Sieg Posted April 7, 2022 Share Posted April 7, 2022 It’s been so volatile lately. Certain weeks I feel more and more attracted to men and feel no attraction to women and other times it’s the opposite. Lately, I’ve been leaning towards men. It’s just been taking a toll on me mentally and I don’t know what to do. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted April 8, 2022 Share Posted April 8, 2022 12 hours ago, Sieg said: It’s been so volatile lately. Certain weeks I feel more and more attracted to men and feel no attraction to women and other times it’s the opposite. Lately, I’ve been leaning towards men. It’s just been taking a toll on me mentally and I don’t know what to do. Hey Sieg, Welcome to the community; I'm one of the digital mentors here and I give advice and support to those who reach out to us. It sounds like you're going back and forth a lot which I know can be really frustrating from other people I've supported. I'm wondering, what do you think it is specifically that's taking a toll on you mentally? Is it the uncertainty? Is it anxiety? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sieg Posted April 8, 2022 Author Share Posted April 8, 2022 (edited) I simply can’t decide. I know labels don’t matter, but to me structure does. I want to have this schema off my identity in my brain. Edited April 8, 2022 by Sieg MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sieg Posted April 8, 2022 Author Share Posted April 8, 2022 3 hours ago, Monsoon said: Hey Sieg, Welcome to the community; I'm one of the digital mentors here and I give advice and support to those who reach out to us. It sounds like you're going back and forth a lot which I know can be really frustrating from other people I've supported. I'm wondering, what do you think it is specifically that's taking a toll on you mentally? Is it the uncertainty? Is it anxiety? It’s both. I have no idea how to feel anymore and I’m losing my sense of identity because of it. I think it’s a combination of anxiety over losing that sense of who I am and uncertainty in having no clear definition for myself. I think I just prefer structure in terms of how I define myself. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted April 9, 2022 Share Posted April 9, 2022 17 hours ago, Sieg said: It’s both. I have no idea how to feel anymore and I’m losing my sense of identity because of it. I think it’s a combination of anxiety over losing that sense of who I am and uncertainty in having no clear definition for myself. I think I just prefer structure in terms of how I define myself. Hey there, Yeah, that need for structure is totally normal, and when you don't have that, it can make you feel quite anxious. Deep down, we all want to know who we are, whether we put labels on it or not, and when we don't know, it can leave us feeling quite lost. I'm wondering, do you think there's anything you can do to explore your identity more at this point? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sieg Posted April 9, 2022 Author Share Posted April 9, 2022 7 hours ago, Monsoon said: Hey there, Yeah, that need for structure is totally normal, and when you don't have that, it can make you feel quite anxious. Deep down, we all want to know who we are, whether we put labels on it or not, and when we don't know, it can leave us feeling quite lost. I'm wondering, do you think there's anything you can do to explore your identity more at this point? I have no clue. Maybe I could just find structure some other way. Maybe I could find something new to do to construct a new aspect of my identity, but that feels like avoidance. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted April 10, 2022 Share Posted April 10, 2022 Hey, Can you tell me more about how it feels like avoidance? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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