Am i bisexual

[0275]

13 minutes ago, Rolo said:

Yea tried that i just feel alienated and out of place 

Lgbtq+ dating app?

[Rolo]

Yea

[0275]

I’m sure there are some out there right?

[Rolo]

[Luie]

On 4/26/2023 at 1:58 PM, Rolo said:

How to say this 

 Can you still be atracted or curious about both sexes when you feel emotionally numb 

Am I a Hypocrite when I keep teling my self  I aint attracted to both sexes only the opposite sex

Been straight my whole life but been trough some shit that can give you a brain circuit shortage meld down were you question things   i have a feeling im wrong but you can't realy deny that butterfly feeling well pastense dont really feel it so much but its still there 

So any ideas or am i just going delusional

Btw not looking for relationship  im still sane to understand im not stable and not my selff so any advise  

Heyy @Rolo, Yes, it is possible to feel attracted or curious about both sexes when experiencing emotional numbness. You are not being hypocritical for telling yourself that you are only attracted to the opposite sex, as it is common for individuals to struggle with their sexual orientation and identity. It is understandable that you are questioning things due to difficult experiences you have gone through. It is important to remember that our emotions and attractions can be complex and fluid, and it is okay to explore and discover what feels right for you. It may be helpful to talk to a therapist or a trusted friend or family member about your feelings and concerns. They can offer support and guidance as you navigate your emotions and identity. How does this all sound to you?

On 4/26/2023 at 3:16 PM, Rolo said:

Friends evreyone feel homophobic

Parents has beliefs which I agree in a sense meaning all of it. And dont want to even touch the topic of beliefs and religion because thene im just going in to go insane 

And i just can't date because I have no social skills I don't socialize with people much and I don't go out really I'm still active but there's no emotional attachment to what I'm doing [ hobbies] .

Been hurt and Betrayed allot so no point of really socialising.

 

It sounds like you are in a difficult situation where you feel isolated and unsupported. It can be challenging to deal with friends and family members who hold homophobic beliefs, but it is important to remember that their beliefs do not define you or your worth as a person. You are entitled to love and be attracted to whomever you choose, regardless of other people's opinions. Does this resonate with you? 

As for your lack of social skills and emotional attachment to your hobbies, it may be helpful to seek out therapy or perhaps the counsellor at school on developing these skills and building connections with others. Therapy can also help you process past hurts and betrayals and develop coping strategies for moving forward. It is okay to take things one step at a time and focus on small goals to improve your social skills and emotional wellbeing. I want to check though, is this something that is accessible for you? 

You are not alone @Rolo, here to support you the best I can. 

 

[Luie]

22 hours ago, 0275 said:

I’m sure there are some out there right?

Yes, there are several LGBTQI+ dating apps that are designed specifically for young people. Here are a few options:

• Yubo - This app is designed for teenagers aged 13-25 and allows users to connect with people who share similar interests and hobbies
• Taimi - This app is for LGBTQI+ people of all ages, but it has a strong focus on safety and security for younger users
• Zoe - This app is designed for queer women and has a strong focus on creating a supportive community for young LGBTQI+ people
• OkCupid - This app is open to people of all sexual orientations and has a comprehensive profile system that allows users to share a lot of information about themselves
• HER - This app is designed for LGBTQI+ women and has a strong focus on building a community and providing resources and support for users

I do want to highlight though that it's important to remember that while dating apps can be a great way to connect with others from the community, it's always important to prioritize your safety and well-being. Be sure to take precautions when meeting people in person and trust your instincts if something doesn't feel right.

 

[Rolo]

2 hours ago, Luie said:

Heyy @Rolo, Yes, it is possible to feel attracted or curious about both sexes when experiencing emotional numbness. You are not being hypocritical for telling yourself that you are only attracted to the opposite sex, as it is common for individuals to struggle with their sexual orientation and identity. It is understandable that you are questioning things due to difficult experiences you have gone through. It is important to remember that our emotions and attractions can be complex and fluid, and it is okay to explore and discover what feels right for you. It may be helpful to talk to a therapist or a trusted friend or family member about your feelings and concerns. They can offer support and guidance as you navigate your emotions and identity. How does this all sound to you?

It sounds like you are in a difficult situation where you feel isolated and unsupported. It can be challenging to deal with friends and family members who hold homophobic beliefs, but it is important to remember that their beliefs do not define you or your worth as a person. You are entitled to love and be attracted to whomever you choose, regardless of other people's opinions. Does this resonate with you? 

As for your lack of social skills and emotional attachment to your hobbies, it may be helpful to seek out therapy or perhaps the counsellor at school on developing these skills and building connections with others. Therapy can also help you process past hurts and betrayals and develop coping strategies for moving forward. It is okay to take things one step at a time and focus on small goals to improve your social skills and emotional wellbeing. I want to check though, is this something that is accessible for you? 

You are not alone @Rolo, here to support you the best I can. 

1. How does this all sound to you?

sounds ok but i don't have the surported friends  family member or therapist and i don't think i can come out becuas im not even sertan enough if i am atracted to both becuase its just complicated 

 

2.  Does this resonate with you? 

wont say my parents is homophobic and they are fantastic parents but its hard because they were scared that i will be dealing with these problems. We had moments were we discussed  my sexuality and were i acread it's only doubts and nothing more and they don't really want to talk about it because they are scared its only going push me away.

