Earthstar98 Posted November 29, 2021 Share Posted November 29, 2021 Hi, I'm Terra. Im from the USA and my pronouns are she/her. I've been questioning myself a lot this past year after the end of a 5yr hetero relationship and after a long truthful talk with my college bff i finally admitted the truth to myself. I'm still terrified to tell anyone as when my cousin came out a few years ago everyone was anything but supportive. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted November 29, 2021 Share Posted November 29, 2021 Hey there, Welcome to our community. How are you feeling after admitting the truth to yourself? I think a lot of people can feel quite relieved in a way, but then, it's also pretty common to feel nervous about coming out too. I'm wondering, do you think it could be different when you come out compared to how it was for your cousin? How are people with her now? I hope they're more supportive. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Earthstar98 Posted November 29, 2021 Author Share Posted November 29, 2021 I'm relieved that I'm not lying to myself anymore but very nervous about coming out. Unfortunately my family is still very judging and unsupportive. Maybe one day I'll be brave enough. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted November 30, 2021 Share Posted November 30, 2021 10 hours ago, Earthstar98 said: I'm relieved that I'm not lying to myself anymore but very nervous about coming out. Unfortunately my family is still very judging and unsupportive. Maybe one day I'll be brave enough. Hey there, I'm glad you're feeling relieved; it's so liberating when we can finally be honest with ourselves :) I'm wondering. although you've described your family as very judging and unsupportive, I'm wondering, compared to when your cousin first came out, what improvements have there been in the way that they treat her? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Earthstar98 Posted November 30, 2021 Author Share Posted November 30, 2021 There honestly haven't been any improvements. She was told that her gf couldn't attend family get togethers so they just don't come around anymore. The majority of the family is Catholic. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted November 30, 2021 Share Posted November 30, 2021 8 hours ago, Earthstar98 said: There honestly haven't been any improvements. She was told that her gf couldn't attend family get togethers so they just don't come around anymore. The majority of the family is Catholic. Hey, Okay, thank you for sharing that with me. I can totally see why this makes terrified to tell them, and I think it's a completely understandable reaction. Can I ask, how do you think your parents/carers would react? How have they been about your cousin? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Earthstar98 Posted November 30, 2021 Author Share Posted November 30, 2021 I'm not sure how my mom would react because she hasn't been as outspoken as my stepdad but both make very cruel comments on the subject. They weren't accepting of my cousin at all unfortunately MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted December 1, 2021 Share Posted December 1, 2021 13 hours ago, Earthstar98 said: I'm not sure how my mom would react because she hasn't been as outspoken as my stepdad but both make very cruel comments on the subject. They weren't accepting of my cousin at all unfortunately Hey there, Interesting that your mom hasn't been as outspoken as your stepdad; why do you think that is? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Earthstar98 Posted December 1, 2021 Author Share Posted December 1, 2021 She's always been more passive aggressive, which sometimes is worse cause you never really know what's going on MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted December 2, 2021 Share Posted December 2, 2021 23 hours ago, Earthstar98 said: She's always been more passive aggressive, which sometimes is worse cause you never really know what's going on Hey, Ah, I get you - thanks for telling me that. I'm wondering, do you think they might react differently when you come out? The reason I ask is because these views are about your cousin, and they might react differently to you because you're closer. I think it's easier for people to not have to challenge their beliefs about family members who aren't as closely related, but when it's a child or a sibling for example, it can be completely different. What do you think? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Earthstar98 Posted December 2, 2021 Author Share Posted December 2, 2021 This post has been flagged with warnings, as follows: Mental Illness, Self-Harm Click this notice to reveal the content. I want to believe that they love me enough to accept me but they've made me be little miss perfect my whole life. Cheerleading, mathleets, 4.0, never make a fuss. Little miss perfect. Last year i committed myself due to being afraid of hurting myself. My mom has said that i faked that countless times since, even with the scars so its hard to believe that they can or will accept me. Nobody in my life knows how i feel. I love my family and trust them, just not with this MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted December 2, 2021 Share Posted December 2, 2021 Hey there, Ah, it sounds like you're feeling the pressure to be perfect, and I'm wondering, how do you think your sexuality fits in with that perfection? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Earthstar98 Posted December 2, 2021 Author Share Posted December 2, 2021 It's part of who I am so it fits to me. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted December 3, 2021 Share Posted December 3, 2021 20 hours ago, Earthstar98 said: It's part of who I am so it fits to me. Hey there, Exactly, you are who you are, and everyone is perfect. What do you think about that? What does being perfect mean to you? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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