I Need Some Help

[equizyl]

I am a 14 year old guy who is in his grade 8 year. I kinda screwed myself over in winter when I was dating a girl named Tiffany. I am gay and I didn't realize until the middle of our relationship. I wanted to break it off but I have pretty bad social issues; I'm not good at talking much. That is actually the reason I was in the relationship in the first place. I can't say no to my friends. She ended up breaking up with me (thank God), but I haven't told anyone about being gay - no one would believe me. I'm such a nerd that when I was going through a depression phase, no one seemed to care, they just thought it was a plea for attention. I first kissed a guy last summer, when I was 13. He is nice, but lives in Paris, whereas I live in Guelph, Ontario. I came out to him, only because he came out to me and I knew he couldn't tell my parents. Don't get me wrong, my parents are definitely not homophobic, but I can't bring myself to come out. I was thinking of telling my friend from when I was 6, but I don't want to screw anything up between us. There is also a girl who is hitting on me right now but I don't want to screw up our friendship either. I just don't know. I am in dire need of some advice, just someone to say that it will get better, that someone will accept me. I don't want the people who I care about to look at me different. I'm still the same guy that I was before. I just don't know if they will realize.

[Monsoon]

Hey EQUIZYL,

 

Welcome to Community! We are here to help you through this, and you are not alone. It takes great courage to seek advice on this kind of situation, so thanks for coming to us and sharing.

 

Can I ask, when you say you have social issues, what do you mean? Also, I am sorry that people did not react to your depression in the way that you wanted. How did this make you feel? Also, if you don't mind me asking, are you still suffering from depression?

 

I know how scary it can be to come out ? like you, I knew that my parents were not homophobic, but it was still so terrifying to think about telling them! I started off by telling people that I didn't really know that well. Doing this helped me to build up courage to tell people that I was close to. Maybe this is a route you can take before you eventually decide to come out to your parents?

 

Here's a support guide on tips for coming out with you may find useful:

 

https://www.ditchthelabel.org/top-11-tips-for-coming-out-as-lesbian-gay-or-bi/

 

Also, when I was coming out, I found it easier to tell people over a message as opposed to face-to-face. If you are really nervous about it, then this could be a method for you to use.

 

Again, thanks for coming to us for help with your situation. I look forward to hearing back from you!

 

Sending positive vibes!

 

Monsoon ?