Am i bisexual

[0275]

Ok so I’m a 14 year old and I think I’m bisexual and I wanna say it but I don’t know cause my mom keeps saying wait till your sixteen someone help me with these thoughts!

[Hazard]

5 hours ago, 0275 said:

Ok so I’m a 14 year old and I think I’m bisexual and I wanna say it but I don’t know cause my mom keeps saying wait till your sixteen someone help me with these thoughts!

Hey, I think that if you believe you are bisexual, you don’t have to wait to reach a certain age. Sexuality can change throughout time though, so while it may change, it is still valid, so you can totally say you’re bisexual. 

[0275]

1 hour ago, Emberfrost12 said:

Hey, I think that if you believe you are bisexual, you don’t have to wait to reach a certain age. Sexuality can change throughout time though, so while it may change, it is still valid, so you can totally say you’re bisexual. 

Thank you for this emberfrost I have just ordered myself a handheld flag and I just wanna say thank again for the confidence boost

[Hazard]

1 minute ago, 0275 said:

Thank you for this emberfrost I have just ordered myself a handheld flag and I just wanna say thank again for the confidence boost

You’re very welcome. If you need help with anything else, just ask :)

[0275]

3 minutes ago, Emberfrost12 said:

You’re very welcome. If you need help with anything else, just ask :)

How do I tell my dad though cause he said when I start getting interested in boys he’s gonna lock me in the attic with a bucket of fisheads

[0275]

Btw how do I mark something as the solution cause I can’t find the button

 

[Hazard]

Just now, 0275 said:

How do I tell my dad though cause he said when I start getting interested in boys he’s gonna lock me in the attic with a bucket of fisheads

If you mother is more okay with it, then I recommend you tell her first and make sure she’s with you when you tell her dad

[Hazard]

1 minute ago, 0275 said:

Btw how do I mark something as the solution cause I can’t find the button

In all honesty, I’m not entirely sure :)

[0275]

Just now, Emberfrost12 said:

In all honesty, I’m not entirely sure :)

XD SO NEITHER OF US KNOW

[Hazard]

Pretty much

[0275]

Tbh your a pretty good guy/gal/person

[Hazard]

Just now, 0275 said:

Tbh your a pretty good guy/gal/person

Thanks ^^

[0275]

I should probably get to sleep it’s like 10:30 pm in wales

[Hazard]

1 minute ago, 0275 said:

I should probably get to sleep it’s like 10:30 pm in wales

Ah, yeah. Get to sleep then, now that I’ve hopefully settled some of your thinking :)

[Luie]

18 hours ago, 0275 said:

Ok so I’m a 14 year old and I think I’m bisexual and I wanna say it but I don’t know cause my mom keeps saying wait till your sixteen someone help me with these thoughts!

Heyy @0275, I am Luie, one of the support mentors with Ditch the Label. I see that you're new to our platform and I wanted to firstly welcome you to our community! Thanks for choosing to join us. You can share your thoughts on the community through a post like this or reach out to the support mentor team via confidential support for a more one to one approach if needed. 

 

Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing how you've feeling, I just wanted to say  that this is a safe space for you to do so. It's completely normal to have questions and uncertainties about your sexual orientation at any age. It's also understandable to feel hesitant about sharing these thoughts and feelings with others, especially if you're not sure how they'll react. It's important to remember that there's no "right" age to come out or share your sexual orientation with others. Ultimately, the decision of when and how to come out is a personal one that should be made based on your own comfort level and safety. How does this all sound to you?

I can already see through the comments of other members on this community that  are seeming helpful and supportive for your journey, which I am happy about. Remember that you don't have to have everything figured out right away, and that it's okay to take your time as you explore your sexual orientation. The most important thing is to prioritize your own well-being and safety as you navigate this journey. We are here for you! 

