notkelly Posted October 25, 2021 Share Posted October 25, 2021 so i just came out as bi to my mom. i (24f) am engaged to a 23 year old male, who i already came out to. my family has always been very accepting of anything and my moms best friend is an open lesbian. my brother, sister-in-law, and fiance wer all at my moms today and everyone in the room knew i was bi except my mom. I had tried to come out to her several times before but i always get too scared and back out. my sister-in-law made a comment about a new character being bisexual in a show and i got a little spurt of confidence and said “hey mom did u know im bisexual?” And she thought it was a joke, which i totally get cuz i was giggling and stuff but we all kept saying “no, really!” We eventually let it slide and went home a while later. I then texted her and said “hey, i really am bisexual by the way. Not a joke:)” and she didnt believe me at first. Asked how i knew since i have never had sexual experience with a woman. Then called me. I told her ive known for a while and just thought that would be a casual opportunity to come out, as i didnt want to make it a huge deal since it doesnt change anything. She said i needed to take it more seriously and that i shouldnt have come out like that. I 100% regret it now but am i wrong for coming out that way? I truly thought she would just say “oh really? Awesome!” like my fiance, friends, and brother did. Any advice on how to go forward from here would be appreciated. Currently cant stop crying:/ MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted October 25, 2021 Share Posted October 25, 2021 Hey @notkelly Welcome and thank you for opening up to us here. How are you feeling now? I noticed that some time has passed since you made this comment. I'm sorry to hear that you're upset at the moment, but I can totally understand your reaction. From what you've said, I think that you handled coming out really well, and I'm curious to know, did your mother say how you should have gone about it? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
notkelly Posted October 25, 2021 Author Share Posted October 25, 2021 I’m feeling better but still very hurt. My mom said I should have gotten her alone and told her in a serious way, but that doesn’t feel comfortable for me. Thanks for responding. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted October 26, 2021 Share Posted October 26, 2021 Hey @notkelly Yeah, I can imagine that this was a hurtful thing for you to hear. What do you think about how she would have preferred you to come out? How did that land with you? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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