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Hi. SO I would like to come out to my parents, who I know are super supportive of the LGBTQIA+ Community. But I am still super scared. And ideas on how to do it? I don't want to have a sit-down conversation.

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15 hours ago, beangirl said:

Hi. SO I would like to come out to my parents, who I know are super supportive of the LGBTQIA+ Community. But I am still super scared. And ideas on how to do it? I don't want to have a sit-down conversation.

Hey @beangirl

Welcome to the DTL community. I'm one of the digital mentors here and I give advice to those who reach out to us. I just want you to know that it's totally normal to still be scared in your situation; coming out is such a big deal, and it means a lot that we are met with positive energy and support, and from what you've said, it sounds like you will definitely get that. I'm wondering, in terms of telling them, could you potentially write them a letter to read when you're not there? Would that be easier?

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Yeah I was thinking about doing that but I'm not sure what to write in that letter. I am going to a camp so I could give it to them then.

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5 hours ago, beangirl said:

Yeah I was thinking about doing that but I'm not sure what to write in that letter. I am going to a camp so I could give it to them then.

Yeah, I think it's a good idea to give it to them at that point. I'm wondering, if you had a friend who didn't know what to write in the letter, what advice would you give them?

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On 8/6/2022 at 3:56 PM, beangirl said:

Hi. SO I would like to come out to my parents, who I know are super supportive of the LGBTQIA+ Community. But I am still super scared. And ideas on how to do it? I don't want to have a sit-down conversation.

You could casually say 'hey, I'm ____." as you leave the house to go somewhere.Β 

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Well honestly, I think if you were part of one of the commoner, more seen LGBTQIA+ identities, like lesbian, bi, trans, or something similar, you should be fine, since your parents are allies. However, if you are something like ace, aro, or a non-binary gender like demigirl, then I think you should *subtly* bring up that sexuality/gender identity/romantic identity. Because more of the lesser seen sexuality/romantic/gender identities are seen as "not LGBTQ" and so called "allies" turn out to be anti-queer. This happens a lot within the ace, aro, and gender communities.

Hope this helps!!!

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  • 3 weeks later...

You say your parents are very supportive of LGBTQ+, so I don't think that anything will go wrong if you decide to come out. However, it is always okay to wait. I think you could go the serious route ("Hey mom and dad, I need to talk to you about something"), or you could go the funny route (making a fortune cookie with "I'M GAY" as the note). Don't be shy to play around a bit, as it seems like your coming out will be relatively low-risk.

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