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Am I bi or just Overthinking?


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On 12/23/2021 at 5:46 AM, Monsoon said:

Hey there,

I’m going to jump in here and reply instead of Blondie if that’s okay? :)

I’m glad to hear you’re feeling better lately. Is there anything you’d like support then with for now, or are you good? 

Oh my god! i'm so sorry i have been active lately. I've been trying to figure things out in the last couple of months and I'm glad reading through these someone else may have found the support they need, Ik its been months since I've replied but thankyou for replying it's nice to know im not the only one. I'm actually doing ok rn. I can feel the burn out coming on as I'm entering my last two years of high school everything is kinda going on but i'm still a better place than I was last year. I came out to my neighbour the other day (on my birthday actually) and she was rlly cool about it, I knew she would be and tbh I think she figured it out ages ago. Recently I've been into this girl that was in all of my classes last year I dont see her much nowadays. I almost came out to my mum the other day and i think she would be okay with it i guess but somewhat a little disapointed if that makes sense. Idk i used to think she would be 100% fine with it but she made a comment last year after i started dropping hints that she hopes I marry a guy and it kinda is still stuck and replays in my head over and over. Ik my dad wouldnt mind at all but I don't live with him and I worried if i come out to my parents they may tell my whole family and thats just alot at once. I'm still only out to a group of firends at school and my one nieghbour. I haven't told my brother although i think he would be cool with it. He does slur tho cause he and thinks it's no big deal which does bother me sometimes. There are times when I just want to tell my mum as we r rlly close tbh. But I'm just worried it's gonna hurt me more than make me relived. Sorry gone off on a tangent.  For now I'm doing okay I just wish I knew for sure It wouldn't end badly. Again I'm so sorry for not replying but thankyou so much guys.:) I hope that anyone else in the same boat, is doing well and following their heart xx I'm going to try to be more active from now on;)

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On 3/18/2022 at 9:26 AM, ConfusedandFruity? said:

Oh my god! i'm so sorry i have been active lately. I've been trying to figure things out in the last couple of months and I'm glad reading through these someone else may have found the support they need, Ik its been months since I've replied but thankyou for replying it's nice to know im not the only one. I'm actually doing ok rn. I can feel the burn out coming on as I'm entering my last two years of high school everything is kinda going on but i'm still a better place than I was last year. I came out to my neighbour the other day (on my birthday actually) and she was rlly cool about it, I knew she would be and tbh I think she figured it out ages ago. Recently I've been into this girl that was in all of my classes last year I dont see her much nowadays. I almost came out to my mum the other day and i think she would be okay with it i guess but somewhat a little disapointed if that makes sense. Idk i used to think she would be 100% fine with it but she made a comment last year after i started dropping hints that she hopes I marry a guy and it kinda is still stuck and replays in my head over and over. Ik my dad wouldnt mind at all but I don't live with him and I worried if i come out to my parents they may tell my whole family and thats just alot at once. I'm still only out to a group of firends at school and my one nieghbour. I haven't told my brother although i think he would be cool with it. He does slur tho cause he and thinks it's no big deal which does bother me sometimes. There are times when I just want to tell my mum as we r rlly close tbh. But I'm just worried it's gonna hurt me more than make me relived. Sorry gone off on a tangent.  For now I'm doing okay I just wish I knew for sure It wouldn't end badly. Again I'm so sorry for not replying but thankyou so much guys.:) I hope that anyone else in the same boat, is doing well and following their heart xx I'm going to try to be more active from now on;)

Hey there,

It's good to hear that you're doing okay right now and I'm glad it went well coming out to your neighbour. I'm glad your dad wouldn't mind coming out and I can imagine this must be comforting for you. I'm thinking, even if you don't get the reaction you hoped for from your mother at first, do you think it will probably get better with time? 

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1 hour ago, Monsoon said:

Hey there,

It's good to hear that you're doing okay right now and I'm glad it went well coming out to your neighbour. I'm glad your dad wouldn't mind coming out and I can imagine this must be comforting for you. I'm thinking, even if you don't get the reaction you hoped for from your mother at first, do you think it will probably get better with time? 

I think once i do even if it doesn't go well at first then yeah it will get better overtime I just have to find the courage I guess.

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22 hours ago, ConfusedandFruity? said:

I think once i do even if it doesn't go well at first then yeah it will get better overtime I just have to find the courage I guess.

Hey,

Yeah, definitely; coming out can be quite nerve-wracking and means taking a leap of faith. Just remember, the love that parents have for their children is so strong and can be such a force in helping someone to become more open-minded and accepting :) 

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On 3/20/2022 at 9:23 PM, Monsoon said:

Hey,

Yeah, definitely; coming out can be quite nerve-wracking and means taking a leap of faith. Just remember, the love that parents have for their children is so strong and can be such a force in helping someone to become more open-minded and accepting :) 

Mmm I really do hope this is how it turns out for me I think it should be okay even if it takes time. 🤞Like you said just means taking a leap of faith at some point :). 

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7 hours ago, ConfusedandFruity? said:

Mmm I really do hope this is how it turns out for me I think it should be okay even if it takes time. 🤞Like you said just means taking a leap of faith at some point :). 

Exactly, yeah, and I know you will be able to do it! How are you feeling about everything now?

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On 3/23/2022 at 4:56 AM, Monsoon said:

Exactly, yeah, and I know you will be able to do it! How are you feeling about everything now?

Honestly still nervous but better. I’m not as worried about it all :). I don’t think I’m ready just yet but I know when I am I’ll be okay to go ahead and do it☺️

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Hey,

I’m glad you’re feeling better; just remember, those nerves are completely normal and expected as part of this process. Would you like support with anything else at the moment? 

