Helpmeineedsupport Posted November 16, 2021 Share Posted November 16, 2021 Tw/ Mention of homophobia The reason why I'm here is because I want some where I can talk to somebody without my homophobic dad finding out. I hope to make new friends who eventually warm up and tell their story like I told mine 2 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted November 16, 2021 Share Posted November 16, 2021 9 hours ago, Helpmeineedsupport said: Tw/ Mention of homophobia The reason why I'm here is because I want some where I can talk to somebody without my homophobic dad finding out. I hope to make new friends who eventually warm up and tell their story like I told mine Hey there, Welcome to our community; I'm one of the digital mentors here which means that I give advice and support to our members who reach out to us. How is everything going for you at the moment? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Helpmeineedsupport Posted December 9, 2021 Author Share Posted December 9, 2021 On 11/16/2021 at 3:38 AM, Monsoon said: Hey there, Welcome to our community; I'm one of the digital mentors here which means that I give advice and support to our members who reach out to us. How is everything going for you at the moment? I'm doing good, besides having to live with my homophobic and transphobic dad every day. Wbu? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted December 10, 2021 Share Posted December 10, 2021 6 hours ago, Helpmeineedsupport said: I'm doing good, besides having to live with my homophobic and transphobic dad every day. Wbu? Hey, Ah, how are you finding that at the moment? What's it like for you? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Helpmeineedsupport Posted December 10, 2021 Author Share Posted December 10, 2021 This post has been flagged with warnings, as follows: Other Click this notice to reveal the content. 1 hour ago, Monsoon said: Hey, Ah, how are you finding that at the moment? What's it like for you? It is quite difficult. Any time he can he talks about how being gay is wrong and that their going to hell and that if your a girl you can't change your gender and stuff. Last night I couldn't sleep so I went to his room and we talked and suddenly my sibling was brought up (16 non-binary) and he said how he thinks that they are trying to be a boy and he kept like saying that it was gross and that he would kick them out. I know something he doesn't know though, they are. They have a binder and have changed their name from a girl name to a boy type name. My dad doesn't know any of this and I hope he never finds out until they move out and are able to do whatever they want MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted December 10, 2021 Share Posted December 10, 2021 Hey there, Ah, that does sound pretty tough. I know that it can be hard to hear that kind of language because I’ve supported others in similar situations to you, and I just want you to know that we are here to talk it through with you at any time. I’m wondering, do you think he will always think like this, or could he potentially change his mind eventually? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Helpmeineedsupport Posted December 13, 2021 Author Share Posted December 13, 2021 On 12/10/2021 at 9:46 AM, Monsoon said: Hey there, Ah, that does sound pretty tough. I know that it can be hard to hear that kind of language because I’ve supported others in similar situations to you, and I just want you to know that we are here to talk it through with you at any time. I’m wondering, do you think he will always think like this, or could he potentially change his mind eventually? Oh no, he will never change his mind. He is a very strict christian and talks about the bible on a daily basis so there is no way he will ever change his mind about the lbgtq+ community MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MimeNegative Posted December 13, 2021 Share Posted December 13, 2021 25 minutes ago, Helpmeineedsupport said: Oh no, he will never change his mind. He is a very strict christian and talks about the bible on a daily basis so there is no way he will ever change his mind about the lbgtq+ community I think that means that you should never tell him about your lgbtq-ness...at least until you move out and never have to talk to him again. I think perhaps avoiding talking about anything that has to do with the lgbtq community is the best option here, because you don't want to start talking about that and let anything slip. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Helpmeineedsupport Posted December 13, 2021 Author Share Posted December 13, 2021 12 hours ago, MimeNegative said: I think that means that you should never tell him about your lgbtq-ness...at least until you move out and never have to talk to him again. I think perhaps avoiding talking about anything that has to do with the lgbtq community is the best option here, because you don't want to start talking about that and let anything slip. You wouldn't believe how many times I have heard that, and how many times it has gotten annoying af to hear. It hurts to hear him talk bad about the lbgtq+ like that MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MimeNegative Posted December 13, 2021 Share Posted December 13, 2021 (edited) 2 minutes ago, Helpmeineedsupport said: You wouldn't believe how many times I have heard that, and how many times it has gotten annoying af to hear. It hurts to hear him talk bad about the lbgtq+ like that