am i lesbian or bi aroace????

[aroacebananas]

so i've known that im aroace for like 3 months now

but karma decided to bitch on me and throw this in my face:

"what if u were in a qpr? you'd wanna be with a girl"

so i thought, maybe im lesbian aroace or bi aroace

the problem is

idk if im bi or lesbian bc i could be bi and just lean towards gals more than guys

or i could like both non bis and gals and i wouldnt know bc bi means "likeing two genders" NOT SPECIFICALLY MALE OR FEM

but the real problem is 

MY QUEERPHOBIC FAM/FRENDS DONT EVEN KNOW THAT IM AROACE

THEY VERY RELIGIOUS

IMAGINE HOW THEY WOULD REACT IF I WAS GAY/BI

not like im coming out anytime soon but still

how do i know if im lesbian/bi aroace and how do i learn to accept that about myself???

 

I'm not using the term "oriented aroace" bc it was coined by gatekeepers

[Daisie]

Hey @aroacebananas

I have just read your post and wondered if you'd feel it's beneficial to talk things through with one of our Trained Digital Mentors? I'll tag them in so they can reach out to you. @Monsoon & @Aurora 

If you need anything in the meantime, please feel free to reach out. 

[aroacebananas]

aaaaaaaand i'm lesbian aroace now :D

[Aurora]

16 hours ago, aroacebananas said:

aaaaaaaand i'm lesbian aroace now :D

Hi @aroacebananas, I'm Aurora, one of the support mentors here at Ditch the Label. I'm sorry you've not had a reply to your first post but I saw that you got support from our support mentors on a similar post you wrote. I'm really glad to hear you've figured out your identity. How do you feel? And do you need anymore support with anything?