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I am fine with who I am but when I think of girls I don’t feel like I’m one of them, more of an outsider. But I just feel like there are so many confusing things that I don’t know about and if anybody has advice that would be great 👍 

 

 

 

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13 hours ago, Chocolate chip 9909 said:

I am fine with who I am but when I think of girls I don’t feel like I’m one of them, more of an outsider. But I just feel like there are so many confusing things that I don’t know about and if anybody has advice that would be great 👍 

Hi there, I’m Blondie, one of the support mentors. Can I ask if you relate to another gender or none?

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Yeah, like I can kinda relate to all genders sorta? But sometimes not…

And sometimes I feel like a girl. Sometimes not. But like I feel like terms like genderqueer or gender fluid make sense. But I also am worried because like I like the idea of dating a boy as a girl/whatever I truly am, but would it not be a straight relationship?  Because I just don’t want to miss out on that. I also only know cis gender people. For now.

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3 hours ago, Chocolate chip 9909 said:

Yeah, like I can kinda relate to all genders sorta? But sometimes not…

And sometimes I feel like a girl. Sometimes not. But like I feel like terms like genderqueer or gender fluid make sense. But I also am worried because like I like the idea of dating a boy as a girl/whatever I truly am, but would it not be a straight relationship?  Because I just don’t want to miss out on that. I also only know cis gender people. For now.

Hey there,

Yeah, the way you've described your gender also makes me think of gender fluidity. I'm wondering, what is it about the straight relationship that you don't want to miss out on, and how might a queer relationship be different? 

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Because I sorta live in a religious area (like sooooo many churches) and it might be easier to date guys. Also gender fluid I kinda get….

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3 hours ago, Chocolate chip 9909 said:

Because I sorta live in a religious area (like sooooo many churches) and it might be easier to date guys. Also gender fluid I kinda get….

Hey there,

I get what you're saying about it being easier, but I think it's important to do what makes you the happiest. What do you think would make you happier in terms of dating? 

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I am not sure, but I guess I’m just scared, of what  people will think…

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1 hour ago, Chocolate chip 9909 said:

I am not sure, but I guess I’m just scared, of what  people will think…

Hey there,

Yeah, I totally get the fear around what others will think, but it's really important to live your life for your own enjoyment, and not to spare the judgement from others. I know that's easier said than done though. What do you think? 

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I don’t know, I wish the world was a better place

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7 hours ago, Chocolate chip 9909 said:

I don’t know, I wish the world was a better place

Totally, but you also find your own way in it and carve out a life that is ideal for you. Do you know what I mean? 

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On 7/3/2022 at 2:58 AM, Chocolate chip 9909 said:

Yeah, like I can kinda relate to all genders sorta? But sometimes not…

And sometimes I feel like a girl. Sometimes not. But like I feel like terms like genderqueer or gender fluid make sense. But I also am worried because like I like the idea of dating a boy as a girl/whatever I truly am, but would it not be a straight relationship?  Because I just don’t want to miss out on that. I also only know cis gender people. For now.

honestly, this sounds like genderfluid. I may be wrong. Do you want to actually be in a straight relationship? or is it something that doesn't come to your mind? just curious!

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Oh, well ya I do. I mean I also totally want to be in a queer relationship too, but I also like the idea of  dating a boy. Also don’t gay people date non binary people and still identify as gay? What does that mean?

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16 hours ago, Chocolate chip 9909 said:

Yeah

How are you feeling about it all now? Would you like anymore advice for this? 

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9 hours ago, Chocolate chip 9909 said:

Oh, well ya I do. I mean I also totally want to be in a queer relationship too, but I also like the idea of  dating a boy. Also don’t gay people date non binary people and still identify as gay? What does that mean?

Good question. My advice is to explore your sexuality. I think non-binaries may identify as gay because your sexuality and gender are two different things and they may call themselves gay if that makes sense. Hopefully that helped :)

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7 hours ago, mxhaxnaeem said:

Good question. My advice is to explore your sexuality. I think non-binaries may identify as gay because your sexuality and gender are two different things and they may call themselves gay if that makes sense. Hopefully that helped :)

Yes thank you!

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