Fantasy Posted June 22, 2021 Share Posted June 22, 2021 Hi, my name is Jeremiah and I'm a bi-curious male from South Africa. I have had been curious for about a year now, but I haven't made much progress. This is mostly due to my fear. My goal is to, through this community, find the confidence to continue on my journey. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2151-still-figuring-it-out/ Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 22, 2021 Share Posted June 22, 2021 Hello Jeremiah Welcome to our community. I'm one of the digital mentors and I give advice and support to those who reach out to us Thank you for opening up to us about your sexuality. It's interesting that you say you haven't made much progress due to fear. Can I ask, what are you fearful of? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2151-still-figuring-it-out/#findComment-9779 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fantasy Posted June 25, 2021 Author Share Posted June 25, 2021 I have homophobic parents, so I fear my parents' reaction to my journey. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2151-still-figuring-it-out/#findComment-9931 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 26, 2021 Share Posted June 26, 2021 Hello Jeremiah, Thank you for sharing this with me. If you came out to them, do you think it could put you in danger, like being harmed or kicked out? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2151-still-figuring-it-out/#findComment-9939 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fantasy Posted June 27, 2021 Author Share Posted June 27, 2021 With my father, I definitely consider either of those a possibility. With my mother, I'm actually most scared, because I don't know what she'll do. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2151-still-figuring-it-out/#findComment-9956 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 27, 2021 Share Posted June 27, 2021 Hello, Thank you for sharing that with me. I think that for as long as there are concerns about your safety if you do come out, then its best to wait until you're in a better position, like living away from home/being able to support yourself. What do you think? Can I ask, how old are you? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2151-still-figuring-it-out/#findComment-9965 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fantasy Posted June 28, 2021 Author Share Posted June 28, 2021 Hey, thanks for everything so far. And yes, it's okay to ask for my age . I turn 18 tomorrow (or June 29th, depending on what side of the world you are). MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2151-still-figuring-it-out/#findComment-9984 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 28, 2021 Share Posted June 28, 2021 Hey, Happy Birthday! How are you celebrating? With coming out then, what do you think you will do? Our main priority is that you stay safe, and if coming out could put you in danger, we would suggest that you wait until you're in a better position. We can help you through this and give you more advice on it if you like. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2151-still-figuring-it-out/#findComment-10001 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fantasy Posted June 28, 2021 Author Share Posted June 28, 2021 Thanks. South Africa's currently under a heavy lockdown right now, so it's just going to be a very chilled day. As for coming out, I'd like to take it slowly. First, I wanna give individual confessions to the people I'm really close with and when I'm ready, I'll eventually come out to my parents. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2151-still-figuring-it-out/#findComment-10009 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 29, 2021 Share Posted June 29, 2021 Hey Jeremiah, Sorry to hear that South Africa is currently under a heavy lockdown; I hope it lifts for you soon. I think that with coming out, it's definitely a good idea to take it slowly; there really is no rush. For the people that you're close with and want to tell, how do you think they will react? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2151-still-figuring-it-out/#findComment-10101 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fantasy Posted June 30, 2021 Author Share Posted June 30, 2021 I have already told one person about my journey and she has openly accepted it and said that she'll be accepting of me no matter what I identify as. I expect the few others I trust to react similarly . MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2151-still-figuring-it-out/#findComment-10117 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 30, 2021 Share Posted June 30, 2021 Hey, I'm glad to hear that she reacted so well and it's great that you trust the others react similarly :). How are you feeling today? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2151-still-figuring-it-out/#findComment-10133 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fantasy Posted July 1, 2021 Author Share Posted July 1, 2021 I'm feeling good today, thanks MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2151-still-figuring-it-out/#findComment-10148 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted July 1, 2021 Share Posted July 1, 2021 That's good to hear :). If you'd like more support, just let us know. We are here for you if you need us. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2151-still-figuring-it-out/#findComment-10179 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fantasy Posted July 2, 2021 Author Share Posted July 2, 2021 Thanks so much 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/2151-still-figuring-it-out/#findComment-10216 Share on other sites More sharing options...
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