I have a boyfriend but i still have feelings for someone i was in a situationahip with

[soph_123]

i am in a brilliant relationship at the moment wirh my bf and could not ask for anything different but while i was drunk last week i was walked home by a few of my friends, one of which i had a situationship with in november but nothing came of it. but on the walk home i was holding his hand and he was looking after me (as i am diabetic and was having a hypo) but i still felt like i still had feelings for him and i’m not really sure how i am meant to take it. when the situationship ended i was in hospital being diagnosed with diabeties and there was no closure to it as he moved on. but i’m not really sure how to feel as i do love my bf so much. is it bad that i’m thinking this? 

[Aurora]

13 hours ago, soph_123 said:

i am in a brilliant relationship at the moment wirh my bf and could not ask for anything different but while i was drunk last week i was walked home by a few of my friends, one of which i had a situationship with in november but nothing came of it. but on the walk home i was holding his hand and he was looking after me (as i am diabetic and was having a hypo) but i still felt like i still had feelings for him and i’m not really sure how i am meant to take it. when the situationship ended i was in hospital being diagnosed with diabeties and there was no closure to it as he moved on. but i’m not really sure how to feel as i do love my bf so much. is it bad that i’m thinking this? 

Hi there, I noticed that you are new here and I wanted to say a huge big welcome!! It's lovely to have you here . I'm Aurora and I am one of the support mentors here. I give support and advice to those who reach out to us. If you ever want to talk about anything in confidence then you can send us a message via the confidential support tab at the top of the page. 

Thank you so much for being so open with us. It sounds to me like you are feeling a bit confused about your feelings at the moment. Is that right? I can reassure you that it's not bad, that you are having these thoughts and it's really good that you are talking about how you are feeling. Feelings are complicated and we can't just turn our feelings for someone on and off. Talking about it can sometimes help us to process our feelings and get more clarity.  You mentioned that you were in a situationship with one of your friends, back in November and that you've had no closure. Do you mind telling me a bit more about that? I feel like you not having any closure might be linked to how you are feeling now. What do you think? 

Can I ask, how long have you been in a relationship with your boyfriend? And do you mind me asking, if you have told your boyfriend about any of this?