How Do I Come Out To My Bisexual Friend?

[flaca247]

I am 14 years old and a closeted lesbian. I have super religious parents who only talk about homosexuality as a terrible thing. Anyways, yesterday my friend came out to me as bisexual, and I really waned to tell I was gay, but I don't want her telling anybody else because I don't want my parents to find out especially my dad. Also my mom works at my school as a Spanish tutor, so I'm afraid that if my friend tells people my mom will hear something and find out. Should I tell her, not? How should I tell her?

[Monsoon]

Hey Karis,

 

Thanks for coming back to us for advice ? please know we are here to help you through this and you are not alone. How are you feeling?

 

 

With coming out to you friend, do you trust them not to tell anyone else? I know you don't want others to know, so it's important who you tell will not tell others. I would tell her if you do ? if she trusted you with knowing her sexuality, then hopefully she will keep your sexuality to herself. If you're feeling too nervous to tell her face-to-face, you could do it over message. This takes away the fear of doing it f2f and can help build courage for coming out. When telling her, just be open and honest about what you are going through and be clear how important it is that she keeps it to herself. Here is an article to help with this:

 

https://www.ditchthelabel.org/top-11-tips-for-coming-out-as-lesbian-gay-or-bi/

 

 

With your parents, there are so many reasons why they may have homophobic views ? here is an article that helps to explain this:

 

https://www.ditchthelabel.org/my-parents-didnt-react-well-to-me-coming-out/

 

With parents who have these views, it is important to give them time to come around the idea when you do tell them. They may react badly at first, but their views can often soften over time. I don't know if you are at this stage yet, but here is a good article for when you are:

 

https://www.ditchthelabel.org/coming-out-homophobic-parents/

 

 

I hope you find this advice useful. Please let me know if not and we can figure something else out.

Sending positive vibes ? MonsoonA