Yeah mate, it's best to keep quiet :'( I hate to have what I like talking about being downtrodden, but for now, you'll just have to suck it up...sorry, mate :( Edited December 13, 2021 by MimeNegative Misspelling lol MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted December 13, 2021 Share Posted December 13, 2021 13 hours ago, Helpmeineedsupport said: Oh no, he will never change his mind. He is a very strict christian and talks about the bible on a daily basis so there is no way he will ever change his mind about the lbgtq+ community Hey there, It must be pretty hard to know your truth when keeping in mind how your father views the LGBTQ+ community. I know it may be difficult to consider the possibility that he may change at some point in the future, but I have seen it happen a bunch of times. Parents have so much love for their children; when they have strong views on LGBTQ+ identities and their child then turns out to be a member of the community, it really gets them to a point where they are at a crossroads, but then the journey can be amazing in the sense that the individual then ends up going down a road where they become more open minded and accepting of those they used to judge, so try to keep that in mind if you can, but I get that that might be difficult. I'm wondering, if you did come out to him, do you think it would be safe? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
richthakid Posted December 13, 2021 Share Posted December 13, 2021 People will love you no matter what... chin up buddy! MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Helpmeineedsupport Posted December 14, 2021 Author Share Posted December 14, 2021 6 hours ago, Monsoon said: Hey there, It must be pretty hard to know your truth when keeping in mind how your father views the LGBTQ+ community. I know it may be difficult to consider the possibility that he may change at some point in the future, but I have seen it happen a bunch of times. Parents have so much love for their children; when they have strong views on LGBTQ+ identities and their child then turns out to be a member of the community, it really gets them to a point where they are at a crossroads, but then the journey can be amazing in the sense that the individual then ends up going down a road where they become more open minded and accepting of those they used to judge, so try to keep that in mind if you can, but I get that that might be difficult. I'm wondering, if you did come out to him, do you think it would be safe? No I don't, when he found out my sibling (16 non-binary) was non-binary he threatened to kick them out when they turned 18 so I don't think it will be safe for me to come out 4 hours ago, richthakid said: People will love you no matter what... chin up buddy! Thanks dude MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditch the Label Staff Blondie Posted December 14, 2021 Ditch the Label Staff Share Posted December 14, 2021 19 hours ago, Helpmeineedsupport said: No I don't, when he found out my sibling (16 non-binary) was non-binary he threatened to kick them out when they turned 18 so I don't think it will be safe for me to come out Thanks dude I completely agree with you that we should all be free to be ourselves and celebrate that and especially with those we are the closest to. Sadly, we know that for many this isn't possible until they gain more independence, leave home for work or college etc. The concern would be that your safety and security would be placed in danger. Do you have any family friends or other relatives that you feel might offer support? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Helpmeineedsupport Posted December 15, 2021 Author Share Posted December 15, 2021 9 hours ago, Blondie said: I completely agree with you that we should all be free to be ourselves and celebrate that and especially with those we are the closest to. Sadly, we know that for many this isn't possible until they gain more independence, leave home for work or college etc. The concern would be that your safety and security would be placed in danger. Do you have any family friends or other relatives that you feel might offer support? I told my grandma and she supported me MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted December 15, 2021 Share Posted December 15, 2021 Hey there, That’s amazing! How are you feeling after it? :) MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Helpmeineedsupport Posted December 17, 2021 Author Share Posted December 17, 2021 On 12/15/2021 at 8:31 AM, Monsoon said: Hey there, That’s amazing! How are you feeling after it? :) It feels amazing to know that she supports me and is willing to keep the secret from my dad MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted December 17, 2021 Share Posted December 17, 2021 16 hours ago, Helpmeineedsupport said: It feels amazing to know that she supports me and is willing to keep the secret from my dad Hey there, Yeah, that must be really comforting and reassuring for you. Have you noticed any changed in yourself since you came out to her? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leafiebean Posted January 21, 2022 Share Posted January 21, 2022 On 12/16/2021 at 10:56 PM, Helpmeineedsupport said: It feels amazing to know that she supports me and is willing to keep the secret from my dad yeah my older brother and his finace are the same way MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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