Horseygirl Posted July 9, 2022 Share Posted July 9, 2022 10 hours ago, Monsoon said: Hey, I'm sorry to hear about this argument. I just want you to know that we are here to listen to you and comfort you :) It sounds like some pretty hurtful things were said in the moment that maybe people didn't mean; what do you think? Also, how are you feeling now that some time has passed since the fight? Thanks so much . Yea I absolutely think a lot of things were said that were not meant. Honestly, now that some time has passed, I'm feeling a lot better. However, I have decided that I need to teach my dad that he cannot yell not just at me, but anyone else in the family. So I am currently not speaking to him. This may either be a smart or a stupid thing to do, but everything else I have tried in trying to teach him that yelling is not okay, has failed, so not speaking to him is my last resort. It's hard, because I don't enjoy not speaking to him, and its even harder when he tries to talk to me, like take this morning for example. I was speaking to my mum as she thinks she may have broken her thumb accidentally when she tripped over a dog that was in the changeroom at her work last night, keeping in mind dogs aren't allowed in the changeroom, and my dad interrupted me saying "Lower the volume" but I just ignored him as I was not, and am not, speaking to him. I don't know how long I won't speak to him for, but I will be honest, it does feel kind of good. I don't really feel too stressed out, I don't have chest pain or a tension headache, etc. As I said, I don't like not talking to him, but on the same token, I don't feel stressed. I do want to mention, I hate fighting with my dad. It gives me no pleasure at all. He just makes life so hard at times. Like I try hard to respect him etc, but the way I see it is, why should I respect someone who doesn't respect me in return? And thats the whole thing, is that he doesn't respect me, so I've refused to respect him. I understand it is my parents house and all that, but respect goes both ways, and my dad just can't seem to understand that. He always says myself, my sister and my mum 'bully' him, which is absolutely not true. If we stand up for ourselves, it's apparently 'bullying'. I just really don't know what to do. I haven't got a job as I left my first ever job after 3 shifts because (a) working in a job without horses was VERY hard, and (b) I got burnt at work, told someone, and nothing was done about it. So I haven't got any money of my own, except for funding from my country's National Disability Insurance Scheme - its for people who have a disability/disabilities - and I'm just getting so stressed with the way he treats me. I won't be able to go and see a therapist yet, until NDIS tells me how I should pay for the therapy as I won't have the money in my bank account. I've tried writting in a diary, but years ago my dad said something which I KNEW I had written in my diary, and I always hide it, and I knew he'd gone into my room looking for it and had written to it. I just really don't know what to do. I wish he would just treat me nicer instead of always yelling at me or using that tone of voice he uses when he's annoyed at me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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