urfavekpopstan ! Posted July 6, 2022 Share Posted July 6, 2022 Its been like 2 years since I had short hair , but like my parents did not have a problem with it because it was a "feminine" length. I honestly always hated having long hair and love the way short hair looks and so, I made a huge decision and I have always been convincing my mom for like short, short hair and she said no because I'm not a boy, a few months ago I cut it like SHORT I trimmed the sides and like actually cut it and my parents have been upset about it and everyday remind me on how pretty I used to look, though now I feel so much more confident, I don't know what to do because I'm in a situation where like my parents are forcing me to grow my hair out and I keep saying no because I HATE long hair with a passion, and like my aunt keeps telling me "if you love me, don't cut your hair" and stuff like that and everytime she sees me she has the same conversation with me about cutting my hair, she's treating me like I have some mental illness and telling me to "stay strong". I know my parents hate the way I look and how my hair looks, I told them to get used to it, because this is who I am. I don't think they are taking that as an answer. A month or two ago I tried to grow my hair out for my parents, but it didn't work. Every time I looked in the mirror, I felt like throwing up. When I talked to my "friends" about this, they claimed I was being overdramatic and it's just hair, they're just saying that because they don't have to go through it, they don't support me. Some of those people tell me I was gorgeous before I decided to cut my hair off, I appreciate honesty, but that is something I am not willing to do. I don't know how to deal with this and make my parents happy while having short hair, because to them it's a huge issue. They keep telling me they think people are influencing this on me. That is not the case because I literally wanted short hair as a kid. I also feel like I am extremely paranoid because when someone compliments my hair, I think they are lying because when I told my mom I am receiving so many complements, she said that they were backhanded compliments and people don't actually like my hair. I also hate being stared at in public, it's like my mom is embarrassed to be around me, and she said she was because she said "I look so conservative and you look weird" I know I do get looks because I don't present feminine, even though I do identify as a female. I know people judge me in public, especially people of my culture because not many girls in my area present masculine. I hate receiving looks, but I know I cannot change people's perspectives on me, which I am more aware of, I started dressing feminine when seeing family and family friends and I dress myself at school. But my hair kind of gives it away somehow? I don't know what to do!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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