Phantom Posted October 21, 2021 Share Posted October 21, 2021 (edited) Hi, you can just call me Phantom. I’m new here and I don’t really know how this site works, but here goes! I always had a pretty hard time fitting in. I get very nervous during social interactions. I also stim a lot (in case you don’t know what that is, its when someone makes repetitive sounds or movements, sometimes to help manage emotions. What I do is that I flap my hands or move my neck in strange ways, or I might make unusual noises.) This has caused a lot of people to assume that I’m on the autism spectrum (I have not been diagnosed with anything) and it made me feel very self conscious. I always worry that there’s something wrong with me. I started at a new school this year, and I’m super overwhelmed. I’m having an incredibly hard time making friends and it feels like everyone already has a set friend circle. I also feel like everyone thinks I’m weird all the time. That’s some stuff about me. I hope I learn how to work through some of the self-esteem issues i have and maybe meet some nice people Edited October 21, 2021 by Phantom 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lillyx Posted October 21, 2021 Share Posted October 21, 2021 32 minutes ago, Phantom said: Hi, you can just call me Phantom. I’m new here and I don’t really know how this site works, but here goes! I always had a pretty hard time fitting in. I get very nervous during social interactions. I also stim a lot (in case you don’t know what that is, its when someone makes repetitive sounds or movements, sometimes to help manage emotions. What I do is that I flap my hands or move my neck in strange ways, or I might make unusual noises.) This has caused a lot of people to assume that I’m on the autism spectrum (I have not been diagnosed with anything) and it made me feel very self conscious. I always worry that there’s something wrong with me. I started at a new school this year, and I’m super overwhelmed. I’m having an incredibly hard time making friends and it feels like everyone already has a set friend circle. I also feel like everyone thinks I’m weird all the time. That’s some stuff about me. I hope I learn how to work through some of the self-esteem issues i have and maybe meet some nice people hey Phantom, welcome to DTL such a blessing to have you. how is it settling at your new school? Making friends is such a really big thing and starting a new school and feel like that maybe you can't or won't be able to make new friends. My brother has Autism so can agree with you about the feelings your getting, are you seeing someone for it? even if you do get diagnosed with Autism we will still care and think highly of you and your amazing for reaching out, hope to see you around - Lilly 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditch the Label Staff Daisie Posted October 21, 2021 Ditch the Label Staff Share Posted October 21, 2021 Hey Phantom! Welcome to the forums, lovely to meet you. I am Daisie a Community Warden. Hope you find the community warm and welcoming, any questions please just ask. We have mentors on hand Should you need any help and support. Look forward to seeing you around! 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lillyx Posted October 21, 2021 Share Posted October 21, 2021 Just now, Daisie said: Hey Phantom! Welcome to the forums, lovely to meet you. I am Daisie a Community Warden. Hope you find the community warm and welcoming, any questions please just ask. We have mentors on hand Should you need any help and support. Look forward to seeing you around! @Phantom Daisie is the best 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phantom Posted October 21, 2021 Author Share Posted October 21, 2021 1 hour ago, Lillyrose4 said: hey Phantom, welcome to DTL such a blessing to have you. how is it settling at your new school? Making friends is such a really big thing and starting a new school and feel like that maybe you can't or won't be able to make new friends. My brother has Autism so can agree with you about the feelings your getting, are you seeing someone for it? even if you do get diagnosed with Autism we will still care and think highly of you and your amazing for reaching out, hope to see you around - Lilly Hi Lilly! School is fine, but I’m still adjusting. The school is really big and there’s a bunch of people here. I haven’t been tested for autism, and as far as i know it’s a very confusing process. But it’s good to know that I’ll still be accepted even if I do have autism you seem very friendly btw! MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted October 22, 2021 Share Posted October 22, 2021 12 hours ago, Phantom said: Hi, you can just call me Phantom. I’m new here and I don’t really know how this site works, but here goes! I always had a pretty hard time fitting in. I get very nervous during social interactions. I also stim a lot (in case you don’t know what that is, its when someone makes repetitive sounds or movements, sometimes to help manage emotions. What I do is that I flap my hands or move my neck in strange ways, or I might make unusual noises.) This has caused a lot of people to assume that I’m on the autism spectrum (I have not been diagnosed with anything) and it made me feel very self conscious. I always worry that there’s something wrong with me. I started at a new school this year, and I’m super overwhelmed. I’m having an incredibly hard time making friends and it feels like everyone already has a set friend circle. I also feel like everyone thinks I’m weird all the time. That’s some stuff about me. I hope I learn how to work through some of the self-esteem issues i have and maybe meet some nice people Hey @Phantom Welcome to our community. How are you doing? I'm one of the support mentors here which means that I give advice and support to our members for a whole range of issues, including mental health, bullying, relationship, sexuality and gender identity, self esteem, and much more. It does sound like you're struggling at school a bit. I'm wondering, what is it that is making you feel overwhelmed there? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lillyx Posted October 22, 2021 Share Posted October 22, 2021 11 hours ago, Phantom said: Hi Lilly! School is fine, but I’m still adjusting. The school is really big and there’s a bunch of people here. I haven’t been tested for autism, and as far as i know it’s a very confusing process. But it’s good to know that I’ll still be accepted even if I do have autism you seem very friendly btw! aw thanks :), how are you today? hope your okay x 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phantom Posted October 22, 2021 Author Share Posted October 22, 2021 2 hours ago, Monsoon said: Hey @Phantom Welcome to our community. How are you doing? I'm one of the support mentors here which means that I give advice and support to our members for a whole range of issues, including mental health, bullying, relationship, sexuality and gender identity, self esteem, and much more. It does sound like you're struggling at school a bit. I'm wondering, what is it that is making you feel overwhelmed there? Hi there. Some of the things that are overwhelming me at school is that it’s a very unfamiliar environment in general. I miss the friends i had at my old school, and the new school is so big that I worry about getting lost all the time. All in all I just feel like I don’t belong there, and I always feel like everyone’s staring at me. