Braxton Posted July 7, 2021 Share Posted July 7, 2021 Hey everyone, I’m having a pretty rough day right now. I came out to my parents as non binary and they were accepting of me. However, I stopped by later in the day in my new clothes. Just some shortalls and a shirt and they were petrified and disgusted. I was told that I would be beat up and yelled at and offered me no support and wanted me to leave because I wasn’t their “son” anymore. Does anyone have any advice for me? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted July 7, 2021 Share Posted July 7, 2021 2 hours ago, Braxton said: Hey everyone, I’m having a pretty rough day right now. I came out to my parents as non binary and they were accepting of me. However, I stopped by later in the day in my new clothes. Just some shortalls and a shirt and they were petrified and disgusted. I was told that I would be beat up and yelled at and offered me no support and wanted me to leave because I wasn’t their “son” anymore. Does anyone have any advice for me? Hello @Braxton Welcome to our community. I'm one of the digital mentors here and I give advice and support to those who reach out to us. I am sorry to hear that you are having a rough day because of what happened. I can imagine that it must have been really hard for you to experience this kind of reaction from them. It sounds like they might have been caught off guard by it, especially as they were accepting when you told them, so maybe it might be good to prepare them next time if you can. Before I give you more support, can I check, are you safe at home right now? I'm concerned from what you said about them threatening to hit you. If you feel like you are in danger, remember that you can call the police. I hope to hear back from you soon, Braxton. We are here for you - you are not alone. You will get through this. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Braxton Posted July 7, 2021 Author Share Posted July 7, 2021 I am safe I live on my own and I only went to visit them. I don’t know how to prepare them though? Do I tell them I’m on my way and what I’m wearing!? It doesn’t feel right MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zayn Posted July 8, 2021 Share Posted July 8, 2021 Firstly congratulations on coming out. What you did today was not easy and must have taken so much courage so well done to you. Secondly that sounds like an awful response and I'm sorry that happened to you. I always think to myself that other peoples reactions and opinions aren't your responsibility and it might just take them time and maybe they need to learn more about what it means to be non binary? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted July 8, 2021 Share Posted July 8, 2021 18 hours ago, Braxton said: I am safe I live on my own and I only went to visit them. I don’t know how to prepare them though? Do I tell them I’m on my way and what I’m wearing!? It doesn’t feel right Hey Brazton, I am glad to hear that you are safe. I can completely get why it doesn't feel right, but I think that they will get used to your new way of dressing pretty quickly. You don't have to let them know next time that you're coming over, but i'm just thinking that it might be better so that they are prepared to see you dressing in a way that suits your identity more. What do you think? It's all completely up to you. However, it might be that they respond better next time as they will have already seen you dressed like this. Also, can I just check in and see how you're feeling today? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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