patg Posted June 9, 2018 Share Posted June 9, 2018 Hi there, I am 35 and am the type to have many circles of friends. I'm an ambivert, and INFJ Myers-Briggs type. In 2016, I invited my closest friends to my bachelorette party (mansion retreat in Canadian mountains). None of them had met before but most of them I've known for between 5 and 15 years, except for one woman who was a relatively new friend. Everyone hit it off. Four of us who live in the same city started doing "ladies nights" together after the new friend got all of their contact info. Well, then the newest friend started to get weird. She's ousting me and trying to make herself a "queen bee". This is all very juvenile to me. None of my friends are cliquey, but they feel sorry for her and want to help her grow as a person. My problem is that, the more I get to know her, the more I think she is a narcissist, a relational aggressor, and dare I say, a social poacher. I choose my friends carefully and have invested a lot of time and care into my friendships. This woman has ruined my friendship dynamics. She slights me in front of my other friends, makes rude comments, and makes me feel like the odd one out. She has stopped communicating with me 1:1. This has been steadily getting worse and I have decided that I do not want to see her anymore. I regret introducing her to my other friends. Any advice on what to do? I want her out of my life and do not want to confront her because she gives me the creeps and I'm afraid a confrontation would escalate things more. My other friends give her the benefit of the doubt. This woman is 40 years old and I don't think she has any other friends. She never mentions any other friends. Recently she came on a camping trip and made a comment about wanting to kill her boyfriend's ex wife because she doesn't want her to take half of his money. My other friends think she was joking but she said it so monotone. This is really creeping me out! I have had past experiences with relational aggression from women at work, but don't know what to do about this. She deceived and charmed her way into my life and everyone believes her sob story and excuses her manipulative/bizzare behaviour. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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