girl-in-red Posted July 24, 2021 Share Posted July 24, 2021 Hi all! So I feel like I'm having an identity crisis lately because I can't figure out who I am, who I like, how to dress, or how to act. I think I'm bi (she/her) , and really want to start dating girls, but I feel like I look too straight to be approached. Whenever I dress more masculine, I feel like people know I'm queer, which is what I like. But I also really like dressing femme, but don't want to look straight (if that makes sense). So I guess I'm looking for advice on how to make my femme looks appear more ~fruity~ so that girls know I like girls. I was thinking of getting a rainbow bracelet or something. Or switching up my hair to make it look more queer. I dont know, any thoughts? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted July 25, 2021 Share Posted July 25, 2021 Hey @girl-in-red Welcome I think that it's pretty normal to go through a period where you question your identity, and I guess that's your mind's way of telling you to get out there and explore which is exciting! I think that the most important thing to do is find what's right for you, or do whatever feels most comfortable for you. I think that changing your hair or getting a rainbow bracelet or badge sounds great, but only if they feel right to you. What do you reckon? I wonder, could you mix both the masc and the femme in a way? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
girl-in-red Posted July 27, 2021 Author Share Posted July 27, 2021 hey! thanks for the reply :)) I'm struggling to find how I would like to present myself, as I am heavily influenced by the people around me and their styles. I think going thrifting and seeing what I'm drawn to is how I find items "my style"- so i'll continue to do to. And the items I get thrifting are always very androgynous pieces- which, to me, is a good way to combine femme and masc. I'm taking it day-by-day and basing my outfits on my moods! I think I'll leave my hair alone until I'm feeling more sure of myself and my identity. Buuut I do want to pick up a rainbow bracelet just to indicate that I am bi to other ppl. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted July 27, 2021 Share Posted July 27, 2021 Hey, How are you doing today? Yeah, they all sound like great ideas. I think it's really important to just take it day-by-day as you've said and see what feels right at the time. Maybe you can let us know how it goes when you've been thrifting again? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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