SpiritStone Posted August 25, 2021 Share Posted August 25, 2021 Hi! I hope everyone is having a good day! Im going back to school next week. Last year I had a friend who really didnt act like one. She gossiped about me online, trolls me in games and never have let me talk about myself. She only calls or texts when she needs to use me for something. I dont know if I should stop being friend and how do I do it discreetly. Thank you! Spirit MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2466-toxic-friend/ Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted August 26, 2021 Share Posted August 26, 2021 Hey @SpiritStone Thanks for coming to us for advice on this. It sounds like she really didn't treat you well at all. How are you feeling about that? It can be quite upsetting when a friend is so mean to us. I'm wondering, how would you rather do this? Would you rather speak to her and tell her you don't want to be friends, or do you wanna go down the more discreet route? I can help you with both. Speak soon. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2466-toxic-friend/#findComment-11858 Share on other sites More sharing options...
SpiritStone Posted August 26, 2021 Author Share Posted August 26, 2021 I’m annoyed. I’d like to do it discreetly, Thank you! MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2466-toxic-friend/#findComment-11870 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted August 27, 2021 Share Posted August 27, 2021 Hey @SpiritStone Okay, great. So, I think that to do it discreetly, it can be a good idea to talk to them less, maybe even take a while to respond to their messages, and try to hang around with them less frequently as well. What else do you think could work? Phasing someone out gradually is generally the easiest and most discreet way. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2466-toxic-friend/#findComment-11880 Share on other sites More sharing options...
SpiritStone Posted August 28, 2021 Author Share Posted August 28, 2021 Ok thank you! I will update when I start school MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2466-toxic-friend/#findComment-11887 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted August 28, 2021 Share Posted August 28, 2021 Hey, That's great. Speak soon MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2466-toxic-friend/#findComment-11895 Share on other sites More sharing options...
SpiritStone Posted June 9, 2022 Author Share Posted June 9, 2022 hello! so school just finished and I just found my passcode for ditch the label. I tried to take your advice throughout the year but they still called me manes and excluded me. Today, I told a close freind and a really close teacher. I feel like i’m alone because I am apparently dumb, wierd, stupid and weak. i hope it stops next year. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2466-toxic-friend/#findComment-32681 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditch the Label Staff Blondie Posted June 9, 2022 Ditch the Label Staff Share Posted June 9, 2022 2 hours ago, SpiritStone said: hello! so school just finished and I just found my passcode for ditch the label. I tried to take your advice throughout the year but they still called me manes and excluded me. Today, I told a close freind and a really close teacher. I feel like i’m alone because I am apparently dumb, wierd, stupid and weak. i hope it stops next year. Hi there, I’m sorry to hear this but glad you’ve reached out. Did the teacher sound like they’d be supportive going forward? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2466-toxic-friend/#findComment-32688 Share on other sites More sharing options...
SpiritStone Posted June 11, 2022 Author Share Posted June 11, 2022 yes, she was very supportive. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2466-toxic-friend/#findComment-32792 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditch the Label Staff Blondie Posted June 11, 2022 Ditch the Label Staff Share Posted June 11, 2022 8 hours ago, SpiritStone said: yes, she was very supportive. That’s great as it’s good to know they will be there for you when school is back. It’s completely understandable that our confidence and self-esteem is affected after going through bullying. I want to reassure you that you are none of the negative names that you mentioned and you can move forward from this. Can you tell me one thing that you like about yourself or you think you’re good at? It can literally be anything such as you’re a good listener, you have nice eyes to you’re great at drawing. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2466-toxic-friend/#findComment-32800 Share on other sites More sharing options...
SpiritStone Posted June 11, 2022 Author Share Posted June 11, 2022 I mean I am good at figure skating MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2466-toxic-friend/#findComment-32818 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditch the Label Staff Blondie Posted June 11, 2022 Ditch the Label Staff Share Posted June 11, 2022 52 minutes ago, SpiritStone said: I mean I am good at figure skating Oh that’s amazing! How often do you get to do this? Have you entered competitions? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2466-toxic-friend/#findComment-32821 Share on other sites More sharing options...
SpiritStone Posted June 11, 2022 Author Share Posted June 11, 2022 I practice around 6times a week and I just had a competition last week. I won second place. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2466-toxic-friend/#findComment-32829 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditch the Label Staff Blondie Posted June 11, 2022 Ditch the Label Staff Share Posted June 11, 2022 56 minutes ago, SpiritStone said: I practice around 6times a week and I just had a competition last week. I won second place. That’s so impressive! How long have you been skating? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2466-toxic-friend/#findComment-32830 Share on other sites More sharing options...
SpiritStone Posted June 11, 2022 Author Share Posted June 11, 2022 8 years, since I was 5. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2466-toxic-friend/#findComment-32831 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditch the Label Staff Blondie Posted June 11, 2022 Ditch the Label Staff Share Posted June 11, 2022 3 hours ago, SpiritStone said: 8 years, since I was 5. It must be wonderful to do something that you love and are good at! Is it the kind of sport where you meet lots of friends? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2466-toxic-friend/#findComment-32850 Share on other sites More sharing options...
SpiritStone Posted June 11, 2022 Author Share Posted June 11, 2022 Yes! There are a lot of nice stuff people and they don’t bully me. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2466-toxic-friend/#findComment-32851 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditch the Label Staff Blondie Posted June 11, 2022 Ditch the Label Staff Share Posted June 11, 2022 29 minutes ago, SpiritStone said: Yes! There are a lot of nice stuff people and they don’t bully me. I’m glad to hear that. You deserve to be treated nicely and with respect. Do you get to hang out, outside of skating? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2466-toxic-friend/#findComment-32854 Share on other sites More sharing options...
SpiritStone Posted June 11, 2022 Author Share Posted June 11, 2022 Not really, most of them are 2 to 3 years older than me. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2466-toxic-friend/#findComment-32855 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 12, 2022 Share Posted June 12, 2022 20 hours ago, SpiritStone said: Not really, most of them are 2 to 3 years older than me. Hey there, I'm just wondering, what about the ones who aren't 2-3 years older? What are they like? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2466-toxic-friend/#findComment-32878 Share on other sites More sharing options...
SpiritStone Posted June 12, 2022 Author Share Posted June 12, 2022 Nothing wrong with them, I just don t know them well. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2466-toxic-friend/#findComment-32887 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 12, 2022 Share Posted June 12, 2022 Ahh, okay. Would you consider getting to know them more and seeing how that goes? What could be a positive outcome from that? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2466-toxic-friend/#findComment-32900 Share on other sites More sharing options...
SpiritStone Posted June 12, 2022 Author Share Posted June 12, 2022 Why not. I could have friends that treat me equally and that are nice! MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2466-toxic-friend/#findComment-32902 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 13, 2022 Share Posted June 13, 2022 20 hours ago, SpiritStone said: Why not. I could have friends that treat me equally and that are nice! Hey, Exactly! Maybe you could think about trying to get to know them more then. What do you think? :) MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2466-toxic-friend/#findComment-32940 Share on other sites More sharing options...
SpiritStone Posted June 14, 2022 Author Share Posted June 14, 2022 I like it. Thank you for your help everyone! Have a great summer. 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2466-toxic-friend/#findComment-32976 Share on other sites More sharing options...
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