Ani006 Posted October 21, 2022 Share Posted October 21, 2022 So my mum got remarried to my step dad end of last year. And at first I thought he’d be really nice as I tried to be as welcoming as I can. I’ve noticed though he only ever pays attention to my older brother and they have such a good relationship but when it comes to me he barely even acknowledges my existence. I’ve tried speaking to him and my mum about this on several occasions but each time they just either say I’m overreacting or just jealous. I really don’t know what to do because it makes us all living together uncomfortable MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditch the Label Staff Blondie Posted October 22, 2022 Ditch the Label Staff Share Posted October 22, 2022 13 hours ago, Ani006 said: So my mum got remarried to my step dad end of last year. And at first I thought he’d be really nice as I tried to be as welcoming as I can. I’ve noticed though he only ever pays attention to my older brother and they have such a good relationship but when it comes to me he barely even acknowledges my existence. I’ve tried speaking to him and my mum about this on several occasions but each time they just either say I’m overreacting or just jealous. I really don’t know what to do because it makes us all living together uncomfortable Hi there and a warm welcome to community. It sounds that whatever you're feeling is valid, especially as you were so keen to welcome him. I'm wondering if you could arrange to spend some time with him with just the 2 of you? Go out for lunch or a coffee etc so you have the opportunity to start building your own bond with him. Do you think that's something you would be comfortable suggesting? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ani006 Posted October 22, 2022 Author Share Posted October 22, 2022 I’ve tried that multiple times but I always get blown off or I just get told no MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
-Leila- Posted October 22, 2022 Share Posted October 22, 2022 I agree with what blonde said, do you have any other ideas? I can search few ways up if you’d like?? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditch the Label Staff Blondie Posted October 22, 2022 Ditch the Label Staff Share Posted October 22, 2022 2 hours ago, Ani006 said: I’ve tried that multiple times but I always get blown off or I just get told no You’ve said that he appears to get on with your sibling easily - do they do things together? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ani006 Posted October 24, 2022 Author Share Posted October 24, 2022 They go out together lots but whenever I want to go I get excluded and told no or they don’t really speak or interact with me MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted October 24, 2022 Share Posted October 24, 2022 Hey there, I'm wondering, have you spoken to him about how you feel? It might be helpful to let it out and see what his perspective is. I really do think that honesty is the best policy, and communicating with the person you're having an issue with is the best way to move forwar.d MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ani006 Posted October 24, 2022 Author Share Posted October 24, 2022 I have tried multiple times but it seems that he doesn’t want to listen or if I try and start the conversation he makes imne feel like I’m being over dramatic or over thinking everything leaving me confused MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted October 25, 2022 Share Posted October 25, 2022 Hey, I can imagine that was really frustrating for you. Your feelings are valid and there needs to be a change to make things better; I completely see your perspective. I’m wondering, when you did speak to him, what did you say? Also, when you approached him, was it during an argument already or was it calm? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ani006 Posted November 5, 2022 Author Share Posted November 5, 2022 It was calm, I approached him when he wasn’t doing anything and said that I wanted to talk about the situation and explained my feelings but I kept getting interrupted or ignored and I tried to keep the environment calm but I could tell he was getting annoyed almost and since I wasn’t able to say what I wanted without getting interrupted I left MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
_Kai_ Posted November 5, 2022 Share Posted November 5, 2022 41 minutes ago, Ani006 said: It was calm, I approached him when he wasn’t doing anything and said that I wanted to talk about the situation and explained my feelings but I kept getting interrupted or ignored and I tried to keep the environment calm but I could tell he was getting annoyed almost and since I wasn’t able to say what I wanted without getting interrupted I left Hmmmm, maybe you should try telling ur mom how u feel, since ur stepdad won't listen maybe she will if you explain everything that has happened and how it has made u feel MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted November 5, 2022 Share Posted November 5, 2022 Hey @Ani006 I'm sorry to hear he didn't respond well. I think it would be good to speak to your mom like @Ani006 said, and maybe she can then tell him how you've been feeling. I was thinking that it might be pretty helpful to hear it from someone else as he may feel less defensive. What do you think? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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