LoganDunbar Posted April 5, 2021 Share Posted April 5, 2021 Hi, my names Logan, i'm 15 soon to be 16. I found out about a year ago, that i'm gay! Kinda bad tbh, my parents are homophobic so I can't come out, my sister was forced too and my parents were MAD. So i've been super scared, but I like to talk to people so, if you ever wanna talk i'm here MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/1888-hello-nice-to-meet-you/ Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted April 5, 2021 Share Posted April 5, 2021 Hey @LoganDunbar Welcome to our support community! My name is Monsoon and I'm one of the digital mentors here, and it's my job to give advice to those who reach out to us. Thanks for telling me about your situation. I'm sorry to hear that your parents are homophobic. How is it now with your sister? I hope it got better for her. I'm asking this just to find out what it was like when she came out and what else happened after it as this will help me to think about your situation. Hope to hear back from you soon. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/1888-hello-nice-to-meet-you/#findComment-8289 Share on other sites More sharing options...
LoganDunbar Posted April 6, 2021 Author Share Posted April 6, 2021 Nice to meet you sir. Well tbh idk if I should say, but basically, my parents got mad when she came out and they then kept on her about it. But she basically told them she changed her mind, but she didn't it was just to make them happy MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/1888-hello-nice-to-meet-you/#findComment-8293 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted April 7, 2021 Share Posted April 7, 2021 Hey @LoganDunbar Nice to meet you too! Feel free to call me Monsoon I'm sorry to hear that your sister told them she changed her mind just to make them happy; that must be hard for her. How is she doing? Sadly, some parents can react badly when their child comes out. This can be really difficult to deal with and it can make some people go back into the closet to make things better. However, it's important to stick to your word and prove to them that you are being serious and that you won't change. We find that most of the time, these parents eventually come round to the idea. This can take a while, so you have to be really patient with it which can be really annoying, but just know that it does get better for most people. There's an article about this here: https://www.ditchthelabel.org/my-parents-didnt-react-well-to-me-coming-out/. What do you think? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/1888-hello-nice-to-meet-you/#findComment-8295 Share on other sites More sharing options...
LoganDunbar Posted April 7, 2021 Author Share Posted April 7, 2021 Yea, it's pretty hard, she is doin okay i guess. Just not being herself yet, same with me. Just wish we could tell them and they'd be okay with it. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/1888-hello-nice-to-meet-you/#findComment-8296 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted April 9, 2021 Share Posted April 9, 2021 Hey again @LoganDunbar I’m sorry to hear that it’s hard now - I can imagine that this is quite stressful for you. It’s good to speak out about it though, and remember, we are always here for you. How are you feeling about it all? I’m wondering, how long was it between your sister coming out and then her telling your parents that she changed her mind? It can take parents who have a bad reaction a long time to come around to the idea, and it’s so hard trying to stick that out, but most do come round, and it’s a case of putting up with it and waiting for that time which can be difficult. What do you think? Take care, Logan. You will get through this, and we are here every step of the way. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/1888-hello-nice-to-meet-you/#findComment-8301 Share on other sites More sharing options...
LoganDunbar Posted April 12, 2021 Author Share Posted April 12, 2021 My sister told them about 2 months after she told them originally. And yea it is stressful, but we try MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/1888-hello-nice-to-meet-you/#findComment-8304 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted April 13, 2021 Share Posted April 13, 2021 Hey @LoganDunbar Yeah, it is stressful. It’s good that you are speaking to people about it though. As I said, it can take a while for some parents to come around, so it might be a case of riding it out for a long time. Do you think you’ll come out to anyone soon? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/1888-hello-nice-to-meet-you/#findComment-8312 Share on other sites More sharing options...
LoganDunbar Posted April 19, 2021 Author Share Posted April 19, 2021 I've came out to a few friends, but I won't fully come out till im 18 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/1888-hello-nice-to-meet-you/#findComment-8334 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted April 19, 2021 Share Posted April 19, 2021 Hey @LoganDunbar How was it when you came out to a few friends? Hope it went well! MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/1888-hello-nice-to-meet-you/#findComment-8340 Share on other sites More sharing options...
LoganDunbar Posted April 20, 2021 Author Share Posted April 20, 2021 well, a few were supportive, the rest hated it MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/1888-hello-nice-to-meet-you/#findComment-8344 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted April 20, 2021 Share Posted April 20, 2021 Hey I'm glad to hear that some were supportive, but that the rest hated it. How are you feeling about this? I hope you're doing as well as you can be. We are here for you if you need to talk to us. MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/1888-hello-nice-to-meet-you/#findComment-8349 Share on other sites More sharing options...
LoganDunbar Posted April 21, 2021 Author Share Posted April 21, 2021 I am just trying to understand that there are a lot of people who just don't like it. But there is also people who will accept me. I just hope I can find a good suport system. Thank you sir MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/1888-hello-nice-to-meet-you/#findComment-8353 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted April 21, 2021 Share Posted April 21, 2021 Hey@LoganDunbar I hear you and can totally see why you'd find it pretty hard. What do you think it would take for your parents to accept it? Do you think they could change the way they look at it? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/1888-hello-nice-to-meet-you/#findComment-8357 Share on other sites More sharing options...
LoganDunbar Posted April 26, 2021 Author Share Posted April 26, 2021 Tbh, I know they won't except it. They won't change their thinking, they don't MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/1888-hello-nice-to-meet-you/#findComment-8365 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monsoon Posted April 26, 2021 Share Posted April 26, 2021 Hey @LoganDunbar I get why you would think that, and I think it's important for me to tell you about my experiences of helping people in your situation. I have supported others whose parents were similar. They also used to think that their parents wouldn't change the way they thought about it, but after some time, they eventually came round to the idea. I think it's important to still have hope, if you can find it, that they will change their thinking. What do you think? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/1888-hello-nice-to-meet-you/#findComment-8369 Share on other sites More sharing options...
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