LostGirl Posted June 16, 2021 Share Posted June 16, 2021 hi everyone! i am LostGirl as you can tell, and i am new to this community. i really like the concept of this because without knowing each other's true identity, we can fully be ourselves without worrying about constantly getting judged. i myself am insecure about many things one of which are my eyes. they are big and since i was young i have gotten made fun of because of them. people called me bug eyes and would tell me i looked weird or even worse i could see two girls whispering and pointing at me. this i believe is the reason i am still single, i have never had a boyfriend and my self confidence is super low but i am too scared and shy to even open up about this to my friends hence how i ended up on here. 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yas Posted June 16, 2021 Share Posted June 16, 2021 This post was recognized by Monsoon! Yas was awarded 13 points. Hello!!! Im Yas, I’m new here too because I was looking for a place for comfort due to my family. I got bullied a lot back when I was younger because of my voice, I couldn’t control it and it was very high pitched in comparison to now. I was called squeaky mouse. It hurts me a lot and because of that I lack self confidence too! I think the first step is to open up with friends you trust or a loved one. I did that and I feel a bit more better, I also joined many extra curricular clubs in the hopes I improve. I had to get out of my comfort zone, it’s going to be a long time before I become confident but small steps. Take your time and slowly get out of your comfort zone. 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crazygirl Posted June 16, 2021 Share Posted June 16, 2021 I too struggle with low self-esteem ever since everyone at my CATHOLIC SCHOOL found out I was bisexual. People started to be mean like homophobic kids do. One day we made bow and arrows and everyone started shooting me. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jake Posted June 16, 2021 Share Posted June 16, 2021 Hey Lostgirl!! nice to meet you. you're so right about feeling anonymous and free here, i've been coming to DTL for a few years on and off and it's helped me so much 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 16, 2021 Share Posted June 16, 2021 On 6/16/2021 at 5:58 AM, LostGirl said: hi everyone! i am LostGirl as you can tell, and i am new to this community. i really like the concept of this because without knowing each other's true identity, we can fully be ourselves without worrying about constantly getting judged. i myself am insecure about many things one of which are my eyes. they are big and since i was young i have gotten made fun of because of them. people called me bug eyes and would tell me i looked weird or even worse i could see two girls whispering and pointing at me. this i believe is the reason i am still single, i have never had a boyfriend and my self confidence is super low but i am too scared and shy to even open up about this to my friends hence how i ended up on here. Hey @LostGirl Welcome to our community. I'm one of the digital mentors here and I give support to those who reach out to us. I just want to say thank you for opening up to us about how things are for you at the moment. It's really positive that you've opened up to us, because by opening up to others, you also open up your mind to being supported which then leads to things getting better Can I ask, how long have you been feeling like this for? Also, I'm wondering, have you tried anything so far to boost your self-esteem/confidence? If so, would you mind sharing this with us? You might find these support guides helpful too: https://www.ditchthelabel.org/overcoming-low-self-esteem/ and https://www.ditchthelabel.org/the-power-of-self-confidence/ - let me know what you think. Speak soon. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 16, 2021 Share Posted June 16, 2021 On 6/16/2021 at 1:40 PM, Yas said: Hello!!! Im Yas, I’m new here too because I was looking for a place for comfort due to my family. I got bullied a lot back when I was younger because of my voice, I couldn’t control it and it was very high pitched in comparison to now. I was called squeaky mouse. It hurts me a lot and because of that I lack self confidence too! I think the first step is to open up with friends you trust or a loved one. I did that and I feel a bit more better, I also joined many extra curricular clubs in the hopes I improve. I had to get out of my comfort zone, it’s going to be a long time before I become confident but small steps. Take your time and slowly get out of your comfort zone. Hey @Yas This advice is great - thank you for sharing. If you'd like to speak with us about what's going on with your family, we are here for you. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 16, 2021 Share Posted June 16, 2021 On 6/16/2021 at 3:06 PM, Crazygirl said: I too struggle with low self-esteem ever since everyone at my CATHOLIC SCHOOL found out I was bisexual. People started to be mean like homophobic kids do. One day we made bow and arrows and everyone started shooting me. Hey @Crazygirl I'm sorry to hear that they have been mean to you. How are you feeling about all of this? We are here for you if you'd like to talk this through with us. Can I ask, have you told anyone at school about this? They will be able to do something about it. Stay strong. We are here for you. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crazygirl Posted June 16, 2021 Share Posted June 16, 2021 Thanks and no but again I go to Catholic school ad they will probably just send me to confession and make me say a bunch of prayers. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 17, 2021 Share Posted June 17, 2021 On 6/16/2021 at 9:15 PM, Crazygirl said: Thanks and no but again I go to Catholic school ad they will probably just send me to confession and make me say a bunch of prayers. Hey @Crazygirl Do you think that if you do tell them, you could just describe what they've done rather than why they're bullying you? Also, when you say they would put you in confession and make you say prayers, is this what they would do if they found out about your sexuality? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crazygirl Posted June 17, 2021 Share Posted June 17, 2021 Ok and yeah that's probably what would happen. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted June 17, 2021 Share Posted June 17, 2021 Hey, Ah, okay, I get why you don't want to say something to them. Could you tell them about the bullying without saying it's because of your sexuality? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crazygirl Posted June 17, 2021 Share Posted June 17, 2021 I tried that the teacher just said that the school year ends Friday and if it happens next year to tell them MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Koala girl Posted June 17, 2021 Share Posted June 17, 2021 On 6/16/2021 at 5:58 AM, LostGirl said: hi everyone! i am LostGirl as you can tell, and i am new to this community. i really like the concept of this because without knowing each other's true identity, we can fully be ourselves without worrying about constantly getting judged. i myself am insecure about many things one of which are my eyes. they are big and since i was young i have gotten made fun of because of them. people called me bug eyes and would tell me i looked weird or even worse i could see two girls whispering and pointing at me. this i believe is the reason i am still single, i have never had a boyfriend and my self confidence is super low but i am too scared and shy to even open up about this to my friends hence how i ended up on here. Hi lost girl. I’m new here too and only joined a few minutes ago. I can get self conscious about my looks too. I am looking for friends and support too and hope you find Ditch the label help ful. 1 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditch the Label Staff Blondie Posted June 18, 2021 Ditch the Label Staff Share Posted June 18, 2021 14 hours ago, Crazygirl said: I tried that the teacher just said that the school year ends Friday and if it happens next year to tell them That doesn't seem very useful. How do you feel about waiting? Would you rather address it before school breaks up? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crazygirl Posted June 18, 2021 Share Posted June 18, 2021 Today is the last day of school so I'll have all summer to build up my self-esteem and if they continue when the school year starts again then I'll talk to the teacher again. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditch the Label Staff Blondie Posted June 18, 2021 Ditch the Label Staff Share Posted June 18, 2021 3 minutes ago, Crazygirl said: Today is the last day of school so I'll have all summer to build up my self-esteem and if they continue when the school year starts again then I'll talk to the teacher again. Okay! We've got your back! MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crazygirl Posted June 18, 2021 Share Posted June 18, 2021 Thanks 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LostGirl Posted July 10, 2021 Author Share Posted July 10, 2021 thanks you guys for being so supportive! i feel really good knowing that all of us can be here for each other with no filter or judgement 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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