Emiliegp Posted May 22 Share Posted May 22 Hi, I’m Emilie. I’m really unsure If I’m bi or not! I have just experienced liking boys, but If I think about it, I could date girls too. But I don’t like girls but I could date them. What does that mean? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Digital Mentor Monsoon Posted May 23 Digital Mentor Share Posted May 23 9 hours ago, Emiliegp said: Hi, I’m Emilie. I’m really unsure If I’m bi or not! I have just experienced liking boys, but If I think about it, I could date girls too. But I don’t like girls but I could date them. What does that mean? Hey @Emiliegp Welcome :) I'm one of the digital mentors here and I give support to the DTL community users. I'm wondering, can you tell me more about what you mean when you say you don't like girls but could date them? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emiliegp Posted May 23 Author Share Posted May 23 Like, I don’t like girls. I don’t get feelings for them. But when I think about it, I can date girls too, even if I don’t like them Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Digital Mentor Monsoon Posted May 23 Digital Mentor Share Posted May 23 Hey there, I'm wondering then, what is the difference between the way you feel about girls and boys in this scenario? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emiliegp Posted May 23 Author Share Posted May 23 The way I fell about boys is way different than girls. I get real feelings for boys! But for girls I don’t, but I don’t see anything wrong for me to be with a girl? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Digital Mentor Monsoon Posted May 24 Digital Mentor Share Posted May 24 12 hours ago, Emiliegp said: The way I fell about boys is way different than girls. I get real feelings for boys! But for girls I don’t, but I don’t see anything wrong for me to be with a girl? Hey there, Thank you for telling me more. I'm wondering, do you think you could have similar feelings towards girls as well at some point? It's really good that you don't see anything wrong with being with a girl; this shows how open minded you are :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emiliegp Posted May 24 Author Share Posted May 24 I don’t think I will Get feelings for a girl, but as I say, I would love to be with a girl Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Digital Mentor Monsoon Posted May 24 Digital Mentor Share Posted May 24 2 hours ago, Emiliegp said: I don’t think I will Get feelings for a girl, but as I say, I would love to be with a girl Hey there, Can I ask why you think you wont? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emiliegp Posted May 24 Author Share Posted May 24 Because, I have never felt a real or any feeling for a girl. But for boys its really real, and I actually Get in love! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HomerCat Posted May 24 Share Posted May 24 Hi hun, sounds like you’re just really supportive of the community, or you may be ace/aro with girls? But I think you may be just an ally, as you have said “there’s nothing wrong with dating a girl”. Life advice: unless you identify as exclusively ace/aro, you should only date people you love. If you like guys, date ‘em. Don’t just date girls coz you think it’s ok, but date one if you get real feelings xx luv ya Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emiliegp Posted May 24 Author Share Posted May 24 Thank u for this answer! It really helped! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Digital Mentor Monsoon Posted May 25 Digital Mentor Share Posted May 25 15 hours ago, Emiliegp said: Because, I have never felt a real or any feeling for a girl. But for boys its really real, and I actually Get in love! Hey, Fair enough! Also, I love what Homer said about dating people who you have feelings for :) How is everything else for you at the moment? Would you like support with anything else? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emiliegp Posted May 25 Author Share Posted May 25 I don’t think so. But I have something actually. My friend and I aren’t friends anymore bc I was really rude actually, bc I hate when she tries on a little like kid thingy to make us friends! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Digital Mentor Monsoon Posted May 25 Digital Mentor Share Posted May 25 Hey, Sorry to hear you aren't friends anymore. I'm wondering, do you still want to be friends with them? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emiliegp Posted May 25 Author Share Posted May 25 I don’t know! Bc I have know them from kindergarden! And we have always been bff, but in 2019 we didn’t talk to much, but when we started in the same class in 2021 we became bff again. But she had changed so much! I don’t know Who they are now. Who are they and why are they like this! Like it annoying to think about the old days when they wasn’t a little of a pick me, and when they hadn’t this personality! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Digital Mentor Monsoon Posted May 26 Digital Mentor Share Posted May 26 10 hours ago, Emiliegp said: I don’t know! Bc I have know them from kindergarden! And we have always been bff, but in 2019 we didn’t talk to much, but when we started in the same class in 2021 we became bff again. But she had changed so much! I don’t know Who they are now. Who are they and why are they like this! Like it annoying to think about the old days when they wasn’t a little of a pick me, and when they hadn’t this personality! Hey there, Ah, okay, so there's been a chance in the friendship then. I'm wondering, based on what you know about them now, are they the kind of person you want to be close? What's the first answer that comes to mind? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emiliegp Posted May 26 Author Share Posted May 26 They aren’t really that. Bc my other bestfriend, that I love for life has a much better personality, and Thats How I want the person I wanna be close to, to be. My bestfriend is kind, helpful, and she cares for me. My other friend that I’m not friends with, are way meaner and not so care as her! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Digital Mentor Blondie Posted May 27 Digital Mentor Share Posted May 27 16 hours ago, Emiliegp said: They aren’t really that. Bc my other bestfriend, that I love for life has a much better personality, and Thats How I want the person I wanna be close to, to be. My bestfriend is kind, helpful, and she cares for me. My other friend that I’m not friends with, are way meaner and not so care as her! Hi there, it's really common for our friendships to change as we grow older. I'm wondering if you could lead on changing the friendship a little - how often do you typically see her? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emiliegp Posted May 27 Author Share Posted May 27 I see her everyday almost Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Digital Mentor Blondie Posted May 27 Digital Mentor Share Posted May 27 1 hour ago, Emiliegp said: I see her everyday almost Sometimes we need to make slight changes, if you see her socially, could you slowly start to limit the time you spend together? Say to once or twice a week? That doesn't work for everyone of course as some people prefer a clean break - which would you say fits you better? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emiliegp Posted May 28 Author Share Posted May 28 The once or twice a week is better. But I am in the same class as her! And its really annoying me because I see her everyday Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Digital Mentor Blondie Posted May 28 Digital Mentor Share Posted May 28 1 hour ago, Emiliegp said: The once or twice a week is better. But I am in the same class as her! And its really annoying me because I see her everyday I can see how that's tricky. Try to start each day in class by saying hello /being friendly as normal but limit the time before moving to be with others friends. Than maybe suggest a dedicated time to see her so she knows you're not trying to cut her out. (For example: "Let's do xxx on Thursday after school?" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emiliegp Posted May 29 Author Share Posted May 29 Ok i’ll try that 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Digital Mentor Blondie Posted May 29 Digital Mentor Share Posted May 29 59 minutes ago, Emiliegp said: Ok i’ll try that Let us know how you get on! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emiliegp Posted May 29 Author Share Posted May 29 I will! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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