_Kai_ Posted March 28, 2022 Share Posted March 28, 2022 I am trying to have people I know call me Kai because I am now Nonbinary but...my parents don't know that..and last time I told them I was Bi they reacted bad..what should I do.? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3847-identity-changing/ Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daisie Posted March 28, 2022 Share Posted March 28, 2022 1 hour ago, lKail said: I am trying to have people I know call me Kai because I am now Nonbinary but...my parents don't know that..and last time I told them I was Bi they reacted bad..what should I do.? Hey @lKail I just come across your post, I will tag our Trained Mentors in so they can reach out with some support and advice when they are available. @Monsoon & @Blondie 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3847-identity-changing/#findComment-24827 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted March 28, 2022 Share Posted March 28, 2022 11 hours ago, lKail said: I am trying to have people I know call me Kai because I am now Nonbinary but...my parents don't know that..and last time I told them I was Bi they reacted bad..what should I do.? Hey there, Okay, so they reacted badly at first, but I'm wondering, how did it go over time? Did things change? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3847-identity-changing/#findComment-24846 Share on other sites More sharing options...
_Kai_ Posted March 28, 2022 Author Share Posted March 28, 2022 No things didn't change..actually they have gotten even more homophobic (didn't know that was possible for them tbh) my mom though..when I told her I was Bi the first time she actually didn't react as bad as my dad did. Like she was calm but also had a mad tone. and told me "I was just confused or it was a phase"..but my dad just plain out told me "No" and "U can't be..they're all going to Hell..they're all sinners!" MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3847-identity-changing/#findComment-24851 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted March 29, 2022 Share Posted March 29, 2022 19 hours ago, lKail said: No things didn't change..actually they have gotten even more homophobic (didn't know that was possible for them tbh) my mom though..when I told her I was Bi the first time she actually didn't react as bad as my dad did. Like she was calm but also had a mad tone. and told me "I was just confused or it was a phase"..but my dad just plain out told me "No" and "U can't be..they're all going to Hell..they're all sinners!" Hey, That's sounds like it must have been really tough and intense for you. Do you think they believe you about your identity now, or still think that it's a phase? Also, I'm wondering, why do you think your dad has views like this? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3847-identity-changing/#findComment-25031 Share on other sites More sharing options...
_Kai_ Posted March 29, 2022 Author Share Posted March 29, 2022 Tbh I don't really know why they have such a bad view of people in the LGBTQ+ community. It maybe could be because they're all really religious? And I have brought up the topic of me getting a "boy" haircut style but they still said no and that I had to have a "female" hairstyle because I was "STRICTLY a FEMALE". :P Soooooo...yeah, coming out soon as Gay and Nonbinary is not likely. TvT MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3847-identity-changing/#findComment-25059 Share on other sites More sharing options...
_Kai_ Posted March 30, 2022 Author Share Posted March 30, 2022 Dammit..I wish I could tell my parents I was Nonbinary and that I did want a new name..I hate how they keep calling me my old name..... MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3847-identity-changing/#findComment-25241 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted March 30, 2022 Share Posted March 30, 2022 3 hours ago, lKail said: Dammit..I wish I could tell my parents I was Nonbinary and that I did want a new name..I hate how they keep calling me my old name..... Hey there, Even though it sounds like they might have a negative reaction to this news, could you still tell them? Even if they don't agree and want to follow their own way of doing things, how might it feel to just share this news about your identity anyway? I guess that, unfortunately, some parents do take a long time to process this kind of information, so by telling them, you can start that process where they come to terms with it over time. What do you think? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3847-identity-changing/#findComment-25255 Share on other sites More sharing options...
_Kai_ Posted March 30, 2022 Author Share Posted March 30, 2022 I could tell them but I think I'll just wait a couple years and maybe the year or two before I move out I'll tell em. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3847-identity-changing/#findComment-25344 Share on other sites More sharing options...
_Kai_ Posted March 30, 2022 Author Share Posted March 30, 2022 And to make it worse is that with me not telling them, I have to put my old name on my school assignments (I do online). MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3847-identity-changing/#findComment-25346 Share on other sites More sharing options...
