I'm bi and my best friend is pan, and she prefers girls over guys. I've had a crush on her for a few months and part of the reason that I realized I was bi was that I was attracted to her. She was the first person who I came out to and we have a very special relationship. I love her platonically so, so much but I also love her romantically. I want to tell her, but I don't want to risk messing up our relationship as friends, and I would hate myself if a relationship and our friendship both failed. Other complications are that our families are very close and if something got messed up, it could become very awkward, I've known her since I was very little, she's friend's with almost all of my friends which could get tricky if something went wrong, and I have 3 and 1/2 more years of school and classes with her. Should I tell her? And if so, how?

Hey there, That's really kind and considerate of you to wait for now. I think that when you have this kind of conversation, you just have to be honest and say whatever feels right in the moment. It's hard to plan. What do you think?

Totally. I think the only way to work through the awkwardness is to face it head on. Also I'm curious to know, when you mentioned that it would be awkward, who would it be like that for, and how come?