Totally not alex1 Posted June 3, 2021 Share Posted June 3, 2021 I knew they never supported the LGBTQ+ community but I still told them I am bisexual and now they are ignoring me I’m very scared to tell my family because my dad don’t support it and my brother definitely hates it I don’t really know how I would tell them and I never actually found the right time to tell them MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 3, 2021 Share Posted June 3, 2021 Hey there. Welcome to our community :). I’m one of the digital mentors here and I give advice and support to people who reach out to us. I’m sorry to hear that your friends reacted like that. How are you feeling about it now? It must be hard for you. We are here if you want to talk. Sadly, some people do react badly to this kind of news. It doesn’t mean that there’s a problem with you, it just means that they have a problem with the way they think. As time goes on, they usually come round to the idea out of pure love for their friend, brother, sister, child... it just means that you have to be patient with them if they do react badly which can be frustrating. Take a look at this here, you might find it helpful: https://www.ditchthelabel.org/my-parents-didnt-react-well-to-me-coming-out/ Just remember that with coming out, if you aren’t ready, then you can totally wait. Also, if coming out might put you in danger, like being abused or kicked out, then it might be best to wait until you’re old enough to move out, or make sure you have somewhere safe to stay if you need to. What do you think? Speak soon. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Totally not alex1 Posted June 3, 2021 Author Share Posted June 3, 2021 hello it was kinda hard for me but I’ve kinda got used to it a little since it was like a week ago I’m still a little broken by that though MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Totally not alex1 Posted June 3, 2021 Author Share Posted June 3, 2021 also I don’t really know about my mom I feel like I’m more likely to be safe telling her because she seems like she supports it but she might tell my brother and all so I don’t really know who I can tell MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 Hey. Yeah, I completely get why you feel a little broken by that. It's really upsetting to have people react badly to finding out who we really are - it's so personal and I completely get your feelings. Have you spoken to them about how you feel? I'm glad to hear that you're more likely to be safe telling your mom. With your brother, how do you think he'd react at the beginning and how might that change over time? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Totally not alex1 Posted June 4, 2021 Author Share Posted June 4, 2021 well I don’t really know how he’d react but I know it’s most likely going to be days of him making fun of me and maybe like my friend listing all the boys in are class asking who I like so I’m still scared if he would find out MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 Hey. Yeah, I totally get that you're scared he will find out. So, you think he will make fun of you and then list all the boys in your class asking who you like. After that, what do you think will happen? Could it get better? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Totally not alex1 Posted June 4, 2021 Author Share Posted June 4, 2021 I don’t really know if it would get better because he would probably act like he never found out or just hold that against me forever MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 5, 2021 Share Posted June 5, 2021 Hey, I get why you would think that, and it's completely normal for people in your kind of situation to think that it will never get better. However, from supporting people who had similar things going on to you, I know that it does get better for most people How are you feeling about everything atm? I appreciate that this might be quite overwhelming right now, and I just want you to know that we are here for you. You are not alone with this. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Totally not alex1 Posted June 5, 2021 Author Share Posted June 5, 2021 well I don’t really know how i feel right now and also thank you for being here for me I really appreciate it MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 6, 2021 Share Posted June 6, 2021 That's okay - we are here for you if you need to talk to us Do you have an idea for what you might do next? It's totally okay to not have any idea btw - sometimes, you just need to sit with your situation and work through the feelings that it's bringing up. I hope you're okay. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Totally not alex1 Posted June 6, 2021 Author Share Posted June 6, 2021 yeah I don’t really have any idea what to do next. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 6, 2021 Share Posted June 6, 2021 Hey, Yeah, I totally hear that. This is such a hard situation to be in, but I think that you're doing really well by opening up and asking for help. This is the best way to move forward. I'm wondering, do you have any other friends that you can lean on for support right now? Or anyone else close to you? Don't forget that we are here for you too, always. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Totally not alex1 Posted June 6, 2021 Author Share Posted June 6, 2021 well I have A lot of friends that know about that I only trusted them because there bisexual too we support each other and yeah MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 7, 2021 Share Posted June 7, 2021 Hey, Ahh, that's good that you support each other. It must be nice having other people going through a similar thing to you. Lean on that support system as much as possible - it will really help to get you through How are you feeling today? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Totally not alex1 Posted June 7, 2021 Author Share Posted June 7, 2021 I am actually feeling great today how are you? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 7, 2021 Share Posted June 7, 2021 Hey, that's lovely to hear. I'm good, thanks. Would you like to talk about anything else with us? We can help with loads of different things MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Totally not alex1 Posted June 7, 2021 Author Share Posted June 7, 2021 that’s great to here your doing good. I don’t really know if this is something I should say but some of my friends want me to breakup with my boyfriend because he cheated on me but I really still like him MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 8, 2021 Share Posted June 8, 2021 Hey, Thanks for telling us about this. Hmm, yeah, it's tricky that you still like him. I mean, do you think you can trust him enough to carry the relationship on? What's your gut feeling? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Totally not alex1 Posted June 8, 2021 Author Share Posted June 8, 2021 I really much trust him and he trust me so I would like to say I can MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 9, 2021 Share Posted June 9, 2021 Hey, I think its good to be cautious about this kind of thing, and the fact that someone has cheated is usually a sign that something isn't right in the relationship. Have you spoken about why he did it at all? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Totally not alex1 Posted June 9, 2021 Author Share Posted June 9, 2021 nope I’ve never actually asked him, I just remember that he said something that made me think that he was cheating on me so I asked him and he said: he did MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 10, 2021 Share Posted June 10, 2021 Hey, Ah, well, I think it might be good to speak about it some more and figure out his reasons for doing it. By doing this, you can then hopefully avoid it happening again. What do you think? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Totally not alex1 Posted June 10, 2021 Author Share Posted June 10, 2021 well I don’t really know I will do that eventually maybe i will text him on my unknown account so he thinks it’s some random hacker but yet again I don’t know it’s his birthday month so I’ll have to wait MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 11, 2021 Share Posted June 11, 2021 Hey, What would you say to him in you text him on your unknown account? It might be better for him to know it's coming from you as this is a really important conversation to have. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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