_Kai_ Posted March 31, 2022 Author Share Posted March 31, 2022 Also my dad said maybe next week on my moms day off I could get a haircut but it has to be to the shoulders or it could be a little above, but I might not even try tbh..like I don't want a haircut I don't want. But just in case I do want a little haircut for now, I'll keep searching for one that I like/love. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3847-identity-changing/#findComment-25397 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted March 31, 2022 Share Posted March 31, 2022 10 hours ago, lKail said: Also my dad said maybe next week on my moms day off I could get a haircut but it has to be to the shoulders or it could be a little above, but I might not even try tbh..like I don't want a haircut I don't want. But just in case I do want a little haircut for now, I'll keep searching for one that I like/love. Hey, How does it feel when you put your old name on the assignments? Also, have you been able to find a new haircut yet? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3847-identity-changing/#findComment-25450 Share on other sites More sharing options...
_Kai_ Posted March 31, 2022 Author Share Posted March 31, 2022 I found some that I kinda like last night, and honestly I hate that I have to use my old name..but I do have to live with it till I come out..so yay this for a couple years MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3847-identity-changing/#findComment-25464 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted April 1, 2022 Share Posted April 1, 2022 14 hours ago, lKail said: I found some that I kinda like last night, and honestly I hate that I have to use my old name..but I do have to live with it till I come out..so yay this for a couple years Hey there, That's tough; I completely get that. I'm wondering, are there little things you can do to make it better, like using your new name in your head, and maybe using it here as well if you aren't already? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3847-identity-changing/#findComment-25498 Share on other sites More sharing options...
_Kai_ Posted April 1, 2022 Author Share Posted April 1, 2022 I am starting to use it more, and yeah online I use Kai just as my name like anybody would :P :D MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3847-identity-changing/#findComment-25527 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted April 2, 2022 Share Posted April 2, 2022 13 hours ago, lKail said: I am starting to use it more, and yeah online I use Kai just as my name like anybody would :P :D That's great. How does it feel for you when you get to use your real name, Kai? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3847-identity-changing/#findComment-25557 Share on other sites More sharing options...
_Kai_ Posted April 2, 2022 Author Share Posted April 2, 2022 Like the birth name? 0-0 TvT MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3847-identity-changing/#findComment-25575 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted April 3, 2022 Share Posted April 3, 2022 11 hours ago, lKail said: Like the birth name? 0-0 TvT Hey, No, the one you're using now, the new name :) MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3847-identity-changing/#findComment-25586 Share on other sites More sharing options...
_Kai_ Posted April 3, 2022 Author Share Posted April 3, 2022 Oooooo, well it honestly feels amazing because I can be my actual true self when I do use it. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3847-identity-changing/#findComment-25599 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted April 4, 2022 Share Posted April 4, 2022 21 hours ago, lKail said: Oooooo, well it honestly feels amazing because I can be my actual true self when I do use it. Hey, Yeah, I bet. You can be your full, true self here and we love having you as part of the community. How are you feeling about everything at the moment? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3847-identity-changing/#findComment-25623 Share on other sites More sharing options...
_Kai_ Posted April 4, 2022 Author Share Posted April 4, 2022 Well currently I'm thriving because nothing bad has at least happened :D MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3847-identity-changing/#findComment-25646 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted April 5, 2022 Share Posted April 5, 2022 18 hours ago, lKail said: Well currently I'm thriving because nothing bad has at least happened :D That's great to hear :) Would you like anymore support with this, or are you good? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3847-identity-changing/#findComment-25671 Share on other sites More sharing options...
_Kai_ Posted April 5, 2022 Author Share Posted April 5, 2022 I'm good for now, thanks. :D 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3847-identity-changing/#findComment-25680 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted April 6, 2022 Share Posted April 6, 2022 17 hours ago, lKail said: I'm good for now, thanks. :D Great. Take care and speak soon. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3847-identity-changing/#findComment-25711 Share on other sites More sharing options...
_Kai_ Posted April 6, 2022 Author Share Posted April 6, 2022 Alr I will. :3 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3847-identity-changing/#findComment-25730 Share on other sites More sharing options...
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