Jolly giant Posted November 9, 2022 Share Posted November 9, 2022 So, I have a crush on my best friend who is bi and has a girlfriend but my feelings for him are so immense that it makes me anxious when I'm around him and I'm also socialy awkward when I hang out with him. But the reason why I feel bad is because there is a voice in my head that always pipes up when I'm with him that says "He should just leave his girlfriend and date me instead" and I just don't know what to do. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/5638-am-i-a-bad-person/ Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted November 9, 2022 Share Posted November 9, 2022 Hey Jolly Giant, Thank you for reaching out to us about this. It sounds like you're at a bit of a stopping point and wondering where to go next. I'm wondering, what do you want to get out of the situation? How would it go if you did tell him? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/5638-am-i-a-bad-person/#findComment-56091 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jolly giant Posted November 9, 2022 Author Share Posted November 9, 2022 2 hours ago, Monsoon said: Hey Jolly Giant, Thank you for reaching out to us about this. It sounds like you're at a bit of a stopping point and wondering where to go next. I'm wondering, what do you want to get out of the situation? How would it go if you did tell him? I don't know how it would go but im scared that if I tell him he will hate me MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/5638-am-i-a-bad-person/#findComment-56187 Share on other sites More sharing options...
-Aussie- Posted November 9, 2022 Share Posted November 9, 2022 (edited) I can understand how you are feeling cause i am in the same problem. Edited November 9, 2022 by _mysticalMajesty_ MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/5638-am-i-a-bad-person/#findComment-56203 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted November 10, 2022 Share Posted November 10, 2022 17 hours ago, Jolly giant said: I don't know how it would go but im scared that if I tell him he will hate me Hey there, I'm wondering, what makes you think he might hate you if you tell him? Where does that fear come from? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/5638-am-i-a-bad-person/#findComment-56339 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jolly giant Posted November 10, 2022 Author Share Posted November 10, 2022 6 hours ago, Monsoon said: Hey there, I'm wondering, what makes you think he might hate you if you tell him? Where does that fear come from? I have no idea where the fear comes from but it has always been there. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/5638-am-i-a-bad-person/#findComment-56420 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted November 14, 2022 Share Posted November 14, 2022 On 11/10/2022 at 10:08 PM, Jolly giant said: I have no idea where the fear comes from but it has always been there. Hey, Could it be that the fear is just your negative thoughts getting in the way a little? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/5638-am-i-a-bad-person/#findComment-56768 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jolly giant Posted November 15, 2022 Author Share Posted November 15, 2022 On 11/14/2022 at 10:43 AM, Monsoon said: Hey, Could it be that the fear is just your negative thoughts getting in the way a little? I think so but I'm not too sure MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/5638-am-i-a-bad-person/#findComment-57059 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted November 15, 2022 Share Posted November 15, 2022 2 hours ago, Jolly giant said: I think so but I'm not too sure Hey, I think it might be after reading what you've told me. I'm wondering, how do you think he feels about you? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/5638-am-i-a-bad-person/#findComment-57087 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jolly giant Posted November 15, 2022 Author Share Posted November 15, 2022 I think he feels like I'm just a friend who he can jokingly flirt with MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/5638-am-i-a-bad-person/#findComment-57113 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted November 16, 2022 Share Posted November 16, 2022 19 hours ago, Jolly giant said: I think he feels like I'm just a friend who he can jokingly flirt with Hey there, How does it make you feel to think that perspective might be his reality? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/5638-am-i-a-bad-person/#findComment-57189 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jolly giant Posted November 16, 2022 Author Share Posted November 16, 2022 35 minutes ago, Monsoon said: Hey there, How does it make you feel to think that perspective might be his reality? I'm not really sure MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/5638-am-i-a-bad-person/#findComment-57200 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted November 17, 2022 Share Posted November 17, 2022 23 hours ago, Jolly giant said: I'm not really sure Hey there, I guess it's hard to know, but my point is that we can easily try to read someone's mind and become quite sure they are thinking in a certain way, but we can't really do that. What do you think? What are you going to do next, or have you not decided yet? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/5638-am-i-a-bad-person/#findComment-57374 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jolly giant Posted November 17, 2022 Author Share Posted November 17, 2022 2 hours ago, Monsoon said: Hey there, I guess it's hard to know, but my point is that we can easily try to read someone's mind and become quite sure they are thinking in a certain way, but we can't really do that. What do you think? What are you going to do next, or have you not decided yet? I haven't decided yet MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/5638-am-i-a-bad-person/#findComment-57420 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted November 18, 2022 Share Posted November 18, 2022 22 hours ago, Jolly giant said: I haven't decided yet Hey there, That's okay, and it's good to take your time and think about what you really want from this, and the impact it might have on your relationship if you did decide to tell him how you feel. What do you think? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/5638-am-i-a-bad-person/#findComment-57552 Share on other sites More sharing options...
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