How can I come out to homophobic parents and friends?

[BiSexual Hot Mess]

So, I am bi and I knew since 2 years ago. (When I was 11, since I'm 13) I'm not sure whether I should come out this early or later, and I'm not sure how to get my friends and family to accept me. My parents are extremely homophobic and I don't think my friends are homophobic, but I think that they will make fun of me when I come out. They don't mean anything bad, but it really hurts. I don't want to tell them though because they may actually start to harass me. Can someone please help me? I've read many articles including one on here, ditchthelabel, but I just don't understand. Please help me, thanks!

[IHATEME1478]

If you feel like people wont except you i would say wait it out, im lesbian so i understand how hard it is. See how people will react when they talk about lgbt+ stuff. I know im not a mentor or anything but please consider my advice.

[Remi]

Hey there @BiSexual Hot Mess

 

Welcome to our community, we're happy to have you here.

 

It's awesome that you have read some of our guides too. So it's totally normal to explore your sexuality at this age. It's awesome that you feel as though you are bisexual but there really is no rush to come out. Do you have a best friend or just one friend you could tell so that you've let someone know? I would say do what feels best for you but waiting until you've explored a bit further could be an option?

 

With your parents, if you do choose to come out then please make sure you are safe and that you have a plan b of somewhere to stay if they do take it badly.

 

Remi

[BiSexual Hot Mess]

Thank you, I'm thinking of telling my friend that's really accepting but I'm kind of nervous. If I tell her, I am afraid she might tell anyone else or people might overhear, and I might have a breakdown. (I have trust issues) Our school is extremely supportive so I might join our LGBTQ+ group next year and ask them what to do. Thank you for all your support!

[IHATEME1478]

I have trust issues too, having trust issues isn't uncommon, don't do anything you think you are to possibly regret in the future. It's good to join groups to ask them about this stuff, i think joining a group would be a really good idea. No problem by the way. I am glad i could help a tiny bit.

[Remi]

Hey @BiSexual Hot Mess

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It's really cool you have someone in mind to talk to. Could you go on a long walk with them, somewhere away from all people and tell them that they are the first person you have told and how much you will value them keeping it a secret until you are ready to share it.

 

Joined the LGBTQ+ group also sounds like an ace idea, it's good to hear that school is supportive too.

 

-Remi