 

its just i feel like if i came out with these problems i be alienated or not just that it be a total disaster

 

 

 

 

3. I want to check though, is this something that is accessible for you?

At the moment no and they don't know about my problems i did tell my mother i feel burnt out butt she says that i dont have a reason to feel like that so i just keep it to my self. Its hard because if they say your faking it or i don't want to here your sob story then what else am I supposed to do : keep my head dow and fake it untill you make it nah it always ends with a bad note ; fighting. 

 

 

 

[Rolo]

3 hours ago, Luie said:

Yes, there are several LGBTQI+ dating apps that are designed specifically for young people. Here are a few options:

• Yubo - This app is designed for teenagers aged 13-25 and allows users to connect with people who share similar interests and hobbies
• Taimi - This app is for LGBTQI+ people of all ages, but it has a strong focus on safety and security for younger users
• Zoe - This app is designed for queer women and has a strong focus on creating a supportive community for young LGBTQI+ people
• OkCupid - This app is open to people of all sexual orientations and has a comprehensive profile system that allows users to share a lot of information about themselves
• HER - This app is designed for LGBTQI+ women and has a strong focus on building a community and providing resources and support for users

I do want to highlight though that it's important to remember that while dating apps can be a great way to connect with others from the community, it's always important to prioritize your safety and well-being. Be sure to take precautions when meeting people in person and trust your instincts if something doesn't feel right.

I dont know i feel a bit off about dating  apps or that type of things. 

 

[Luie]

22 hours ago, Rolo said:

I dont know i feel a bit off about dating  apps or that type of things. 

Heyy @Rolo, these are just suggestions as you had asked about them. You do not have to sign up on any of these apps, or apps at all whilst you're figuring things about for yourself. No pressure in any way.

[Rolo]

Thanks yes thats also a bit better I will try it out and see.

[Rolo]

22 hours ago, Rolo said:

1. How does this all sound to you?

sounds ok but i don't have the surported friends  family member or therapist and i don't think i can come out becuas im not even sertan enough if i am atracted to both becuase its just complicated 

2.  Does this resonate with you? 

wont say my parents is homophobic and they are fantastic parents but its hard because they were scared that i will be dealing with these problems. We had moments were we discussed  my sexuality and were i acread it's only doubts and nothing more and they don't really want to talk about it because they are scared its only going push me away.

its just i feel like if i came out with these problems i be alienated or not just that it be a total disaster

3. I want to check though, is this something that is accessible for you?

At the moment no and they don't know about my problems i did tell my mother i feel burnt out butt she says that i dont have a reason to feel like that so i just keep it to my self. Its hard because if they say your faking it or i don't want to here your sob story then what else am I supposed to do : keep my head dow and fake it untill you make it nah it always ends with a bad note ; fighting. 

 

[Luie]

25 minutes ago, Rolo said:

22 hours ago, Rolo said:

1. How does this all sound to you?

sounds ok but i don't have the surported friends  family member or therapist and i don't think i can come out becuas im not even sertan enough if i am atracted to both becuase its just complicated 

2.  Does this resonate with you? 

wont say my parents is homophobic and they are fantastic parents but its hard because they were scared that i will be dealing with these problems. We had moments were we discussed  my sexuality and were i acread it's only doubts and nothing more and they don't really want to talk about it because they are scared its only going push me away.

its just i feel like if i came out with these problems i be alienated or not just that it be a total disaster

3. I want to check though, is this something that is accessible for you?

At the moment no and they don't know about my problems i did tell my mother i feel burnt out butt she says that i dont have a reason to feel like that so i just keep it to my self. Its hard because if they say your faking it or i don't want to here your sob story then what else am I supposed to do : keep my head dow and fake it untill you make it nah it always ends with a bad note ; fighting. 

 

I'm sorry to hear that you don't have the support of friends, family, or a therapist at the moment, and that you feel like coming out about your sexuality and your struggles with it could lead to alienation or disaster. It's understandable to feel scared or unsure about discussing these issues with people who may not be accepting or understanding. It's definitely tough when people close to you, like your parents, may not understand or validate your feelings of burnout or other struggles. I do want to say though that it's important to remember that your feelings are valid even if everyone else does not agree or understand it. Btw, If you don't feel comfortable coming out to your parents or others in your life, that's completely okay. It's important to prioritize your own wellbeing and safety, always. Has being on this community been helpful to you in anyway with other members and mentors? 

I do want to remind you that it might seem lonely, but you are not alone, and that there we are here to help you.

I did want to check with you whether the support you're receiving is what you need from us, or is there anything else?

 

[Rolo]

Yes so far you guys are doing great thanks for the suport to the mentors and the members on this topic 

Yes there is more stuff i wanna talk about at a later date if i feel more comfortable and its a complicated topic a bit hard on the soul.

 

 

[Luie]

23 hours ago, Rolo said:

Yes so far you guys are doing great thanks for the suport to the mentors and the members on this topic 

Yes there is more stuff i wanna talk about at a later date if i feel more comfortable and its a complicated topic a bit hard on the soul.

Ofcourse @Rolo, here for you.  Glad to hear that so far the support has been helpful. We can talk more about this or anything else, you can always revisit thoughts and feelings too because things do come up depending on things in our lives! 

[Rolo]

Thank you will do