Broxen Posted April 1, 2022 Share Posted April 1, 2022 Im bisexual, and I have had a girlfriend for about 3 weeks. Should I come out to my mom tonight? (idk her opinion on LGBTQIA+, and im 99% positive my step dad is homophobic) MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3888-coming-out/ Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted April 2, 2022 Share Posted April 2, 2022 13 hours ago, Broxen said: Im bisexual, and I have had a girlfriend for about 3 weeks. Should I come out to my mom tonight? (idk her opinion on LGBTQIA+, and im 99% positive my step dad is homophobic) Hey there, Welcome to the Ditch the Label community. I'm one of the digital mentors here and I give advice and support to those who reach out to us. I'm wondering, how do you think it will go if you tell them now? How might they react? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3888-coming-out/#findComment-25560 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Broxen Posted April 4, 2022 Author Share Posted April 4, 2022 well, I came out to my mom on Friday night, and I told her about my girlfriend on Sunday. she luckily supported both, and i'm very grateful I have her. I have not told my step dad yet though, as I feel he might be homophobic and probably yell at me. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3888-coming-out/#findComment-25613 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted April 4, 2022 Share Posted April 4, 2022 5 hours ago, Broxen said: well, I came out to my mom on Friday night, and I told her about my girlfriend on Sunday. she luckily supported both, and i'm very grateful I have her. I have not told my step dad yet though, as I feel he might be homophobic and probably yell at me. Hey, I'm glad she was supported; how are you feeling now you've told her? Also, can you tell me more about why you feel your stepdad might be homophobic? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3888-coming-out/#findComment-25629 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Broxen Posted April 4, 2022 Author Share Posted April 4, 2022 I feel less stressed out now that I told her, and I feel my step dad is homophobic because when he found out my friend was gay, he rolled his eyes and said "that's what they all say" MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3888-coming-out/#findComment-25648 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted April 5, 2022 Share Posted April 5, 2022 17 hours ago, Broxen said: I feel less stressed out now that I told her, and I feel my step dad is homophobic because when he found out my friend was gay, he rolled his eyes and said "that's what they all say" Hey there, I'm glad you're feeling less stressed since you told her :) Also, that's an interesting comment from your step-father. Say if we look at that comment from angles, if he wasn't being homophobic, could he have meant anything else in what he said? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3888-coming-out/#findComment-25673 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Broxen Posted April 6, 2022 Author Share Posted April 6, 2022 If he wasn't being homophobic, i'm guessing what he meant by that, was "hes only saying hes gay to get closer to you than "straight" boys can" MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3888-coming-out/#findComment-25727 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted April 7, 2022 Share Posted April 7, 2022 17 hours ago, Broxen said: If he wasn't being homophobic, i'm guessing what he meant by that, was "hes only saying hes gay to get closer to you than "straight" boys can" Hey there, A thought that comes to mind is that he may think a lot of people are confused and say they are LGBTQ+ when they might not be; what do you think? I'm wondering, what's your gut feeling about this; do you think it's homophobia or can it be explained? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3888-coming-out/#findComment-25746 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Broxen Posted April 8, 2022 Author Share Posted April 8, 2022 mostly I think it's homophobia, because he wouldn't be accepting the fact, and trying to change who I am by his opinion MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3888-coming-out/#findComment-25783 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted April 9, 2022 Share Posted April 9, 2022 21 hours ago, Broxen said: mostly I think it's homophobia, because he wouldn't be accepting the fact, and trying to change who I am by his opinion Hey, Can I ask, has he ever said or done anything else that might be homophobic? Also, I'm wondering, even if he has a tricky reaction at first, how do you think it will play out over time? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3888-coming-out/#findComment-25810 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Broxen Posted April 9, 2022 Author Share Posted April 9, 2022 To be honest, he'll probably forget I even told him, he doesn't remember that my friend is gay, and keeps assuming stuff about me and him MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3888-coming-out/#findComment-25819 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted April 10, 2022 Share Posted April 10, 2022 On 4/9/2022 at 12:29 PM, Broxen said: To be honest, he'll probably forget I even told him, he doesn't remember that my friend is gay, and keeps assuming stuff about me and him Hey, Yeah, I'm wondering, do you think he will be overly concerned about it, or even concerned at all? I think my interpretation of his comment is different than yours; I think people from an older generation can maybe not understand how progressive younger people can be, so it might be coming more from that angle really and just being more of an eye-roll type situation than homophobia. What do you think? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3888-coming-out/#findComment-25841 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Broxen Posted April 10, 2022 Author Share Posted April 10, 2022 I think it could be something like that too, as he treats me like i'm still a little kid that knows nothing about the world. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3888-coming-out/#findComment-25869 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted April 11, 2022 Share Posted April 11, 2022 17 hours ago, Broxen said: I think it could be something like that too, as he treats me like i'm still a little kid that knows nothing about the world. Hey there, Yeah, so he might think that children don't know a lot, and that's why he made that comment rather than being homophobic. If that is true, how might you feel about telling him your sexuality? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3888-coming-out/#findComment-25891 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Broxen Posted April 12, 2022 Author Share Posted April 12, 2022 with the way hes been acting lately, he will probably get frustrated, and think its just a phase and tell me I know nothing about the "real world" MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3888-coming-out/#findComment-25957 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted April 13, 2022 Share Posted April 13, 2022 20 hours ago, Broxen said: with the way hes been acting lately, he will probably get frustrated, and think its just a phase and tell me I know nothing about the "real world" Hey there, I'm wondering, what would be worse, him saying that or having a homophobic reaction? What do you think? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3888-coming-out/#findComment-26049 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Broxen Posted April 13, 2022 Author Share Posted April 13, 2022 A homophobic reaction would probably be worse, but him saying that would definitely put me down since that would be like the 4th time hes said the "real world" thing this week. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3888-coming-out/#findComment-26058 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted April 14, 2022 Share Posted April 14, 2022 21 hours ago, Broxen said: A homophobic reaction would probably be worse, but him saying that would definitely put me down since that would be like the 4th time hes said the "real world" thing this week. Hey, Yeah, I totally get why it would pull you down. I'm wondering, even if he does react negatively at first, how do you think it might go over time? Do you think he could become more positive? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3888-coming-out/#findComment-26114 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Broxen Posted April 14, 2022 Author Share Posted April 14, 2022 Based on his personality and thought on stuff, probably not, unless he just forgot all about it. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3888-coming-out/#findComment-26120 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted April 15, 2022 Share Posted April 15, 2022 Hey, I'm wondering, can you have a read of this and tell me what you think? https://www.ditchthelabel.org/my-parents-didnt-react-well-to-me-coming-out/ To me, it sounds like he isn't homophobic, but instead, more like he kind of eye rolls at the younger generation when they talk about identities and things like that. However, it's often a real game changer when their child comes out because it forces them to confront their negative views head on, and love is really such a powerful thing. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3888-coming-out/#findComment-26207 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anonymous_444 Posted May 21, 2022 Share Posted May 21, 2022 Honestly just do it when you feel you’re ready :) 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/3888-coming-out/#findComment-30614 Share on other sites More sharing options...
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