Lipase Posted August 24, 2021 Share Posted August 24, 2021 Hey everyone! I'm Lipase here and I'm new.. I still don't know exactly how conversations here work but I'm very happy to talk to everybody here and know more about you and me.. I've been questioning my sexuality a lot lately and I'm not sure how to figure it out so here I am... MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted August 24, 2021 Share Posted August 24, 2021 Hey @Lipase Welcome to our community :). I'm one of the digital mentors here and I give advice to our members. How is everything going for you? Would you like to tell us more on how you're feeling about your sexuality? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lipase Posted August 24, 2021 Author Share Posted August 24, 2021 Thanks for replying to my first post! I dont really if I'm gonna be able to express correctly how I feel and think about this.. I've only talked about this with my siblings and best friend. My whole life I've dated only poeple the opposite sex. Even though I grew up in a very conservative country where sexual orientation was never openly discussed, I've always had, deep down, attraction to people the same sex, even before knowing what beeing gay or bisexual is. Although I've never had any dating experience with the same sex, now that I live in Germany where everyone can express their minds and live freely, I can't stop thinking about the idea of me being with another girl, connecting with one or even just going out with one. I've been questioning everything lately. I've always been attracted to girls but it never bothered me not knowing whether it meant something or not. But now its kind of haunting me and I'm hoping to know better about it through you and through the experiences of others here MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted August 25, 2021 Share Posted August 25, 2021 Hey @Lipase Thank you for being so open about how you're feeling. How are you feeling after getting this off your chest? I'm glad to hear that you're now in a more accepting environment which I imagine must be a relief for you When you say it's haunting you, could you tell me a little bit more about this, please? I think it could be good for you to maybe explore being with another girl as this will probably be the best way to learn. What do you think? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lipase Posted August 25, 2021 Author Share Posted August 25, 2021 Haunting in the sense that everyday I think about it and question it. I think how relieved I would be the moment all that I think I like and I want turns out to be true and not just in my head. Feeling that I like girls and I'm attracted to them and it being translated into actually meeting someone that I like in real life. Its like I'm ready for the next step. I'm just super hesitant. Because first of all I'm not used to the idea of approaching someone, I dont know how and where. I know maybe you're gonna tell me on dating apps but I directly think how am I gonna describe myself on those apps? to get in contact with girls not guys. I can't in my Bio declare something I'm still questioning. I don't want to hurt anyone. Because I know how easy it is to hurt the other person if they're sure of who they are but they're going out with someone who's "exploring" and who's "still figuring it out" with them. I'm ready but it's a huge pressure and I feel that I'm lost not knowing how to go forward from here MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted August 27, 2021 Share Posted August 27, 2021 On 8/25/2021 at 5:37 PM, Lipase said: Haunting in the sense that everyday I think about it and question it. I think how relieved I would be the moment all that I think I like and I want turns out to be true and not just in my head. Feeling that I like girls and I'm attracted to them and it being translated into actually meeting someone that I like in real life. Its like I'm ready for the next step. I'm just super hesitant. Because first of all I'm not used to the idea of approaching someone, I dont know how and where. I know maybe you're gonna tell me on dating apps but I directly think how am I gonna describe myself on those apps? to get in contact with girls not guys. I can't in my Bio declare something I'm still questioning. I don't want to hurt anyone. Because I know how easy it is to hurt the other person if they're sure of who they are but they're going out with someone who's "exploring" and who's "still figuring it out" with them. I'm ready but it's a huge pressure and I feel that I'm lost not knowing how to go forward from here Hey @Lipase Yeah, I totally get what you mean when you say that it's haunting. I know that it might not seem like it now, but it wont't always be so hard with your sexuality. It just takes time to work through this kind of thing, and I know that that's the worst thing to hear when you just want to be done with it, but trust me, it won't be like this forever. So, with the dating apps, I get why you're hesitant. I guess you could just put your setting as wanting to connect with women and then being upfront about your situation with them. Honesty is the best policy here and as long as you're upfront from the beginning, then that's all you can do. What do you reckon? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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