Wanting to hook up or seek a friends with benefits?

[pricelessppp]

I never dated or been in any sorta relationship in my late teens due to school. And resonantly I've been wanting to Date or Hook up with people is that normal? Tried to take my mind off of it for a while but that didn't do any thing. What are some good real advice & steps I should do if I want to meet someone in my age group & hook up with them or seek a Friends with benefits relationship? Most dating & relationship advice is modern & sucks. Hope this makes since.

[Remi]

Hello @pricelessppp

 

It's totally fine to not get in a relationship in your teens, it's a time to just enjoy yourself and figure out who you are. I think looking for a "friend with benefits' is not the way to go about it - this kind of thing would put some people off I think.

 

It's important to be clear and upfront about what you want, and as long as both of you and happy and there is consent that this is what the relationship is then that is okay. Not everything has to end in commitment and its okay to communicate that with your partner.

 

I would say that some online apps can be good for meeting people your age, just make sure you always tell a friend where you are and meet them in a public place and never at a house.

 

You could also join some clubs where you could meet some people that have similar interests to you and then you would have something to talk about?

 

Try inviting someone to something relaxed like a coffee first and get to know them a bit, ask questions and take an interest in them, compliment them if you feel like you want to say something but don't force something out thats not there and remember to just be yourself.

 

How does that sound?

 

-Remi

[pricelessppp]

Good advice. Wondering Why do you think a Friends with Benefits relationship isn't the way you should go about it? You mean getting a actual girlfriend instead? How could you possibly commit to one person with out having experiance with this thing & intimacy etc. Something I Intent on dating etc.

[Remi]

Hello @pricelessppp

 

No I don't think you should rush into a relationship. Sometimes the term 'friend with benefits' can put someone off. It can be casual dating. Just make sure both you and the person you meet are happy that you aren't looking for anything too serious. Keep an open mind and see what happens.

 

_Remi