Empath Posted June 26, 2022 Share Posted June 26, 2022 I have this friend that I met technically on the first day of college, also the first person I spoke to. In that first week, things were pretty good between us you know, I thought we could be good friends because well she even asked for my number so I just thought I've met a really good friend. But as time went by, things just got weird between us.Β Having a conversation with her just got so hard, even walking down the hallway with her was just awkward. It's like we never had anything to talk about, and every time I tried to bring up a topic, she just kinda shuts it out. But we had our moments, there were some great days when she was a good friend but other times, it's like I'm holding onto something that doesn't exist. She even thinks I behave like a child, judging everything I do, and always says it's childish. She calls me childish just because I'm shy. Like is that even right? She's also never invited me to hang out with her no matter how many times I invite her. I just don't know if she's a friend cause I'm sick and tired of the on-and-off friendship. I just want out 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
s.softball Posted June 26, 2022 Share Posted June 26, 2022 I'm in a bit of the same situation right now. It's so so draining becuase one day you're their favorite person and the next you don't exist. It's like, just because we're introverted we get punished for no reason for not always being the life of the party, even though we're such nice people and try so hard to make them happy. It's mentally exhausting to hang out with "friends" like these. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Empath Posted June 26, 2022 Author Share Posted June 26, 2022 I so agreeΒ MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hazard Posted June 27, 2022 Share Posted June 27, 2022 22 hours ago, Empath said: I have this friend that I met technically on the first day of college, also the first person I spoke to. In that first week, things were pretty good between us you know, I thought we could be good friends because well she even asked for my number so I just thought I've met a really good friend. But as time went by, things just got weird between us.Β Having a conversation with her just got so hard, even walking down the hallway with her was just awkward. It's like we never had anything to talk about, and every time I tried to bring up a topic, she just kinda shuts it out. But we had our moments, there were some great days when she was a good friend but other times, it's like I'm holding onto something that doesn't exist. She even thinks I behave like a child, judging everything I do, and always says it's childish. She calls me childish just because I'm shy. Like is that even right? She's also never invited me to hang out with her no matter how many times I invite her. I just don't know if she's a friend cause I'm sick and tired of the on-and-off friendship. I just want out I'm going to tag in @AuroraΒ , @BlondieΒ and @Monsoon, who are trained digital mentors, so that they can help you MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditch the Label Staff Blondie Posted June 27, 2022 Ditch the Label Staff Share Posted June 27, 2022 On 6/26/2022 at 4:01 AM, Empath said: I have this friend that I met technically on the first day of college, also the first person I spoke to. In that first week, things were pretty good between us you know, I thought we could be good friends because well she even asked for my number so I just thought I've met a really good friend. But as time went by, things just got weird between us.Β Having a conversation with her just got so hard, even walking down the hallway with her was just awkward. It's like we never had anything to talk about, and every time I tried to bring up a topic, she just kinda shuts it out. But we had our moments, there were some great days when she was a good friend but other times, it's like I'm holding onto something that doesn't exist. She even thinks I behave like a child, judging everything I do, and always says it's childish. She calls me childish just because I'm shy. Like is that even right? She's also never invited me to hang out with her no matter how many times I invite her. I just don't know if she's a friend cause I'm sick and tired of the on-and-off friendship. I just want out Hi there, it does sound like this isn't a good match - and that's okay. It's actually very healthy to recognise this and assert boundaries. I guess there are 2 ways to do it -either you have a chat and call time on it or just gradually reduce the amount of time you spend together and start building other friendships which are better for you. How does that sound? 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Empath Posted June 28, 2022 Author Share Posted June 28, 2022 11 hours ago, Blondie said: Hi there, it does sound like this isn't a good match - and that's okay. It's actually very healthy to recognise this and assert boundaries. I guess there are 2 ways to do it -either you have a chat and call time on it or just gradually reduce the amount of time you spend together and start building other friendships which are better for you. How does that sound? I actually think that's a great idea. I'm not really good at talking to people about my feelings so I'll go with option two ( spend less time together). Already started working on that some time back Thank you MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditch the Label Staff Blondie Posted June 28, 2022 Ditch the Label Staff Share Posted June 28, 2022 8 hours ago, Empath said: I actually think that's a great idea. I'm not really good at talking to people about my feelings so I'll go with option two ( spend less time together). Already started working on that some time back Thank you Let us know how you get on and weβre here if you need us! MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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