anais.e Posted October 27, 2021 Share Posted October 27, 2021 Im a 17 year old female, and im confused!!!!!! ive always been a bit boy obsessed and i CRAVE validation. But getting older i experimented with a female friend and i also find her extremely attractive (sexually too). she kinda opened my eyes to the fact that i find a lot of other girls attractive and non-binary people, still some men. however ive also realised the men that im attracted to are usually celebrities and are unatainable. i can also imagine being in a relationship with all genders. but every time i think mabye im not straight i feel some type of guilt and i just dont know if im overthinking everything and im just straight. but also ive taken A LOT of quizzes and i usually get results other then straight, and when i get straight i find im dissapionted!!! does this mean something?? but i also dk if i actuallylike someone as a friend or more? and idk if i actually like men or just want validation? someone PLEASE HELP MEEEE MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted October 28, 2021 Share Posted October 28, 2021 Hey there, Welcome to our community and thank you for opening up to us about this. I'm curious to know about the guilt you're experiencing; can you tell me what you're feeling guilty about? Also, yeah, that is interesting that you feel disappointed when you get 'straight'. What do you think that could mean? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dewdrop Posted November 1, 2021 Share Posted November 1, 2021 I wouldn't stress the quizzes. For me they almost always give the wrong result. 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chabela Posted December 14, 2021 Share Posted December 14, 2021 On 10/27/2021 at 3:30 PM, anais.e said: Im a 17 year old female, and im confused!!!!!! ive always been a bit boy obsessed and i CRAVE validation. But getting older i experimented with a female friend and i also find her extremely attractive (sexually too). she kinda opened my eyes to the fact that i find a lot of other girls attractive and non-binary people, still some men. however ive also realised the men that im attracted to are usually celebrities and are unatainable. i can also imagine being in a relationship with all genders. but every time i think mabye im not straight i feel some type of guilt and i just dont know if im overthinking everything and im just straight. but also ive taken A LOT of quizzes and i usually get results other then straight, and when i get straight i find im dissapionted!!! does this mean something?? but i also dk if i actuallylike someone as a friend or more? and idk if i actually like men or just want validation? someone PLEASE HELP MEEEE So have you had a relationship with a guy? and also, I think you might be omni ( liking everyone regardless of sexuality or gender) , poly ( liking all genders) , maybe even abrosexual ( sexually fluid). 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anais.e Posted December 16, 2021 Author Share Posted December 16, 2021 On 12/14/2021 at 9:44 PM, Chabela said: So have you had a relationship with a guy? and also, I think you might be omni ( liking everyone regardless of sexuality or gender) , poly ( liking all genders) , maybe even abrosexual ( sexually fluid). I’ve had crushes but not a proper relationship. Tysm I’m definitely going to look more into those terms. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chabela Posted December 16, 2021 Share Posted December 16, 2021 1 hour ago, anais.e said: I’ve had crushes but not a proper relationship. Tysm I’m definitely going to look more into those terms. of course! I have hopes you will find a solution :) MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
a human_56 Posted December 17, 2021 Share Posted December 17, 2021 On 10/28/2021 at 4:30 AM, anais.e said: Im a 17 year old female, and im confused!!!!!! ive always been a bit boy obsessed and i CRAVE validation. But getting older i experimented with a female friend and i also find her extremely attractive (sexually too). she kinda opened my eyes to the fact that i find a lot of other girls attractive and non-binary people, still some men. however ive also realised the men that im attracted to are usually celebrities and are unatainable. i can also imagine being in a relationship with all genders. but every time i think mabye im not straight i feel some type of guilt and i just dont know if im overthinking everything and im just straight. but also ive taken A LOT of quizzes and i usually get results other then straight, and when i get straight i find im dissapionted!!! does this mean something?? but i also dk if i actuallylike someone as a friend or more? and idk if i actually like men or just want validation? someone PLEASE HELP MEEEE Hi, sexuality can be really confusing and I'm definitely not an an expert (if anyone can actually be an expert on this kind of thing) but I have a couple of tips that might help you. - often questioning your sexuality can be a big sign you're not straight - i'm lesbian and ik whenever I get straight on quizzes I feel disappointed or that something's not right - maybe look into stuff like compulsory heterosexuality (or comphet) and do some research about other sexualities - a lot of definitions for sexual orientations are general, not like a rule that you have to confine to otherwise you aren't said sexuality. for example, lesbian can be defined as a woman who is attracted to women, but also (in my case) someone who isn't male who is attracted to non-men. there's so many variations, and just remember that labels aren't designed to create a box that you have to fit into - also, you don't have to use labels if you don't want to, not having a label doesn't make you any less valid 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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