amyl19 Posted September 18, 2018 Share Posted September 18, 2018 So I have a crush on a girl in one of my classes at uni, but I've never spoken to her before. We make eye contact a lot and I really want to talk to her but I'm a super shy person and every time I finally work up the courage to talk to her, I chicken out. My friends say I should just say hi, but that seems really hard to do now given how nervous she makes me. please help me! MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Willow Posted September 18, 2018 Share Posted September 18, 2018 Heya AmyL19, Ah, yes.. I understand the nervousness to approach someone! I think you have to start by considering why you'd like to approach her. Is it because you'd like to be friends with her, or do you want/expect more? In my experience, starting off as friends is a good way to feel out the person a bit more before making a move toward dating, etc. Here are some tips from a Valentine's-based article.. but I think the suggestions still apply: https://www.ditchthelabel.org/approach-crush-valentines-day/ When I'm feeling really nervous, and it shows, I tend to make a joke about it. It kind of lets them in, and it cuts any tension. Have you dated much? -willow MultiQuote Quote This Digital Mentor Account is no longer active. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amyl19 Posted September 19, 2018 Author Share Posted September 19, 2018 Hey Willow! I think friends first, so I can get to know her. She just seems so cool and like, so unapologetically herself which I really admire. So yeah, I'd start with friends and not expect anything more, and if it happens to move in that direction, yay me! thank you for the tips! I will definitely be keeping them in mind if/when I try to talk to her and a laugh is always good. No I haven't dated much. I've had one boyfriend but that ended quickly when he moved to London for uni. I don't think I was really into it though, never quite felt comfortable doing bf/gf things with him. thanks ! Amy x MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Willow Posted September 19, 2018 Share Posted September 19, 2018 Heya Amy! Awesome! Would love to know how it goes! She sounds like an awesome friend, at least! -willow MultiQuote Quote This Digital Mentor Account is no longer active. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
john24698 Posted November 20, 2018 Share Posted November 20, 2018 Hi. First remember girls use their heart to expres themselves. You can't talk to any girl like you would talk to your best pal. If you are shy, I recomend watch some youtube videos or even buy some online course. There are plenty of them on line. Good luck. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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