 

[Luie]

11 hours ago, 0275 said:

How do I tell my dad though cause he said when I start getting interested in boys he’s gonna lock me in the attic with a bucket of fisheads

 

It's concerning to hear that your dad has made such a threatening comment about your potential sexual orientation. It's important to prioritize your safety and well-being, and if you're not comfortable sharing this information with your dad at this time, it's okay to hold off until you feel ready. If you do decide to talk to your dad about your sexual orientation, it may be helpful to have a plan in place to ensure your safety. Even if your dad has said this as a joke because he is being protective, I'd still recommend speaking to your mum and seeing how to tackle this conversation. Does this sound doable?

 

[0275]

On 4/8/2023 at 8:56 PM, SCARE said:

Hey, I think that if you believe you are bisexual, you don’t have to wait to reach a certain age. Sexuality can change throughout time though, so while it may change, it is still valid, so you can totally say you’re bisexual. 

This is the solution (sorry can’t find the button)

[Rolo]

How to say this 

 Can you still be atracted or curious about both sexes when you feel emotionally numb 

Am I a Hypocrite when I keep teling my self  I aint attracted to both sexes only the opposite sex

Been straight my whole life but been trough some shit that can give you a brain circuit shortage meld down were you question things   i have a feeling im wrong but you can't realy deny that butterfly feeling well pastense dont really feel it so much but its still there 

So any ideas or am i just going delusional

Btw not looking for relationship  im still sane to understand im not stable and not my selff so any advise  

Edited April 26, 2023 by Rolo

[0275]

1 hour ago, Rolo said:

How to say this 

 Can you still be atracted or curious about both sexes when you feel emotionally numb 

Am I a Hypocrite when I keep teling my self  I aint attracted to both sexes only the opposite sex

Been straight my whole life but been trough some shit that can give you a brain circuit shortage meld down were you question things   i have a feeling im wrong but you can't realy deny that butterfly feeling well pastense dont really feel it so much but its still there 

So any ideas or am i just going delusional

Btw not looking for relationship  im still sane to understand im not stable and not my selff so any advise  

Of course you can still be attracted to both genders even if your emotionally numb 

no of course not I went through that phase for a while

i was straight until year 7 then I went through the whole lgbtqia+ thing

ok now onto the ideas you could try experimenting with your sexuality like i did or you could ask your friends and family/peers

[Rolo]

ask your friends and family/peers Noooooo noooo noooo terrible idea

[Rolo]

Friends evreyone feel homophobic

Parents has beliefs which I agree in a sense meaning all of it. And dont want to even touch the topic of beliefs and religion because thene im just going in to go insane 

And i just can't date because I have no social skills I don't socialize with people much and I don't go out really I'm still active but there's no emotional attachment to what I'm doing [ hobbies] .

Been hurt and Betrayed allot so no point of really socialising.

Edited April 26, 2023 by Rolo

[Hazard]

2 hours ago, Rolo said:

How to say this 

 Can you still be atracted or curious about both sexes when you feel emotionally numb 

Am I a Hypocrite when I keep teling my self  I aint attracted to both sexes only the opposite sex

Been straight my whole life but been trough some shit that can give you a brain circuit shortage meld down were you question things   i have a feeling im wrong but you can't realy deny that butterfly feeling well pastense dont really feel it so much but its still there 

So any ideas or am i just going delusional

Btw not looking for relationship  im still sane to understand im not stable and not my selff so any advise  

Yes, you can be attracted even if you're emotionally numb. I am too, so I can say that with certainty

If you feel like you're questioning, then even though whatever happened happened, you can still be questioning 

 

[Rolo]

Yea thanks

[0275]

1 hour ago, Rolo said:

Friends evreyone feel homophobic

Parents has beliefs which I agree in a sense meaning all of it. And dont want to even touch the topic of beliefs and religion because thene im just going in to go insane 

And i just can't date because I have no social skills I don't socialize with people much and I don't go out really I'm still active but there's no emotional attachment to what I'm doing [ hobbies] .

Been hurt and Betrayed allot so no point of really socialising.

oh well you could try using a dating app if your social skills aren’t good

[Rolo]

Yea tried that i just feel alienated and out of place