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lillyx Posted October 22, 2021 Share Posted October 22, 2021 1 minute ago, Phantom said: Hi there. Some of the things that are overwhelming me at school is that it’s a very unfamiliar environment in general. I miss the friends i had at my old school, and the new school is so big that I worry about getting lost all the time. All in all I just feel like I don’t belong there, and I always feel like everyone’s staring at me. heyy you ok? 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phantom Posted October 22, 2021 Author Share Posted October 22, 2021 Just now, Lillyrose4 said: heyy you ok? Im fine right now, just a bit nervous. Im a pretty anxious person in general. But thanks for asking. 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lillyx Posted October 22, 2021 Share Posted October 22, 2021 2 minutes ago, Phantom said: Im fine right now, just a bit nervous. Im a pretty anxious person in general. But thanks for asking. aww hugs 2 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted October 23, 2021 Share Posted October 23, 2021 21 hours ago, Phantom said: Hi there. Some of the things that are overwhelming me at school is that it’s a very unfamiliar environment in general. I miss the friends i had at my old school, and the new school is so big that I worry about getting lost all the time. All in all I just feel like I don’t belong there, and I always feel like everyone’s staring at me. Hey there, Yeah, it does sound pretty overwhelming for you at the moment, I'm wondering, is there one thing you could do to help you feel more settled at the school? If so, what is it? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phantom Posted October 23, 2021 Author Share Posted October 23, 2021 2 hours ago, Monsoon said: Hey there, Yeah, it does sound pretty overwhelming for you at the moment, I'm wondering, is there one thing you could do to help you feel more settled at the school? If so, what is it? I really don’t know. My plan was to make at least one friend so I was able to talk to them, but making friends is really hard, and I keep worrying about embarrassing myself. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lillyx Posted October 23, 2021 Share Posted October 23, 2021 3 hours ago, Phantom said: I really don’t know. My plan was to make at least one friend so I was able to talk to them, but making friends is really hard, and I keep worrying about embarrassing myself. u ok MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phantom Posted October 23, 2021 Author Share Posted October 23, 2021 20 minutes ago, Lillyrose4 said: u ok I’m fine, I tried to take some time to get my mind off things and I’m feeling better. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lillyx Posted October 23, 2021 Share Posted October 23, 2021 37 minutes ago, Phantom said: I’m fine, I tried to take some time to get my mind off things and I’m feeling better. gd gd i am so close to fckin do MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted October 24, 2021 Share Posted October 24, 2021 22 hours ago, Phantom said: I really don’t know. My plan was to make at least one friend so I was able to talk to them, but making friends is really hard, and I keep worrying about embarrassing myself. Hey there, Ah, that's interesting. I'm wondering, where does that worry come from? Also, has there been a time when you've embarrassed yourself before and it's been okay? I know it has been for me, and probably plenty of others too. 17 hours ago, Lillyrose4 said: gd gd i am so close to fckin do Hey Lilly, I just want you to know that I've sent you a message to check in and see how you're doing. Speak soon. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phantom Posted October 24, 2021 Author Share Posted October 24, 2021 1 hour ago, Monsoon said: Hey there, Ah, that's interesting. I'm wondering, where does that worry come from? Also, has there been a time when you've embarrassed yourself before and it's been okay? I know it has been for me, and probably plenty of others too. I worry a lot about getting embarrassed because when I get embarrassed, I get SUPER uncomfortable. A lot more than I’m supposed to, I think. It always messes me up during social interactions even at home because I’ll end up super upset over something dumb that I shouldn’t even be hurt by. Because of that, I almost feel like I’m doomed to never make friends. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lillyx Posted October 24, 2021 Share Posted October 24, 2021 8 hours ago, Monsoon said: Hey there, Ah, that's interesting. I'm wondering, where does that worry come from? Also, has there been a time when you've embarrassed yourself before and it's been okay? I know it has been for me, and probably plenty of others too. Hey Lilly, I just want you to know that I've sent you a message to check in and see how you're doing. Speak soon. not doing good MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted October 25, 2021 Share Posted October 25, 2021 On 10/24/2021 at 1:01 PM, Phantom said: I worry a lot about getting embarrassed because when I get embarrassed, I get SUPER uncomfortable. A lot more than I’m supposed to, I think. It always messes me up during social interactions even at home because I’ll end up super upset over something dumb that I shouldn’t even be hurt by. Because of that, I almost feel like I’m doomed to never make friends. Hey there, Ah, I get you; thanks for explaining. I think that being embarrassed can really make us all feel uncomfortable, and I'm wondering, how do you think that embarrassing yourself may impact your ability to make friends? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phantom Posted October 25, 2021 Author Share Posted October 25, 2021 8 hours ago, Monsoon said: Hey there, Ah, I get you; thanks for explaining. I think that being embarrassed can really make us all feel uncomfortable, and I'm wondering, how do you think that embarrassing yourself may impact your ability to make friends? I think that if I embarrass myself, people will think I’m weird and won’t talk to me. I don’t want to make a bad impression. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted October 26, 2021 Share Posted October 26, 2021 Hey there, Thank you for explaining that to me. I wonder, when people have embarrassed themselves in front of you before, how did you think and feel about it? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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