attackontaetanss Posted May 29, 2021 Share Posted May 29, 2021 I'm going to be very blunt here. I'm Indian, and I don't really like it. I've got very stereotypical opinion-ed parents, who think I should wear modest clothing and all that stuff. I'm okay with that, but lately they've been telling me to wear traditional clothing in public and I don't like that. I've told them loads of times that I don't want to wear those kinds of clothes, but for nothing. How can I tell them I want to wear what I like, without pissing them off? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditch the Label Staff Blondie Posted May 29, 2021 Ditch the Label Staff Share Posted May 29, 2021 Hey @taeuccci and welcome! It can take a long time (and work!) to be really comfortable with ourselves and all the different things that make us who we are. I imagine that trying to balance your cultural identity with your own sense of self can be challenging. Although it's completely normal to feel this way, a lot of people going through this eventually find a good mix of being able to express yourself which really reflects who you are, with celebrating your culture and all the richness, beauty and diversity that comes with that part of your life. This also ties in with your introduction on feelings of being ugly. Do you think there's a reason why your parents have recently been asking this of you? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
attackontaetanss Posted May 29, 2021 Author Share Posted May 29, 2021 Well, recently I have been going through puberty and stuff, so I think that plays a role in them asking me to do this. From their point of view, puberty is a big change where we should start acting more mature. I agree with that, but it gets a bit much and suffocating at times. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted May 30, 2021 Share Posted May 30, 2021 Hey @taeuccci Yeah, I can totally see why it would be suffocating. When we want to do one thing and people close to us are telling us to do the exact opposite, it can be quite tough on us. I think that there is something powerful in just being able to do what you like and trying to not pay much attention to the requests and judgements of others. Do you know what I mean? I guess that they already know what you like to wear. Do you reckon it might be a case of just doing it more and letting them get used to it? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
attackontaetanss Posted May 31, 2021 Author Share Posted May 31, 2021 Hello @Monsoon For now, I guess I'm just going to continue refusing to wear what they want me to wear until they get tired of it. Thank you for hearing me out :)) MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted May 31, 2021 Share Posted May 31, 2021 Love it :). They will get used to it sooner or later, and you'll feel better for it! MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stormy_Skies Posted July 2, 2021 Share Posted July 2, 2021 I’m an Brown girl (or something), so feel free to pm me if you want 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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