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remi Posted November 13, 2019 Share Posted November 13, 2019 Hello @prolific05 Okay so, if you haven't spoken since 2017, I think this means she doesn't want to comminicate with you, and that is totally okay. She is allowed to come off social media for her own mental health and she is allowed to not reply. We have to be sensitive when trying to make new friends - some people feel overwhelmed by too much stimulation. So what we could do better in future is. Send one message - and then wait for a reply, if we don't get that reply, then we have to assume that that person isn't ready for a friendship with us and we must respect that and not send them lots of messages. Does this make sense?? Remi MultiQuote Quote This Digital Mentor Account is no longer active. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prolific05 Posted November 13, 2019 Author Share Posted November 13, 2019 Yes it makes sense MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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