How can I deal with my divorced parents and their ongoing drama?

[lovelylovely]

My parents are divorced however they make me feel like I need to chose one side , instead of being allowed to love both of them equally which is how I truly feel but I feel scared to say it sometimes incase one of them reacts negatively

[Remi]

Hi Lovely lovely,

 

Welcome to Community!

 

I'm sorry you feel put in the middle of your parent's divorce. It is really common for children to feel this, no matter what age. When my parents got divorced I felt really strongly to my Mum and always felt guilty about that.

 

Its really good that you love your parents equally - and I'm sure deep down they know that too, just know that none of this is any of your fault and it doesn't change the way they love you. Your parents are ending their marriage and so they will have so many emotions circling around which is why they may seem irritable or angry but i'm sure deep down they just want to divorce in a way that causes minimum disruption to your life.

 

Do you have any other siblings?

 

Remi