Hazard Posted October 11, 2021 Share Posted October 11, 2021 This post has been flagged with warnings, as follows: Self-Harm Click this notice to reveal the content. Hi! I'm Emberfrost12 and new here. My parents don't respect my gender at all, and with every male/nb day (I'm genderfluid,) my chest dysphoria gets worse. I've been self harming quite a bit recently, too MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2741-hi/ Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lillyx Posted October 11, 2021 Share Posted October 11, 2021 This post has been flagged with warnings, as follows: Self-Harm Click this notice to reveal the content. hey same here due to my daughter going to hospital but hugs I'm Lilly btw and I'm 16! 5 minutes ago, Emberfrost12 said: Hi! I'm Emberfrost12 and new here. My parents don't respect my gender at all, and with every male/nb day (I'm genderfluid,) my chest dysphoria gets worse. I've been self harming quite a bit recently, too MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2741-hi/#findComment-13905 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lillyx Posted October 11, 2021 Share Posted October 11, 2021 if your stuck there is help out there thought you'd like this quote @Emberfrost12 @ MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2741-hi/#findComment-13907 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hazard Posted October 11, 2021 Author Share Posted October 11, 2021 Thnx for the hugs and the quote! Lots of hugs 4 u MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2741-hi/#findComment-13923 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lillyx Posted October 11, 2021 Share Posted October 11, 2021 you too no worries warm hugs MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2741-hi/#findComment-13927 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted October 11, 2021 Share Posted October 11, 2021 This post has been flagged with warnings, as follows: Self-Harm Click this notice to reveal the content. 5 hours ago, Emberfrost12 said: Hi! I'm Emberfrost12 and new here. My parents don't respect my gender at all, and with every male/nb day (I'm genderfluid,) my chest dysphoria gets worse. I've been self harming quite a bit recently, too Hey there, Welcome. I'm sorry to hear about your parents and the self-harming. Can I ask, does this mean that you've come out to them then? Also, it must be hard for you to talk about the self-harming, but I'm grateful that you've chosen this space to open up in. Can I ask, when you do the self harming, how does it make you feel? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2741-hi/#findComment-13957 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hazard Posted October 12, 2021 Author Share Posted October 12, 2021 This post has been flagged with warnings, as follows: Self-Harm Click this notice to reveal the content. Yes, im out. And self-harming makes me feel in control and less numb MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2741-hi/#findComment-13961 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted October 12, 2021 Share Posted October 12, 2021 Hey there. Thank you for telling me that. Can I ask, does anyone else know about the self-harming? I guess I just want to figure out if you're safe or not, because your safety is our number one priority. Also, how are you feeling about everything today? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2741-hi/#findComment-14034 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hazard Posted October 12, 2021 Author Share Posted October 12, 2021 Yes, a couple people know, but only people i completely trust. My day was average, so...it could have been better. one thing thats been stressing me out is that math and science are one class, and im doing grade 8 math in a grade 7 class, and im expected to do just as well in science. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2741-hi/#findComment-14095 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lillyx Posted October 13, 2021 Share Posted October 13, 2021 how you doing MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2741-hi/#findComment-14106 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted October 13, 2021 Share Posted October 13, 2021 12 hours ago, Emberfrost12 said: Yes, a couple people know, but only people i completely trust. My day was average, so...it could have been better. one thing thats been stressing me out is that math and science are one class, and im doing grade 8 math in a grade 7 class, and im expected to do just as well in science. Hey, I'm glad to hear that a couple of people know. How did it feel telling them? I'm just wondering, are you wanting to reduce or stop the self harming? If so, I can give you some advice, so just let me know. Also, thanks for telling me about what's going on with math and science. It sounds like you're under some pressure and stress at the moment, especially with what you were telling me about the chest dysphoria you're experiencing. I'm thinking, would you like to tell me a little bit more about that? It's completely okay if you don't, as I can imagine that it's hard for you to talk about, but I just thought I would try to check in. I hope to hear back from you soon. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2741-hi/#findComment-14121 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hazard Posted October 13, 2021 Author Share Posted October 13, 2021 I told them a while ago, and it felt like my heart was dropping. I do want to stop. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2741-hi/#findComment-14142 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted October 14, 2021 Share Posted October 14, 2021 Hey there, That's really good that you do want to stop. I'm wondering, what has helped you to stop in the past? I think that self-harming, as you said, can help people to cope, such as feeling in control and less numb, and the reason we are doing it is to help us deal with challenging emotions, so one way can be to work with those emotions as well. I'm wondering, would you like me to suggest some ways that you can help your mental health too? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2741-hi/#findComment-14308 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hazard Posted October 14, 2021 Author Share Posted October 14, 2021 I think that what happened last time is that school finished and i wasn't stressed, and yes, i would like some tips for my mental health MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2741-hi/#findComment-14349 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditch the Label Staff Blondie Posted October 15, 2021 Ditch the Label Staff Share Posted October 15, 2021 11 hours ago, Emberfrost12 said: I think that what happened last time is that school finished and i wasn't stressed, and yes, i would like some tips for my mental health Hi there, Just jumping in to share these tips with you: https://www.ditchthelabel.org/how-to-look-after-mental-health/ Plus we have an entire hub full of useful mental health resources here: https://www.ditchthelabel.org/mental-health-support-hub/ Let us know what you think. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2741-hi/#findComment-14355 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hazard Posted October 15, 2021 Author Share Posted October 15, 2021 Ok thnx MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2741-hi/#findComment-14451 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hazard Posted October 16, 2021 Author Share Posted October 16, 2021 So, my dysphoria has been bad lately to the point where i cant bring myself to look in a mirror. Any advice?? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2741-hi/#findComment-14469 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditch the Label Staff Blondie Posted October 16, 2021 Ditch the Label Staff Share Posted October 16, 2021 5 hours ago, Emberfrost12 said: So, my dysphoria has been bad lately to the point where i cant bring myself to look in a mirror. Any advice?? Hey, when this happens I would allow yourself to acknowledge that and to not try and force it. Many people who experience this say they cover/avoid mirrors as much as they can while they're feeling this way but at the same time, they try and remind themselves of all the things they do like/love about their body until the intensity of it fades or passes. As much as you are able to, practice self-care so do all the things that make you feel good. Does that make sense? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2741-hi/#findComment-14489 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hazard Posted October 16, 2021 Author Share Posted October 16, 2021 Yes, it does. Thnx 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2741-hi/#findComment-14554 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hazard Posted October 17, 2021 Author Share Posted October 17, 2021 Hey, so just an update. My mom's been telling me to 'give in to being female' and she's been a lot stricter and has been yelling at me and my brother a lot more lately, especially since my dad moved out. It doesn't help that my brother isn't doing well in school and is trying to get in to collage/university. My mom involves me in every argument, and I just cant handle it. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2741-hi/#findComment-14621 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted October 17, 2021 Share Posted October 17, 2021 Hey there, Sorry to hear that things have been more difficult lately. It sounds like you're feeling a bit overwhelmed at home right now, is that right? I'm wondering, have you spoken to your mom about how you're feeling? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2741-hi/#findComment-14641 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hazard Posted October 17, 2021 Author Share Posted October 17, 2021 I've tried, but she refuses to listen and nothing changes MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2741-hi/#findComment-14723 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditch the Label Staff Blondie Posted October 18, 2021 Ditch the Label Staff Share Posted October 18, 2021 Can I ask how you've approached it before? Have you had a dedicated time to sit down together or just casually brought it up? It would be good to see if we can suggest an approach that might help. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2741-hi/#findComment-14995 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hazard Posted October 18, 2021 Author Share Posted October 18, 2021 I just not-so-casually brought it up. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2741-hi/#findComment-14997 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditch the Label Staff Blondie Posted October 18, 2021 Ditch the Label Staff Share Posted October 18, 2021 Sometimes it's best to try and choose a time when you have her full attention. When she's not too busy, ask her if you can find some time to have a talk. Obviously your family will have their own routines, but you might say for example on a Thursday evening "Hey, can we spend some time together on Saturday afternoon. I'd really like to talk to you about something and would really like your input." Adapt it to suit yours and your mom's schedules so you have her undivided attention which immediately removes a certain amount of pressure if say, she's tired. If it helps, have a few notes/prompters so you don't forget what you want to say and then try again. It's usually good to say what you want to say (i.e. I identify as.... this is really important to me... it would mean so much if you would use <insert the pronouns that you use) pronouns and/or if you would acknowledge and respect my identity. This way, out should open things up a bit. Depending on how you feel, you could ask if she has any questions - does she want to learn more - does she have any concerns? How does that sound? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2741-hi/#findComment-15008 Share on other sites More sharing options...
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