Smallkitten Posted October 1, 2022 Share Posted October 1, 2022 Hi, I'm new but have a lot of things on my chest as of this moment. So, I'm dating a boy (he's trans and an angel) but we keep getting into little arguments (I say little, but it doesn't feel like it at the time) We have arguments over him thinking he's ugly, when he really isn't but that's how he feels, and it makes me sad. He's such a sweet guy who tries to help people but i think he needs to. We both struggle with mental health issues, and we clash sometimes because of it but we soon make up really quickly. But I want to help him... MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anti-Lvcid Posted October 2, 2022 Share Posted October 2, 2022 I can give u sum advice if u would like that? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Smallkitten Posted October 2, 2022 Author Share Posted October 2, 2022 2 minutes ago, lucid said: I can give u sum advice if u would like that? yes pleaseee MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anti-Lvcid Posted October 2, 2022 Share Posted October 2, 2022 okay , question is your boyfriend gurl transitioning into boy ?? I wanna ask that .... that way I can give u the right advice . if that's okay MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Smallkitten Posted October 2, 2022 Author Share Posted October 2, 2022 yes, he is, also dw about asking questions about it MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anti-Lvcid Posted October 2, 2022 Share Posted October 2, 2022 okay , I just wanted to make sure it was okay to ask that question bc I know sum people wouldn't wana answer that UK , but thank you ! and now I'll give u ur advice . 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Solution Anti-Lvcid Posted October 2, 2022 Solution Share Posted October 2, 2022 what I feel like y'all should do is , sit down with each other and open up to each other like talking about what's effecting y'all mental health , what's causing y'all to stress , what's causing y'all to argue with each other over things that shouldn't get in between y'all. Also, I feel like since your boyfriend is trans he will feel some insecurity still since he is transiting gurl to boy he would need to learn how to self love again , because I have a friend that went boy to gurl and he had to learn how to self love herself again and realize that she is now a beautiful young women and she sees that now. So, your boyfriend has to get into the stage and realize that he is making that decision is big but it's what makes him happy , he has to learn how to be comfortable with himself and he will reach that point and know he is not ugly it's take time to accept that and he will eventually I promise you..... And for you , I know it's hard having a boyfriend who is always feeling ugly and letting his self-esteem down I know it's hard trust me I know , but you can't let that bring you down either because I always tell my significant other if you feel negative I'm going to be positive because if y'all both being negative it's going to make it worse one of y'all has to stay positive and strong that way the other person sees that it's okay to let everything out and be positive and feel good about themselves . if that makes sense. I'm pretty sure that y'all make each other happy but just stay strong and positive y'all are still young , y'all have a whole life to still explore with each other just make sure y'all stay healthy mentally , emotionally,physically, like always have a conversation with each other when y'all feel down ,depress,sad, anything that way y'all can understand each other more and always keep each other in the loop meaning like if u was to get mad at him he will know that it's bc u are feeling sad or depress, and he will know it wasn't on purpose . so always tell each other how y'all feel that way y'all understand each other more and more and build a stronger bond. I hope this helps y'all and yall relationship. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Smallkitten Posted October 2, 2022 Author Share Posted October 2, 2022 2 minutes ago, lucid said: what I feel like y'all should do is , sit down with each other and open up to each other like talking about what's effecting y'all mental health , what's causing y'all to stress , what's causing y'all to argue with each other over things that shouldn't get in between y'all. Also, I feel like since your boyfriend is trans he will feel some insecurity still since he is transiting gurl to boy he would need to learn how to self love again , because I have a friend that went boy to gurl and he had to learn how to self love herself again and realize that she is now a beautiful young women and she sees that now. So, your boyfriend has to get into the stage and realize that he is making that decision is big but it's what makes him happy , he has to learn how to be comfortable with himself and he will reach that point and know he is not ugly it's take time to accept that and he will eventually I promise you..... And for you , I know it's hard having a boyfriend who is always feeling ugly and letting his self-esteem down I know it's hard trust me I know , but you can't let that bring you down either because I always tell my significant other if you feel negative I'm going to be positive because if y'all both being negative it's going to make it worse one of y'all has to stay positive and strong that way the other person sees that it's okay to let everything out and be positive and feel good about themselves . if that makes sense. I'm pretty sure that y'all make each other happy but just stay strong and positive y'all are still young , y'all have a whole life to still explore with each other just make sure y'all stay healthy mentally , emotionally,physically, like always have a conversation with each other when y'all feel down ,depress,sad, anything that way y'all can understand each other more and always keep each other in the loop meaning like if u was to get mad at him he will know that it's bc u are feeling sad or depress, and he will know it wasn't on purpose . so always tell each other how y'all feel that way y'all understand each other more and more and build a stronger bond. I hope this helps y'all and yall relationship. omg thank you so much, this is just what I needed to here. You're amazing at giving out advice and I'll definitely do what you said x 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anti-Lvcid Posted October 2, 2022 Share Posted October 2, 2022 your so welcome , I always wanna help anyone I can help :) I know y'all will grow stronger with each other I just feel it . I'm here if u need anything 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Smallkitten Posted October 2, 2022 Author Share Posted October 2, 2022 @lucid Thank you so much MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anti-Lvcid Posted October 2, 2022 Share Posted October 2, 2022 your so welcome love 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anti-Lvcid Posted October 2, 2022 Share Posted October 2, 2022 I'm alwys here for u love 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Smallkitten Posted October 2, 2022 Author Share Posted October 2, 2022 2 minutes ago, lucid said: I'm alwys here for u love always here for you too 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anti-Lvcid Posted October 2, 2022 Share Posted October 2, 2022 when u need sum1 I gotcha frfr , I know I just met u but I feel connected to u in a way. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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