June_Bug Posted October 17 Share Posted October 17 Ok, so I never really wondered before about my gender bc I grew up w the belief I am as I was born. Recently a friend came out to me as trans and that got me thinking. I'm suddenly remembering my childhood where I could never imagine being a mother, and always saw myself as a father (I'm afb). I also remember occasionally being so disconnected from myself that I didn't always recognize my face in the mirror. And I remember connecting deeply with the Mulan song Who I am Inside ("who is that girl I see, staring straight back at me? Why is my reflection someone I don't know"). And in middle school I wanted my stage name (as a singer songwriter) to be S!R bc I like having masculine pro nouns attached to me. And through out my life I've always kind of wished that someone would misgender me and call me Mr. But like.. not all the time. I can also connect with my feminine side and be a girls girl. And there are other times (a lot of the time) where I don't really feel like either. I'm thinking I might be fluid... 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/7884-am-i-genderfluid/ Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheToaster765 Posted October 17 Share Posted October 17 Well nobody can really tell you what you are, except for yourself. But I can say that most cisgender people don't feel this way, and that genderfluid people do. What does that mean? I can't tell you. But I think you can see what I'm getting at 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/7884-am-i-genderfluid/#findComment-117843 Share on other sites More sharing options...
AshtonBeach Posted October 18 Share Posted October 18 15 hours ago, June_Bug said: Ok, so I never really wondered before about my gender bc I grew up w the belief I am as I was born. Recently a friend came out to me as trans and that got me thinking. I'm suddenly remembering my childhood where I could never imagine being a mother, and always saw myself as a father (I'm afb). I also remember occasionally being so disconnected from myself that I didn't always recognize my face in the mirror. And I remember connecting deeply with the Mulan song Who I am Inside ("who is that girl I see, staring straight back at me? Why is my reflection someone I don't know"). And in middle school I wanted my stage name (as a singer songwriter) to be S!R bc I like having masculine pro nouns attached to me. And through out my life I've always kind of wished that someone would misgender me and call me Mr. But like.. not all the time. I can also connect with my feminine side and be a girls girl. And there are other times (a lot of the time) where I don't really feel like either. I'm thinking I might be fluid... Hey @June_Bug Nice to meet you Im Ash Im gender-fluid. So I do agree with @TheToaster765 Most Cis People don't every really contemplate on this kind of stuff but I also think that some do. I have a friend that came out as trans last year then decided that she really doesn't thinks shes trans now all I'm saying is you could still be cis. Although I do think it would help to talk to people who know they are gender fluid and compare stories and ideas. While reading this I felt like our stories coming to that was kinda similar when I say mulan was a gender-fluid awakening. Like Im Being perfectly honest from what you've told us you kinda seem like you could be but you never know!! I'm here if you need anything. 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/7884-am-i-genderfluid/#findComment-117856 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hazard Posted October 18 Share Posted October 18 18 hours ago, June_Bug said: Ok, so I never really wondered before about my gender bc I grew up w the belief I am as I was born. Recently a friend came out to me as trans and that got me thinking. I'm suddenly remembering my childhood where I could never imagine being a mother, and always saw myself as a father (I'm afb). I also remember occasionally being so disconnected from myself that I didn't always recognize my face in the mirror. And I remember connecting deeply with the Mulan song Who I am Inside ("who is that girl I see, staring straight back at me? Why is my reflection someone I don't know"). And in middle school I wanted my stage name (as a singer songwriter) to be S!R bc I like having masculine pro nouns attached to me. And through out my life I've always kind of wished that someone would misgender me and call me Mr. But like.. not all the time. I can also connect with my feminine side and be a girls girl. And there are other times (a lot of the time) where I don't really feel like either. I'm thinking I might be fluid... That sounds like genderfluidity to me. If you feel like much of the time you relate more to masculine pronouns, it's safe to say that you aren't completely a girl. It could be worth it to start a gender log and see how that goes - Make a little calendar of boxes for the next month and pick four colors for male, female, 'something else', and none. Make sure you can blend the colors for more accuracy. On days where you feel completely comfortable as a girl, mark the female color, on days where you'd rather be referred to as a guy, mark the male color, on days where you feel like you're neither, mark something else, and on days where you feel generally out of touch with gender, mark none. See if that indicates changes or anything like that 1 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/7884-am-i-genderfluid/#findComment-117861 Share on other sites More sharing options...
June_Bug Posted October 18 Author Share Posted October 18 Thank you guys. It's helpful to get more opinions on it and the Callender is a really good idea which I will definitely use to help me better understand myself. 2 MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/7884-am-i-genderfluid/#findComment-117874 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Digital Mentor Luie Posted October 26 Digital Mentor Share Posted October 26 Heyy @June_Bug, Luie here, one of the support mentors with DTL. I am so glad to hear that the recommendations from other members has been useful. It sounds great to me how you all support one another. Just in case you'd like to speak about this more 1-1 with any of the mentors do feel free to send us a confidential support request or just tag us @ Digital Mentor and we will respond as soon as we're online. Hope you have a lovely weekend MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/7884-am-i-genderfluid/#findComment-118559 Share on other sites More sharing options...
AshtonBeach Posted October 28 Share Posted October 28 Hey how are you doing dude? MultiQuote Quote Link to comment https://forums.ditchthelabel.org/topic/7884-am-i-genderfluid/#findComment-118678 Share on other sites More sharing options...
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