Egg Posted December 8, 2021 Share Posted December 8, 2021 Hello, Soon my parents will learn I'm bisexaul. I am scared stiff about what they will say/do. I need help over coming my fear, may I please have some help? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditch the Label Staff Daisie Posted December 8, 2021 Ditch the Label Staff Share Posted December 8, 2021 Hey @Egg Welcome to the community, I am pleased you’ve found us. I am Daisie a Community Warden on the forums and I wondered if you would benefit from talking to one of our trained Mentors for some support and advice? I have tagged them in to this post. @Monsoon & @Blondie. If you have any questions please feel to give me a shout, look forward to seeing you around. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted December 8, 2021 Share Posted December 8, 2021 16 hours ago, Egg said: Hello, Soon my parents will learn I'm bisexaul. I am scared stiff about what they will say/do. I need help over coming my fear, may I please have some help? Hey @Egg Welcome :) Thanks for coming to us for support. I think it's really normal to be scared about coming out when thinking about what other people might say or do next. I'm wondering, can you tell me what you think might happen with your parents? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egg Posted December 8, 2021 Author Share Posted December 8, 2021 I really don't know what will happen, I think they will be shocked, and my dad might be slightly scared or angry, and my mum might be shocked and maybe surprised. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted December 8, 2021 Share Posted December 8, 2021 Hey there, Thank you for sharing how you think they might react. I'm wondering, if they do react like that, how do you think that will be for you? What will help you to get through it? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DNA Posted December 9, 2021 Share Posted December 9, 2021 Hi, I dunno what to say, I haven't come out to my parents (they'd be mad about it) Are you going to tell them voluntary or it is like they will find out? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egg Posted December 10, 2021 Author Share Posted December 10, 2021 DNA, it's not really voluntary. Monsoon, I don't really know it will be, but I think some thing to help me through it would be to do something to get over the stress. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted December 10, 2021 Share Posted December 10, 2021 29 minutes ago, Egg said: DNA, it's not really voluntary. Monsoon, I don't really know it will be, but I think some thing to help me through it would be to do something to get over the stress. Hey there, Yeah, I'm wondering, what helps you to get through stress at the moment? Also, if they don't react well at first, do you think they might come around eventually? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egg Posted December 10, 2021 Author Share Posted December 10, 2021 Two things that helps me get through stress is counseling and cats. And I do think they'll come around eventually. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted December 10, 2021 Share Posted December 10, 2021 Hey, Yeah, plenty of parents come around eventually. The strong love between a parent and child is really powerful and helps parents to become more accepting, so I think that gives a lot of people hope. What do you think about that? Also, are you thinking of telling them soon? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egg Posted December 10, 2021 Author Share Posted December 10, 2021 I think that the thing about hope you said helps. And I have a deadline of telling them, it's in 2 days. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DNA Posted December 10, 2021 Share Posted December 10, 2021 I totally support you and I wish it goes well :) 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egg Posted December 10, 2021 Author Share Posted December 10, 2021 Thank you, DNA. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted December 11, 2021 Share Posted December 11, 2021 On 12/10/2021 at 8:48 PM, Egg said: I think that the thing about hope you said helps. And I have a deadline of telling them, it's in 2 days. Hey @Egg How are you feeling about telling them? Have you thought about what you're actually going to say? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egg Posted December 12, 2021 Author Share Posted December 12, 2021 Nervous, and I don't really know what to say, and if I don't tell them, their gonna find out today anyways. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted December 12, 2021 Share Posted December 12, 2021 Hey @Egg Can I just check, do you actually want to tell them? It's totally okay to wait, and there is no rush to do anything. When you say they will find out today even if you don't tell them, can you tell me a little bit more about that, please? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egg Posted December 13, 2021 Author Share Posted December 13, 2021 I want to tel, them, but I didn't do it today because, I am mentaly not ready. they would have found out today because of something I wrote down for a monologe, but was able to change that part. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted December 13, 2021 Share Posted December 13, 2021 Hey there, That's totally okay that you didn't tell them; this is your journey and you get to decide the pace :) How are you feeling about not sharing your news with them? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egg Posted December 14, 2021 Author Share Posted December 14, 2021 Like I am harboring a loud cat in my jacket. (Translation: I feel like my secret is gonna be found out soon.) MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted December 14, 2021 Share Posted December 14, 2021 19 hours ago, Egg said: Like I am harboring a loud cat in my jacket. (Translation: I feel like my secret is gonna be found out soon.) Hey, Yeah, I bet. Carrying such a loud cat can be really draining, but there are ways to keep the cat calm. I'm wondering, have you came out to anyone else yet, like friends? If not, that can be really helpful, because many people feel like they can start being their more authentic self at that point. What do you think? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egg Posted December 20, 2021 Author Share Posted December 20, 2021 I have told friends, it is very helpful. (Sorry for the late response, my power just came back on) MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted December 20, 2021 Share Posted December 20, 2021 11 hours ago, Egg said: I have told friends, it is very helpful. (Sorry for the late response, my power just came back on) Hey there, Oh, what happened with your power? Glad it's back on. Also, it's great that you told your friends. How did they react? :) MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egg Posted December 21, 2021 Author Share Posted December 21, 2021 (My power went out in a storm) Some of they were kinda shocked, but most were, how do I put this, not really suprised? But all of them do support me. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted December 21, 2021 Share Posted December 21, 2021 Hey there, It's so good that they all support you. How does that feel? I think that positive experiences like this can really boost your confidence for coming out and give you a good push in the right direction :) MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egg Posted December 27, 2021 Author Share Posted December 27, 2021 I makes me feel elivated. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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