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On 12/14/2021 at 12:30 AM, ConfusedandFruity? said:

I've been attracted to guys my whole life but recently I've been thinking about having a relationship with someone of the same sex (not someone in particular just in general). I like the idea of being in a relationship with both male and females and I identify as Bi (I've only come out to a handful of people). But I'm worried that my brain it faking it, like it does with a lot of things. I've struggle with my mental health in the past and always had to battle my own head to say my problems and the things I'm dealing with are legit. But this feels like another level. Coming out is a big thing and my friends have been so supportive. Most of the time I'm fine and feel great about being Bi but other times my head questions it.  Don't get me wrong I'm fine with being bi, in fact I think its great but my head says you can't go back now. And honestly thinking about being in a relationship with someone of the same sex makes me happy, but theres a voice that says "thats just cause you want to be friends." To me I'm bi, but I'm scared people are gonna be like oh no your not or I'm straight but I've thought about it before, your just straight. I have been thinking about it for months and honestly I'm sure  I am,. But I've never dated anyone (male or female). Anyone have any advice? Or similar stories to share :).🙃

I know you posted this awhile ago, but (I’m not even joking) I’m in the exact same situation right now. Did it ever get better for you?

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On 3/28/2022 at 5:55 AM, StupidGenius said:

I know you posted this awhile ago, but (I’m not even joking) I’m in the exact same situation right now. Did it ever get better for you?

Yeah actually. But it took some time. I spent quite a while just trying to figure myself out and I still am today. At the end of the day you should just stick with whatever feels good. I now identify as Bisexual I do still question  it sometimes but tbh In my experience ( which isn’t a lot) it’s just one of those things that get better overtime.  I’m now out to a group of friends which actually helped me take a step forwards into understanding my sexuality.  If it makes you happy then stick to your gut :) it might suck for a little bit whilst you try to figure it out  but now I’m on better terms with where I’m at and doing well. The only peice of advice I can give you is to do what ever makes you HAPPY don’t worry too much about whether it changes in the further cause in reality it doesn’t matter if it changes. Just if you doing well now ;) Hope your doing okay 😊

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On 3/25/2022 at 2:34 AM, Monsoon said:

Hey,

I’m glad you’re feeling better; just remember, those nerves are completely normal and expected as part of this process. Would you like support with anything else at the moment? 

No actually I’m doing okay!! Thankyou so much for all your help :) 

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1 hour ago, ConfusedandFruity? said:

Yeah actually. But it took some time. I spent quite a while just trying to figure myself out and I still am today. At the end of the day you should just stick with whatever feels good. I now identify as Bisexual I do still question  it sometimes but tbh In my experience ( which isn’t a lot) it’s just one of those things that get better overtime.  I’m now out to a group of friends which actually helped me take a step forwards into understanding my sexuality.  If it makes you happy then stick to your gut :) it might suck for a little bit whilst you try to figure it out  but now I’m on better terms with where I’m at and doing well. The only peice of advice I can give you is to do what ever makes you HAPPY don’t worry too much about whether it changes in the further cause in reality it doesn’t matter if it changes. Just if you doing well now ;) Hope your doing okay 😊

This is a relief to here because, honestly, it really freaked me out when I started questioning my sexuality. And even though it’s only been like two weeks, I’m doing better and now (at least in my head) identify as bi. Thanks for giving me hope!! ❤️ 

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On 4/1/2022 at 9:47 AM, StupidGenius said:

This is a relief to here because, honestly, it really freaked me out when I started questioning my sexuality. And even though it’s only been like two weeks, I’m doing better and now (at least in my head) identify as bi. Thanks for giving me hope!! ❤️ 

I’m glad your feeling better!! Goodluck 💕

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Okay, This is just a neutral vision from me, honestly, It doesn't really matter if you overthink if your bi or a different sexuallity, But before I became Non-Binary, I looked into more of it and realized that I was apart of that structure. So that's where I am now.

I'm not saying you should look more into of being bi to better get a view of the entire thing, Just...Try to believe your bi and then you'll be good from there :)

 

(Sorry if I'm being rude T^T)

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2 hours ago, asdfgf said:

Hey I'm attracted to a girl at clg, no other girls but only her what am i

Hey @asdfgf Welcome to the Community!

I read your post and wondered whether you’d like to talk things through with one of our Trained Mentors? I will tag them in so you know who they are and so they can reach out to you. 😊 @Monsoon & @Blondie

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4 hours ago, asdfgf said:

Hey I'm attracted to a girl at clg, no other girls but only her what am i

Hey there,

Welcome. I'm one of the digital mentors here. Would you like support with this? If so, I'm happy to help :) 

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On 4/30/2022 at 4:27 PM, asdfgf said:

Hey I'm attracted to a girl at clg, no other girls but only her what am i

 

Ik this is extremely late and probably not needed any more but anyhow. Tbh I’m not sure. For now if ur attracted to her it doesn’t necessarily matter what your sexuality is. Sometimes it takes a while to figure out (again my experience isn’t huge 😋) Are you attracted to boys as well?  U may be Bisexual.  I started out attracted to another girl and now I identify as bisexual  for me it took me a couple months to figure it out. But right now maybe just think about what you feel comfortable identifying with. If u have any one your comfortable and ready to ask questions or talking to about it, sometimes that might help u figure it out. Everyone on this platform also helped me they might be able to help you too. 
 

also remember that you don’t have to have been a in  a queer relationship or have a crush on Multiple girls to be a part of the LGBTQIA+ community 😉

Hope you figure it out or if u have I’m glad you got there ;)  lemme know if u have any questions, I doubt I can help as much as the mentors but I’ll try 😁

 

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